Cheating is easier than Cuckolding

[BiSubCuck]

I have noticed in my life that women in general find it easier to cheat than to become active in the cuckold and hotwife type lifestyle. Even those who have shown interest in the cuckold lifestyle have all too often become intolerant to it and then later down the line, theyve cheated. This is not just me drawing conclusions from my own personal experience. It comes from many years of knowing many people and talking frankly about all this.

Ladies who have a loving husband and good relationship seem to be sometimes open to the lifestyle. But starting from scratch its almost impossible to find a girl who will embark on such a lifestyle.

Im very interested to hear from white ladies, especially single ones about their perspective. And from white males about their own findings.

 

[CuckToBeInWV]

I have noticed in my life that women in general find it easier to cheat than to become active in the cuckold and hotwife type lifestyle. Even those who have shown interest in the cuckold lifestyle have all too often become intolerant to it and then later down the line, theyve cheated. This is not just me drawing conclusions from my own personal experience. It comes from many years of knowing many people and talking frankly about all this.

Ladies who have a loving husband and good relationship seem to be sometimes open to the lifestyle. But starting from scratch its almost impossible to find a girl who will embark on such a lifestyle.

Im very interested to hear from white ladies, especially single ones about their perspective. And from white males about their own findings.

Disappointed this hasn't had any responses. I can't say anything from experience. But I will make an educated guess....for some women, there is a taboo aspect to this. If she is given permission, it can lose the rush and excitement of doing something you're not supposed to do.

Cheating can be exhilarating. Sometimes for the wrong reasons. Last Saturday night, a HS classmate contacted me, her husband left. She asked me to come fuck her. I told her I wouldn't be doing that. I did go down and spend some time with her, including some fooling around. I left around 5:45 am. Her husband came back home that morning to pick up some stuff he needed. He told her he came by the house around 4:30 am. She doesn't believe him, he was at the lake about 2.5 hours away. But I can't lie, the idea that he could have come home and shot my ass scared me a little.

 

[Jnl682]

Disappointed this hasn't had any responses. I can't say anything from experience. But I will make an educated guess....for some women, there is a taboo aspect to this. If she is given permission, it can lose the rush and excitement of doing something you're not supposed to do.

Cheating can be exhilarating. Sometimes for the wrong reasons. Last Saturday night, a HS classmate contacted me, her husband left. She asked me to come fuck her. I told her I wouldn't be doing that. I did go down and spend some time with her, including some fooling around. I left around 5:45 am. Her husband came back home that morning to pick up some stuff he needed. He told her he came by the house around 4:30 am. She doesn't believe him, he was at the lake about 2.5 hours away. But I can't lie, the idea that he could have come home and shot my ass scared me a little.

You are absolutely right. Cheating you can do on your own and with no accountability. However, acting as a couple is work. There tend to be significant communication requirements, check ins and constant discussions around comfort levels and boundaries...

 

[MacNfries]

Disappointed this hasn't had any responses. I can't say anything from experience.

Probably because there's no real difference between cuckolding and cheating ... they're synonymous. I can see how this discussion could be confusing when the implication is that the two are different. The word cuckold is no more than a slang label put on a man who's wife is having sex with other people. It makes no difference whether the husband knows or doesn't know. Modern day cuckolding simply implies that the wife's extra-marital affairs are consensual ... read on, particularly the "history of" ...

What is cuckolding, anyway?

The consensual non-monogamy kink, explained

www.cosmopolitan.com

 

[VINCE71]

My wife sees the idea of having another guy with my encouragement or knowledge, to be the same as cheating.

 

[Saxophone]

Probably because there's no real difference between cuckolding and cheating ... they're synonymous. I can see how this discussion could be confusing when the implication is that the two are different. The word cuckold is no more than a slang label put on a man who's wife is having sex with other people. It makes no difference whether the husband knows or doesn't know. Modern day cuckolding simply implies that the wife's extra-marital affairs are consensual ... read on, particularly the "history of" ...

