and they don't realize how much it hurts you emotionally. It's hard to comprehend that kind of distress being a fantasy
Sending you love, support and hugs.
I have met women who have been the victim of *******, not role-play *******, or play *******. But have been ****** to have sex against their will.
From a psychological perspective, ******* a woman robs her of her peace of mind.
Its the most disgusting thing I can think of that a man could do to a woman. And any man that crosses that line is a real ******* head in my book. I do not have any compassion for a guy like that at all.
Its important for guys to recognize a huge difference between play-******* and *******.
I have written about this, but maybe it bears repeating. So one of my good friends is a Mistress in DC at a dungeon. She is also a licensed psychologist. We talk all the time about how to train people in Kink, BDSM and also relationship dynamics. But we also discuss something called -- consent and negotiation.
For those that are not familiar, negotiation should be done by everyone who wants to have sex. You should know what is in store before you have sex with a partner. The "I dont want to know what you are going to do" only works once you have established 100% trust and respect for each other.
So gentleman, if you start speaking to a woman that is telling you, I dont want a safe word, I dont want to know what you are going to do, I want you to, in essence "*******" me. You have to calm down your overactive libido and walk away. Why would you even want to be in that scene with her? If she a victim of ******* and she is trying to reconcile what happened to her, then you need to know that before you have sex with her. Wouldn't you want to know?
There is way too much anonymous sex going on and its not good for women's mental health. I could try and argue its not good for men's mental health either, but men are not intelligent beings once they have a raging hard-on. Making good decisions does not happen once a man's testosterone is engaged.
I have successfully set up play-******* scenes for women --that were able to have all the "emotional" feelings they wanted, without robbing her of her control or dignity. Just be careful folks. This is a serious issue in our society, and until women stop being raped in America, we cannot call ourselves a civilized society. The two ideas cannot co-mingle.
