Changing Wife's Mind

[lovesexfun]

I've always loved the whole interracial dynamic, white women and black men specifically.
But my wife was always a little uncomfortable with it because she felt it was objectifying, maybe a little racist.

When we started experimenting with hotwifing in early 2019, she was with a few white guys and they were really disappointing.
For her it was more hassle/stress than pleasure and she was on the verge of giving it up altogether.

Then we met this great black guy and he was a really great lover and took his time with her. She needs lots of foreplay and he was the guy to slow down and made sure she got all she wanted. He became a "regular" and they played once every month or two because he lives two hours away.

We began searching around for more playmates for her and I noticed that she quit showing interest in in white guys - but never actually said she wanted black men only.
She will never use the term "BBC" or talk about their race at all. I've tried to discuss it, but it's clear that the whole thing makes her a little uncomfortable.

Of course everyone is different, but I'm curious to know if any members here experienced something similar.
Did this one experience with the black man "awaken" something in her that she's unsure of? Is there any way I can ease her mind that it's perfectly fine and she should happily pursue what she finds exciting?

I'm happy to sit back and let her work it out, but I'm curious to know how to be supportive for her.

i think my wife was reluctant but we getting there.

 

[Emsee]

)))

its incredibly daunting for a single girl too !

 

[alan663]

Hope you'll enjoy if you go for it

 

[Emsee]

Hope you'll enjoy if you go for it

me too

 

[Ms4nicate]

Most white females are fearful to admit liking Blackmen because they need to do a Cost-Benefit Analysis of the backlash from friends, family and work collegaues.

Remember Western society has racial hierarchy that frequently places Blackmen in a negative light.

Yep. While woman here. Was married to a white man who was the one to suggest black men. Me and this black man became friends prior to sex. My now-ex-husband put the brakes on it two days before we were scheduled to meet up.

Well...I was not okay with that. To be honest, my marriage was already over when this was going on, I just wasn’t mature enough at that point to do what I needed to do. I went through with the meeting. Needless to say...I have not been back.

I don’t know why, but I just don’t find white men attractive anymore. I left the ex after a pretty traumatic experience that almost killed me. When I started dating, my very whet I thought was “non-racist” mom freaked out and began crying after me telling her I had a date with a black man after leaving my ex. Yes, you read that right...CRIED. I tried dating white men to appease them but I did that maybe three times...now I just date/fuck black men.

I have failed to find the right relationship with a black man, so I can’t help but wonder if I need “this” type of relationship. Do I need to date a white man but one that is open to me being fucked by a black bull? Hmmm...

What do you guys think?

 

[nancyask]

i asked nancy many times she will not say but i alwies catch her looking at black cocks on line

 

[vej54]

Yep. While woman here. Was married to a white man who was the one to suggest black men. Me and this black man became friends prior to sex. My now-ex-husband put the brakes on it two days before we were scheduled to meet up.

Well...I was not okay with that. To be honest, my marriage was already over when this was going on, I just wasn’t mature enough at that point to do what I needed to do. I went through with the meeting. Needless to say...I have not been back.

I don’t know why, but I just don’t find white men attractive anymore. I left the ex after a pretty traumatic experience that almost killed me. When I started dating, my very whet I thought was “non-racist” mom freaked out and began crying after me telling her I had a date with a black man after leaving my ex. Yes, you read that right...CRIED. I tried dating white men to appease them but I did that maybe three times...now I just date/fuck black men.

I have failed to find the right relationship with a black man, so I can’t help but wonder if I need “this” type of relationship. Do I need to date a white man but one that is open to me being fucked by a black bull? Hmmm...

What do you guys think?

Success in any relationship but, especially those in the Lifestyle participating in Interracial "FUCKING" require participants to be honest, sexually self-confident, mature and willing to confront challenges within the marriage/relationship.

You can play as single female but, if you want a relationship while still playing in the lifestyle then, you need to address the unfinished business from the failed marriage.

 

[The Arranger]

Most white females are fearful to admit liking Blackmen because they need to do a Cost-Benefit Analysis of the backlash from friends, family and work collegaues.

Remember Western society has racial hierarchy that frequently places Blackmen in a negative light.

I dont think it’s just black males western society has an issue with. I think we have been taught one lady one male. There was a time when ladies could and would have multiple husbands and for a reason. At this point in time guys were always off fighting wars and such. Multiple husbands meant that her children would be protected at home. These marriages were more about producing a family heir multiple is possible. of course husbands took their mistress with them on the road. i read where one queen was married to 5 or 7 brothers with sons from each

 

[RichieD]

For my wife, fucking black men is the icing, not the cake. We have a great marriage, careers and happy home life. We bring in these guys as "Special guest stars" to give her all the pleasure she wants.
The extra benefit is that she can always look around for a new guy if she's in the mood for someone else. This gives her the security of our marriage and all the freedom she wants!

I couldnt have said this any better. Bravo !! That describes my wife and I, and our marriage to a TEE !!

 

[ray lee]

Yep. While woman here. Was married to a white man who was the one to suggest black men. Me and this black man became friends prior to sex. My now-ex-husband put the brakes on it two days before we were scheduled to meet up.

Well...I was not okay with that. To be honest, my marriage was already over when this was going on, I just wasn’t mature enough at that point to do what I needed to do. I went through with the meeting. Needless to say...I have not been back.