What is cuckolding, anyway?

The consensual non-monogamy kink, explained

www.cosmopolitan.com

I see your point. The main thing here is a woman having sex with another man or other men. I grew up with the knowledge of the word cuckold meaning that a man was cheating on. However, if it is defined as involving a consensus between partners, then I do believe that cheating inherently would suggest playing behind the back of the other. Seen from this perspective, there are definitely psychological factors in play, among others. For instance, it might be more thrilling to play in hidden. There is also the fact that the lady woman might have never thought that it could be possible to have her partner involved, she might not be sure how he would take it and if suggesting this idea wouldn't jeopardize their marriage or relationship, etc, etc... Besides, the mindset of playing with the husband or boyfriend involved might be different. I know of a couple of women, who, despite of being swingers with partners involved, have been playing with other guys without the knowledge of their partners.

 

[Rodgersmith1]

Lets be honest here..If a husband has the desire or exciting sexual feelings to have his wife in bed with a good looking black lover...at that point it's her call....It's her decision on how, when, where and with who she wants to be in bed with...So if she is seduce by a good looking black guy and she makes the decision to go to bed with him all alone...it's not cheating you both had the exact same desires....this is a lifestyle for both of you ...not one person ( the husband ) dictating how, when, where and with who she's in bed with.

Some husbands won't go for that and that's selfish....you want what you want....she may want to have an experience with a lover in bed without you there which is way more exciting and passionate for her....if you choose this lifestyle you cant be selfish.

 

[BiSubCuck]

Probably because there's no real difference between cuckolding and cheating ... they're synonymous. I can see how this discussion could be confusing when the implication is that the two are different. The word cuckold is no more than a slang label put on a man who's wife is having sex with other people. It makes no difference whether the husband knows or doesn't know. Modern day cuckolding simply implies that the wife's extra-marital affairs are consensual ... read on, particularly the "history of" ...

What is cuckolding, anyway?

The consensual non-monogamy kink, explained

www.cosmopolitan.com

Forget the terminology. That really wasnt my point and Im sure you know that.
Most ladies find it easier to deceive than to enjoy sexual freedom when its given. Any comments on that??

 

[BiSubCuck]

Lets be honest here..If a husband has the desire or exciting sexual feelings to have his wife in bed with a good looking black lover...at that point it's her call....It's her decision on how, when, where and with who she wants to be in bed with...So if she is seduce by a good looking black guy and she makes the decision to go to bed with him all alone...it's not cheating you both had the exact same desires....this is a lifestyle for both of you ...not one person ( the husband ) dictating how, when, where and with who she's in bed with.

Some husbands won't go for that and that's selfish....you want what you want....she may want to have an experience with a lover in bed without you there which is way more exciting and passionate for her....if you choose this lifestyle you cant be selfish.

Roger i think you mis understand me.... when i refer to cheating, im saying she fucks someone else and never tells me. Even when i confront her, its still denied. And ive talked with other women who said they sinply couldn't be in the cuckold lifestyle and then Ive asked if they've ever cheated and they have.
So why is the knowing cuckold and hotwife lifestyle so hard for so many women to embrace???

 

[Gr8ego]

Lets be honest here..If a husband has the desire or exciting sexual feelings to have his wife in bed with a good looking black lover...at that point it's her call....It's her decision on how, when, where and with who she wants to be in bed with...So if she is seduce by a good looking black guy and she makes the decision to go to bed with him all alone...it's not cheating you both had the exact same desires....this is a lifestyle for both of you ...not one person ( the husband ) dictating how, when, where and with who she's in bed with.

Some husbands won't go for that and that's selfish....you want what you want....she may want to have an experience with a lover in bed without you there which is way more exciting and passionate for her....if you choose this lifestyle you cant be selfish.

Selfish is cheating on a good husband that would allow and enjoy being part of the fun.

 

[MacNfries]

My wife sees the idea of having another guy with my encouragement or knowledge, to be the same as cheating.

