Cheating is easier than Cuckolding

[avaadore]

Personally, I have no interest in either.

I'm not a monogamous person so I didn't choose a monogamous partner, my husband and I have been open to some degree since the very beginning. It's not a fetish, he's not a cuck or a stag. We have little to no involvement with our metas beyond occasionally linking up for some group play with his partners if the vibe is right.

My husband is my number one, my chosen person, I can't imagine sneaking around behind his back for anything. I have no reason to, and if I did that would be something I'd want to address so we could fix it, not lower myself by violating his trust and my own integrity.

 

[KeriTheSlut]

IMHO I think that all parts of the cuckold/cheating fall completely on trust and respect. I’ve never cheated but have been cheated on by a guy before. We where in a relationship and his roommate joined us cause we where drinking and fucking around in the same room he was. It wasn’t really discussed before or after but it happened. I found out several weeks later he was fucking a girl he had been friends with and tried to justify it because I fucked with his roommate. He didn’t tell me what he was doing and tried to hide it till I found out.
I think that starting from scratch would require commitment and trust/honesty between the partners and I think that’s where most of the problems would occur.

 

[MacNfries]

I think that all parts of the cuckold/cheating fall completely on trust and respect.

That's an oxymoronic statement. A total contradiction.

 

[KeriTheSlut]

That's an oxymoronic statement. A total contradiction.

What’s your opinion to it? I think that the difference between the two are completely dependent on if the two partners are honest with each other about their intentions and involvement and respect the other about it

 

[Rikochan]

In our relationship, it’s only cheating if it’s secret and dishonest. Secrecy and dishonesty is waaaaay too stressful to be fun. We can get the secret/taboo thing people like in cheating just by having sex secrets from the rest of the world, but not each other. I have permission as long as I’m open about it; he doesn’t have blanket permission, has to check with me first.

 

[MacNfries]

What’s your opinion to it? I think that the difference between the two are completely dependent on if the two partners are honest with each other about their intentions and involvement and respect the other about it

You can't cheat AND be honest, those are contradictive words, Keri. I"m not trying to be a smart ass here, just pointing to the fact of definitions.

• cheat: Someone who is in a committed relationship and breaks the trust of his or her partner by getting physically or emotionally involved with another person.​

• honesty: refers to a facet of moral character and connotes positive and virtuous attributes such as integrity, truthfulness and straightforwardness​

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[Hotwife fun77]

My wife sees the idea of having another guy with my encouragement or knowledge, to be the same as cheating.cheating is lying

I’m sorry but if you’re not being satisfied at home I would never label anyone or their choice to go out side of the marriage.
If the idea is to find someone else to eventually leave spouse that is definitely cheating

 

[Hotwife fun77]

I’m sorry but if you’re not being satisfied at home I would never label anyone or their choice to go out side of the marriage.
If the idea is to find someone else to eventually leave spouse that is definitely cheating

In my opinion

 

[MacNfries]

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[PopaScott]

A cuckold relationship is just like any other relationship, I takes give and take. Far more the a traditional relationship because an added dimension has been added. It becomes even more difficult if a steady bull is in the fold.
But like I said with understanding and compromise on all parts it can work and be amazing

 

[Lebain]

I.M.H.O. Communication is the key and breakdown to most folks problems and successes ...No matter the subject finances, sex, fantasies and etc. We can't ******* people into something there not interested in period, we don't own the other...I've known people who have cheated, been in the lifestyle and etc...and the most successful ones were the ones that communicated effectively with one another on everything across the board...Those that did not, things did not turn out so well...

 

[OlderCouple88]

My wife, Over the years, Has had many sexual liaisons with other Men.
At first it was all white guys , ( Friends Husbands, Swaps, Guys She met at work etc ).
My wife as far as I know, Has never turned down an opportunity to have sex on the side.
She has always loved a good fuck, but what I am getting at, is sometimes She would tell me and sometimes She would tell Me at a later date, This I found very much a turn on.
She has always been very good at the art of fucking, And has been complimented many times in Her life as ( As we now know as Hotwife ). We still fuck and we most importantly still enjoy life together.
As for sex with black guys, She says She just loves having black guys inside Her, and although some white boys with huge cocks have fucked Her , If given a choice it would always be a big black cock,( Her choice would be a minimum of 81/2 ins but would have to have girth to go with it, Her favourite was 111/2 ins and a quite fat ) this was at a black only gang bang , We both attended.
I guess getting back to wether I am a cuckold or not , Then applying the strict definition then I am.
However I have had plenty of relationships with other Woman before into swinging.
As we get older when talking to my Wife about our sex lives before Swinging lifestyle became our preferred way of life, I have somtimes admitted things to Her to which has prompted Her reply ( You dirty Git , I never knew that especially when it was one of Her best friends ) I would have to give her every detail, I would say ( And made this statement before ) That after some time I much preferred My Wife,s adventures , and stopped seeing other Woman myself.
When We/She were I to sex with black guys, I have always loved Her telling Me about Her adventures and the exquisite times She has been gang banged.
As I have stated on this site before, I am not Interested in a black bull shoving it up my own arse or sucking His cock etc etc.
I love watching Her and planning the event, I get an absolute thrill from Her pleasure.
She says She is always honest with me, I believe Her, At our age we are not going to leave each other.
I am truly blessed with a wife who I adore and know She feels the same as Me.
But I am married to a very very sexually experienced Woman that has fucked many different men,and is an exhibitionist as well.Although you would never guess it.
Oh! I love Her dearly.