I don’t know why, but I just don’t find white men attractive anymore. I left the ex after a pretty traumatic experience that almost killed me. When I started dating, my very whet I thought was “non-racist” mom freaked out and began crying after me telling her I had a date with a black man after leaving my ex. Yes, you read that right...CRIED. I tried dating white men to appease them but I did that maybe three times...now I just date/fuck black men.

I have failed to find the right relationship with a black man, so I can’t help but wonder if I need “this” type of relationship. Do I need to date a white man but one that is open to me being fucked by a black bull? Hmmm...

What do you guys think?

I am thankful that you are honest with your account. Sorry that your family reacted as they did. Do what makes you happy and ask your family to accept you as you are and your choices. If I was your mom, I would support my baby, because I do not want to lose my baby because of the choice my baby have made. Life is very short!

 

[ray lee]

TRUTH OF THE MATTER IS...
Most white people in general don't have a lot of personal experience with black people, especially one on one with a black man. With that being said, this lifestyle can be incredibly daunting and intimidating for a white WOMAN. ESPECIALLY a married woman.

There's a lot that goes into this on different levels. For any wife who truly gets into this interracial lifestyle, I SALUTE Her!

TRUTH OF THE MATTER IS... Very well put.!!!!

 

[Manofskill]

I was not sure for awhile

It has to be a good experience for all involved

 

[zvega]

Sssshhhhh

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put your other, public, life in the background. Just get naked and get on your knees.
This is you

 

[phfuncplinfla]

Perfectly put

You married

 

[ashleysmith]

Sssshhhhh

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True and agrees

 

[Butterscotchh]

I've always loved the whole interracial dynamic, white women and black men specifically.
But my wife was always a little uncomfortable with it because she felt it was objectifying, maybe a little racist.

When we started experimenting with hotwifing in early 2019, she was with a few white guys and they were really disappointing.
For her it was more hassle/stress than pleasure and she was on the verge of giving it up altogether.

Then we met this great black guy and he was a really great lover and took his time with her. She needs lots of foreplay and he was the guy to slow down and made sure she got all she wanted. He became a "regular" and they played once every month or two because he lives two hours away.

We began searching around for more playmates for her and I noticed that she quit showing interest in in white guys - but never actually said she wanted black men only.
She will never use the term "BBC" or talk about their race at all. I've tried to discuss it, but it's clear that the whole thing makes her a little uncomfortable.

Of course everyone is different, but I'm curious to know if any members here experienced something similar.
Did this one experience with the black man "awaken" something in her that she's unsure of? Is there any way I can ease her mind that it's perfectly fine and she should happily pursue what she finds exciting?

I'm happy to sit back and let her work it out, but I'm curious to know how to be supportive for her.

All through college I was hugely active with black men way more then white men. I then met the man that would become my husband and he was white. Call it quitting cold turkey if you will. I used toys and such to kind of get used to being with only a white man even though my husband was pretty good in bed. I actually was doing well and off the BBC for awhile when we started talking about being open and hotwifing. Shortly after that my place of employment hired a black man and I found myself super attracted to him. My husband and I started talking about how we were going to start our new sexual lifestyle and I said I have a man in mind if we wanted to go that route. I finally told him who it was and he surprised me by saying he figured it was going to be a black man given my history. After that it wasn't an issue anymore.

 

[Happy sussex]

I had tried for many years to get my wife to try sex with a black guy she always refused, then when she was seduced and fucked by an older black guy who’s penis is both thicker and longer than mine.
She is now addicted to him and does what he tells her both dress wise and most sexual things he wants her to do.
Basically she is a whore to his cock .
We are meeting him and his brother for her first interracial three some while I’ll watch them enjoy each other’s bodies

 

[yngnkky]

We had used me having sex with a black man as a fantasy in the bedroom. Hubby wanted me to dress slutty for him for when he came home from the gym. In he walked with a very handsome black man. Gary came straight to the point and said he would like me to have sex with him. I was reluctant but with a little persuasion I agreed. Gary left us to it and although very nervous I was also very very turned on. He slowly stripped me but I froze when I saw the size of his cock. He entered me a few times but I could not relax and it never went well at all. I got to know him better and have not looked back since. Still see him occasionally.

 

[JonHarda]

First guy that responded to her ad for solo play was black. She didn't know about it, said she was preferenced to white guys. I knew she liked being stretched and told her to give it a shot. She did and absolutely loved fucking him. She's had several black men since then, now the very mention of a long thick black cock gets her pussy flowing. I mean really wet and sloppy. She loves when I watch her get fucked better than what my 7 inches can do

 

[dickhurtz472]

All through college I was hugely active with black men way more then white men. I then met the man that would become my husband and he was white. Call it quitting cold turkey if you will. I used toys and such to kind of get used to being with only a white man even though my husband was pretty good in bed. I actually was doing well and off the BBC for awhile when we started talking about being open and hotwifing. Shortly after that my place of employment hired a black man and I found myself super attracted to him. My husband and I started talking about how we were going to start our new sexual lifestyle and I said I have a man in mind if we wanted to go that route. I finally told him who it was and he surprised me by saying he figured it was going to be a black man given my history. After that it wasn't an issue anymore.

it's a treat to, actually, hear from the the HW.