If you and your wife had the traditional religious ceremony, then it would be considered a violation of fidelity. Possibly try disassociating the word cuckold with cheating by using the word wittol instead ... which is simply a married man's permission to allow his wife to have sex with other men. An old word, not often used because most people aren't all that concerned, but for those that are, wittol might provide a solution to those with that concern of cheating.

 

[tomtomjim]

having a willing cuckold husband takes a lot of doing but cheating is easy as long as no one wants to know. Being a willing cuckold is to submit to a woman openly in front of other men

 

[MacNfries]

Forget the terminology. That really wasnt my point and Im sure you know that.
Most ladies find it easier to deceive than to enjoy sexual freedom when its given. Any comments on that??

Apologies, BiSub, but I had no intent one way or the other with my comment. If I missed your point, maybe others did too, however. You're most definitely right ... it is easier to cheat than obtain permission. The downside of cheating is, that when you get caught a lot of bad things happen, one of which is often divorce. The inability for a couple to discuss sexual relation issues indicates a far worse problem, the inability to communicate.
If my comments annoy you, I'll try to refrain from adding comments to your posts, ok?

 

[BiSubCuck]

Apologies, BiSub, but I had no intent one way or the other with my comment. If I missed your point, maybe others did too, however. You're most definitely right ... it is easier to cheat than obtain permission. The downside of cheating is, that when you get caught a lot of bad things happen, one of which is often divorce. The inability for a couple to discuss sexual relation issues indicates a far worse problem, the inability to communicate.
If my comments annoy you, I'll try to refrain from adding comments to your posts, ok?

Im far from annoyed. But thanks

 

[Carl C]

One of my wife’s bbc friends has an active sex life of which her husband is clueless. Her cheating friend sees guys when the husband is at work. Arranging and keeping sex secret is difficult and my wife is grateful that she doesn’t have to hide her fucking. We don’t consider my wife’s activities cheating because I support her having good sex.

 

[BiSubCuck]

One of my wife’s bbc friends has an active sex life of which her husband is clueless. Her cheating friend sees guys when the husband is at work. Arranging and keeping sex secret is difficult and my wife is grateful that she doesn’t have to hide her fucking. We don’t consider my wife’s activities cheating because I support her having good sex.

Carl, thats exactly right and so so many vanilla couples are cheating with others on a regular basis. I scratch my head and just hope that one day the lifestyle becomes more mainstream and makes lives easier for everyone. I always want to be with a girl who is proud of her sexuality and of her having sexual freedom in our relationship. And then she wants me to open about it with others to show that Im proud of her too.

 

[Carl C]

Carl, thats exactly right and so so many vanilla couples are cheating with others on a regular basis. I scratch my head and just hope that one day the lifestyle becomes more mainstream and makes lives easier for everyone. I always want to be with a girl who is proud of her sexuality and of her having sexual freedom in our relationship. And then she wants me to open about it with others to show that Im proud of her too.

My wife does not hide her sex life and shares details with her friends. So most who know us know she has a very active and varied sex life. In fact, her girlfriends envy her and think I’m a great husband for encouraging her to have younger partners with more size and stamina.

 

[thickdckenergy]

Good thread and I’m learning a lot with the responses.

 

[CuckToBeInWV]

Probably because there's no real difference between cuckolding and cheating ... they're synonymous. I can see how this discussion could be confusing when the implication is that the two are different. The word cuckold is no more than a slang label put on a man who's wife is having sex with other people. It makes no difference whether the husband knows or doesn't know. Modern day cuckolding simply implies that the wife's extra-marital affairs are consensual ... read on, particularly the "history of" ...

What is cuckolding, anyway?

The consensual non-monogamy kink, explained

www.cosmopolitan.com

I know you hold to the traditional definition of cuckolding. In modern times, though, it does have an implied other meaning. Cuckolding in modern terminology implies that the male knows she is fooling around, and in a large number of cases, is involved in it, in some form.

 

[WantingMixedKi]

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