Cuckolding vs Hotwifing, it's all a matter of a simple question.

[funcuple71]

Potatoe potahto
Who cares what its called so long as everyones having fun eh

EXACTLYLOL. I totally agree. Who needs labels anyway, right? Labels are for food. lol

 

[CuckCouplePDX]

Potatoe potahto
Who cares what its called so long as everyones having fun eh

Well, if everyone actually is having fun, it might not matter- but it certainly matters if a couple is meeting other partners for sex and different participants have different expectations about what's about to go down.

Like if it's a hotwife couple meeting someone new and that guy starts trying to dominate and humiliate the husband that would probably lead to awkwardness at the very least, especially if the new guy is specifically/especially turned on by that kind of play (in which case he's likely to walk away dissatisfied).

It's not just a name; I think there are distinctly different dynamics between cuckolding and hotwifing, although it looks like my own definitions vary a little from some folks here.

The way Alex and I look at it, we're strictly cuckold because she is the dominant partner, she humiliates me privately and publicly, she compares my dick to the much bigger dicks of her partners, and she has a long-term feminization project going on where she's slowly making me her sissy slut. I don't think you're gonna meet a lot of "hotwife" couples who do that stuff.

I think where we differ from some other folks here is that even though Alex is the dominant partner, we both have an equal say in terms of whom we meet and what our boundaries are. If either of us is uncomfortable with someone or something going on, we raise the flag and fix it. Our wife sharing play is for both of us, and if one of us isn't having fun, then we don't see the point.

 

[SirBAO]

This is an interesting question.

I too have found it hard to define what it is, and I think it does need to be defined as it completely changes your approach to a couple as a bull.

For Me I believe:

A cuckold is basically a man in a relationship with someone else who views his sexual role as submissive to other men's abilities and draws pleasure from that and being reminded of that by having other men pleasure his partner. Yes he is still her Husband, Her best friend but he looks at other mens prowess as a turn on especially when it comes to his wife. Seeing her in ******* in a way he is incapable of doing excites him.

A husband with a hot wife is simply a guy who likes to for a lack of better words pimp his wife out. He feels he is sexually equal to the guys he has fucking her and simply wants to be lauded as the guy with the hottest wife. He views the interaction simply as him loaning his woman out because she is hot and he wants other men to know what he gets on the regular. Guys with hot wives to me are usually filled with confidence and sometimes machismo. They tend to talk more during the deed. A lot of "You're my little slut" while she's getting pounded. Cucks never say stuff like that.

That's my personal experience though

 

[funcuple71]

While I agree with the premise of your reason for the need for labels here, in our experiences, hubby and I are always up front about what we are looking for, what we want, what we are and are not willing to do. We dot EVERY I and CROSS every t. We have found if we don't do that before the meeting occurs, people are not always on the same page and that's when things go in a direction that is unanticipated, and not so much fun. When you are up front in the beginning about what your wants and desires are, things tend to go smoother. Because, just as you have stated here in your post, your definition of cuckold is different than that of others here. So putting out an ad or how ever YOU find people, and stating you are a cuckold looking for a bull, they may STILL have a different idea of what you are looking for. Same thing, IMO, with people looking for BDSM. There are MANY different varieties of it. It doesn't mean that EVERYONE is going to like the same thing. If you are up front with the person from the beginning, tell them EXACTLY what you want, things are more likely to go the way you want. We have weeded out MANY people simply by telling them what we want. THEY will tell US, nope, that's not what I'M looking for. We say, that's fine, thanks for letting us know. We are not about wasting anyone's time either.

Well, if everyone actually is having fun, it might not matter- but it certainly matters if a couple is meeting other partners for sex and different participants have different expectations about what's about to go down.

Like if it's a hotwife couple meeting someone new and that guy starts trying to dominate and humiliate the husband that would probably lead to awkwardness at the very least, especially if the new guy is specifically/especially turned on by that kind of play (in which case he's likely to walk away dissatisfied).

It's not just a name; I think there are distinctly different dynamics between cuckolding and hotwifing, although it looks like my own definitions vary a little from some folks here.

The way Alex and I look at it, we're strictly cuckold because she is the dominant partner, she humiliates me privately and publicly, she compares my dick to the much bigger dicks of her partners, and she has a long-term feminization project going on where she's slowly making me her sissy slut. I don't think you're gonna meet a lot of "hotwife" couples who do that stuff.

I think where we differ from some other folks here is that even though Alex is the dominant partner, we both have an equal say in terms of whom we meet and what our boundaries are. If either of us is uncomfortable with someone or something going on, we raise the flag and fix it. Our wife sharing play is for both of us, and if one of us isn't having fun, then we don't see the point.