Do you prefer masturbating over sex?

I think there is another aspect that should be looked at and that's the physical ability to have intercourse thus leaving masturbation as the only avenue to satisfaction. I know this from personal experience as my husband had surgery that left him impotent. The only sexual release he can get is from masturbating with no visible results other then what he describes as an nerve orgasm which he has to settle for now that he can no longer get an erection or ejaculate. It's only natural that I feel sorry for him and I love him for understanding that I have needs that he can't fulfill.
 
I would say i prefer sex over masturbating but there are also times when I rather masturbate to my favorite IR porn then having sex. I'm currently single and not interested in a new relationship at the moment. Haven't had sex for a while now but I doesn't bother me at all. I simply enjoy masturbating and watching IR porn much more right now.
 
I think there is another aspect that should be looked at and that's the physical ability to have intercourse thus leaving masturbation as the only avenue to satisfaction. I know this from personal experience as my husband had surgery that left him impotent. The only sexual release he can get is from masturbating with no visible results other then what he describes as an nerve orgasm which he has to settle for now that he can no longer get an erection or ejaculate. It's only natural that I feel sorry for him and I love him for understanding that I have needs that he can't fulfill.
Can I ask, as i've spoken to quite a few impotent men on here in the same situation as your hubby, who still manage to masturbate their flaccid cock to a 'dry' orgasm. Do these manage to 'scratch his itch' best they can, and how often does he now masturbate?.. as this is his only method for 'release' has he found he does more often through need or to compensate being unable to penetrate you and find happiness in his only other method.
 
Can I ask, as i've spoken to quite a few impotent men on here in the same situation as your hubby, who still manage to masturbate their flaccid cock to a 'dry' orgasm. Do these manage to 'scratch his itch' best they can, and how often does he now masturbate?.. as this is his only method for 'release' has he found he does more often through need or to compensate being unable to penetrate you and find happiness in his only other method.
His anger and frustration has diminished as I think he's learned to live with it but he still remembers what it was like to fuck and ejaculate and it seems to be a hole he can never fill. "Scratching his itch" as you put it is the only way he can achieve any type of physical sexual pleasure. We kiss, we cuddle but he and I will never have intercourse again.
 
His anger and frustration has diminished as I think he's learned to live with it but he still remembers what it was like to fuck and ejaculate and it seems to be a hole he can never fill. "Scratching his itch" as you put it is the only way he can achieve any type of physical sexual pleasure. We kiss, we cuddle but he and I will never have intercourse again.
Totally understand, like the aging process itself, you have to keep on adjusting and find the new normal. The gents I have spoken to, so still have great orgasms, but they need to re learn a new masturbation technique to accommodate the lack of erection and ejaculation. I do personally know one gent who still manages good erections, and his orgasms he says are as good as they were before his prostate was removed, just the lack of a proper ejaculation with semen, he said he does miss that symbolic element of his sexuality that his sperm provided him, being able to 'mark his territory' like most males enjoy doing. But in the end, being here at all and enjoying an adjusted sex life/ orgasms is better than not being here at all.
 
So because she has better sex with her toy and I like to watch her have her best sex, that just means alot of masturbation and porn for me. Also, I'd rather suck a BBC than try to get another woman's pussy.

What a powerful statement.....I think you’ve nailed why this dynamic works

Women RECEIVE the best sex in this lifestyle (they are hooked and their desire increases for sex but not necessarily for average sex but for great sex).

In the book, A Billion Wicked Thoughts, men desire the visuals of sexual body parts, the masculine way those body parts can be pleasured, and the look of extreme enjoyment that comes from those body parts interacting - hence the lifestyle you guys participate in and the popularity of porn for all men, no matter your belief system.

The combination of all these desires creates so much more desire that it leads to greater quality and quantity of orgasm.

Now if sex was only about the achievement of large size Orgasms - it seems like this lifestyle would be the way it goes but sex is also about increasing deep passion, intimacy, connection for the one you have sex with....this can lead to serious issues within the primary relationship.
 
Well if you would rather suck a man's dick, maybe you need to go to the gay and bi section where you will find what you want.

Sys, you know what’s funny.....In the book, “A Billion Wicked Thoughts”, one of the top searched items in the Internet by men (more than vagina/pussy) is Dick/penis and large dick/penis. The conclusion they made is men get sexual desire from the look of masculinity.

If you orgasm enough from it - you soon begin to desire more of it..

Its supposed to work that way for pussy but we desire what we orgasm to.
 
Sys, you know what’s funny.....In the book, “A Billion Wicked Thoughts”, one of the top searched items in the Internet by men (more than vagina/pussy) is Dick/penis and large dick/penis. The conclusion they made is men get sexual desire from the look of masculinity.

If you orgasm enough from it - you soon begin to desire more of it..

Its supposed to work that way for pussy but we desire what we orgasm to.
I don’t want to hear about gay stuff in a section that’s for heterosexuals.

He went out of his way to say that and hope to hijack the thread.
 
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