 

[Kippie]

I have noticed in my life that women in general find it easier to cheat than to become active in the cuckold and hotwife type lifestyle. Even those who have shown interest in the cuckold lifestyle have all too often become intolerant to it and then later down the line, theyve cheated.

And from white males about their own findings.

I think it totally depends on where and what type of women a single cuck guy is trying to date. If he can dance well and dates women from out in the night life, I think his chances that she'd appreciate an open relationship are better.

If he going to date conservative women in small towns or suburbs, a lot of them will not consider an open relationship until after being married. An exception I've noticed is single moms that have been married before. They will be open to swinging, but probably not an open relationship or polyamory.

If a guy dates in a city and uses various modern apps and websites, there are women that want a non-monogamous relationship from the start. One possible problem will be, if he does not want a more egalitarian form of polyamory, the non-monogamous women that like hierarchy in their dating, seem to be tougher to find.

I've found non-monogamous women on Okcupid though. There's several. I called myself "monogamish" in the paragraphs on my profile.

As a general rule though, more people will gravitate towards cheating. For one, they usually didn't plan it out way ahead to get into that. It's slow baby steps into cheating, or suddenly they find themselves in a very tempting situation. Next, most humans are socially monogamous, but not sexually monogamous. Cheating keeps the socially monogamous look. Also, they don't have to worry about their spouse's emotions, if they can hide it. Even in open relationships, people have to balance emotions after being told details about their partners dates with other people.

 

[Davebull]

I have noticed in my life that women in general find it easier to cheat than to become active in the cuckold and hotwife type lifestyle. Even those who have shown interest in the cuckold lifestyle have all too often become intolerant to it and then later down the line, theyve cheated. This is not just me drawing conclusions from my own personal experience. It comes from many years of knowing many people and talking frankly about all this.

Ladies who have a loving husband and good relationship seem to be sometimes open to the lifestyle. But starting from scratch its almost impossible to find a girl who will embark on such a lifestyle.

Im very interested to hear from white ladies, especially single ones about their perspective. And from white males about their own findings.

It is true in the sense that cheating only requires consent from one party (the person who is doing the cheating) whereas cuckolding/hotwifing requires consent from both parties (the husband and wife). However, cheating can and does end marriages (assuming discovery), whereas cuckolding/hotwifing does not end marriages/relationships at the same rate that cheating does.

 

[KatyMisbehavin]

This isn't for everyone. I'd be curious to see what the divorce/breakup statistics are in this lifestyle. I'd assume higher than average.

This is my big concern too - it seems from what I've been reading about becoming a hotwife that in the long run you risk making your husband irrelevant in the sexual/emotional side of your relationship, which is the critical glue for any couple, right? He already complains that all I do is "work" him around the house lol

 

[KatyMisbehavin]

It is true in the sense that cheating only requires consent from one party (the person who is doing the cheating) whereas cuckolding/hotwifing requires consent from both parties (the husband and wife). However, cheating can and does end marriages (assuming discovery), whereas cuckolding/hotwifing does not end marriages/relationships at the same rate that cheating does.

Really good points, and I am not suggesting I am ready to cheat to get what is so far a fantasy out of my system, but I would say that the one other thing cheating has going for it is the "thrill" element... Sneaking around and meeting in hotels must add a ton to the excitement/naughty factor!!

 

[KatyMisbehavin]

But to the original poster's point, I am finding that setting up an open situation has been really hard to navigate regarding husband's comfort level. I can def see where a quick night out here and there would be easy for someone to fall in to.

 

[honeybunz98]

I have noticed in my life that women in general find it easier to cheat than to become active in the cuckold and hotwife type lifestyle. Even those who have shown interest in the cuckold lifestyle have all too often become intolerant to it and then later down the line, theyve cheated. This is not just me drawing conclusions from my own personal experience. It comes from many years of knowing many people and talking frankly about all this.

Ladies who have a loving husband and good relationship seem to be sometimes open to the lifestyle. But starting from scratch its almost impossible to find a girl who will embark on such a lifestyle.

Im very interested to hear from white ladies, especially single ones about their perspective. And from white males about their own findings.

1000%

 

[funcouple52661]

I have noticed in my life that women in general find it easier to cheat than to become active in the cuckold and hotwife type lifestyle. Even those who have shown interest in the cuckold lifestyle have all too often become intolerant to it and then later down the line, theyve cheated. This is not just me drawing conclusions from my own personal experience. It comes from many years of knowing many people and talking frankly about all this.

Ladies who have a loving husband and good relationship seem to be sometimes open to the lifestyle. But starting from scratch its almost impossible to find a girl who will embark on such a lifestyle.

Im very interested to hear from white ladies, especially single ones about their perspective. And from white males about their own findings.

You want to hear from single white women about cheating? How exactly are single women cheating?

 

[BiSubCuck]

You want to hear from single white women about cheating? How exactly are single women cheating?

about their perspective on this yes, but all ladies really. So does a single lady who enjoys sexual freedom like the idea of a cuckold relationship, or a relationship where she has to cheat to continue with that sexual freedom?