Nia
Female
It is true a black man doesn't have to even ask
breed her....
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Rachel Weiss
Female
I am in a conventional relationship with a white guy and we have no ******* buy secretly I want to have black baby...
love to breed you
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hunman
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i wish i was your white bf/husband
Rachel Weiss
Female
I really want to be made pregnant, but don't want to breed with my hubby, isn't that awful? Sometimes the urge is overwhelming. I'm at the prime time of my life for breeding, but don't want my baby to inherit some of my husband's less attractive traits. He's frankly quite ugly, for a start. I suppose I have reached a point in my life where I need to make a decision whether to stay with him or not. I do care for him, and if I left him I'm sure it would break him. I feel quite responsible for his well-being.
If he is so ugly and has so many bad traits, then why did you marry him in the first place? Sorry for being nosy, but if he had these issues when you married him, you either should not have married him or, if those issues were acceptable then, they should be now. I don't think you are being very fair.
Rachel Weiss
Female
I was young and fairly insecure when we married, and there was a lot of pressure from the family too. Sometimes I hate myself for not being more assertive. I've always wanted to travel, for example, but he never has. Since we married a lot of people have mentioned that I am "out of his league" when it comes to looks, and I think secretly he knows that, which is why he acts so possessive and he is like a jerk a lot of the time. He has changed since we were married, and now he is unemployed he has really let himself go. We sleep in separate rooms a lot of the time, which is why I can go on the Internet at night. I know he is asleep as he snores.
At first I was sympathetic with him losing his job, and I encouraged him to look for other work. But he wasn't trying hard enough and in March he refused to go for a job at a large retailer as he said it was "below him". OK the wages weren't good, but I thought he should have gone for it and not rely on my salary.
We had a huge argument over that, and he called me a bitch for insisting he take such a demeaning job. I told him it was better than nothing, but secretly I wanted him out of the house in the evenings so I could have some time alone.
Most of the time we're okay, but I admit that I fantasise a lot about about submitting to an aggressive mean black stud who's more handsome, richer and more ripped than my husband. I do feel a little guilty afterwards though.
At first I was sympathetic with him losing his job, and I encouraged him to look for other work. But he wasn't trying hard enough and in March he refused to go for a job at a large retailer as he said it was "below him". OK the wages weren't good, but I thought he should have gone for it and not rely on my salary.
We had a huge argument over that, and he called me a bitch for insisting he take such a demeaning job. I told him it was better than nothing, but secretly I wanted him out of the house in the evenings so I could have some time alone.
Most of the time we're okay, but I admit that I fantasise a lot about about submitting to an aggressive mean black stud who's more handsome, richer and more ripped than my husband. I do feel a little guilty afterwards though.
Okay. I am sorry I got so nosy, but what you were saying seemed kind of cold.
Part of the reason for my divorce is exactly what you are describing. I lost my job and I went into a deep depression. At first, she was supportive, but after a while the disdain and disrespect just started rolling off of her anytime she was around me. I have been a contract programmer most of my career, which means I work for 6 months and then spend the next 3 months looking for my next contract. She knew what I did when we married. I think the longest time I was out of work was 9 months. Eventually, her attitude caused me to hide the den to try to be away from her for much of the day (she had never had to work in our marriage). Finally, she got a job, which gave me a little breathing room. But whenever she was home, we were constantly arguing (that had never happened before, either). The disrespect and dislike she showed compounded to make my depression worse. This was the woman I had sworn to love for the rest of my life and her disappointment with me really hurt. I still went on interviews and did my best, but the interviewers could tell there was something wrong. I am convinced of it. I am not a good enough liar or actor. lol. But another problem is, in my industry, if you are out of work for 6 months and do not keep your skills up to date, you will never get another job in the industry. So, you really have to keep only looking in this industry.
Fantasizing is ok. And I am sure both of you have changed since you got married. I am the type of person that if something doesn't work out, I have to be able to look back and say I tried absolutely everything I could think of to try and save the relationship. Otherwise, I will be constantly second guessing myself. Whatever happens, I wish you and hubby the best. Especially in him getting a job.
Part of the reason for my divorce is exactly what you are describing. I lost my job and I went into a deep depression. At first, she was supportive, but after a while the disdain and disrespect just started rolling off of her anytime she was around me. I have been a contract programmer most of my career, which means I work for 6 months and then spend the next 3 months looking for my next contract. She knew what I did when we married. I think the longest time I was out of work was 9 months. Eventually, her attitude caused me to hide the den to try to be away from her for much of the day (she had never had to work in our marriage). Finally, she got a job, which gave me a little breathing room. But whenever she was home, we were constantly arguing (that had never happened before, either). The disrespect and dislike she showed compounded to make my depression worse. This was the woman I had sworn to love for the rest of my life and her disappointment with me really hurt. I still went on interviews and did my best, but the interviewers could tell there was something wrong. I am convinced of it. I am not a good enough liar or actor. lol. But another problem is, in my industry, if you are out of work for 6 months and do not keep your skills up to date, you will never get another job in the industry. So, you really have to keep only looking in this industry.
Fantasizing is ok. And I am sure both of you have changed since you got married. I am the type of person that if something doesn't work out, I have to be able to look back and say I tried absolutely everything I could think of to try and save the relationship. Otherwise, I will be constantly second guessing myself. Whatever happens, I wish you and hubby the best. Especially in him getting a job.
Rachel Weiss
Female
Thanks for your best wishes.
It's a tough world out there, and women are naturally attracted to the strongest men. That is, men that are physically strong but also men who can provide for them. I have a girlfriend who left her husband for a black guy two years ago who runs his own haulage business. She told me that a man is unable to provide, it's no surprise that a woman will eventually look elsewhere, and I am starting to beleive that
I know about wedding vows and all that, but divorce happens for many reasons and it is very common for the female to cheat or initiate a split if the man is weak and unable to provide. Is it cruel to think that?
When we had the big argument in March I threatened to walk out, and my husband started crying. I couldn't believe it, he was bawling and was literally begging me to stay. I felt sorry for him but at the same time I lost a lot of respect for him as a man from that point. I ended up slapping his face and telling him to shape up, something I now regret.
Incidentally, what happened with your wife in the end falcond? Was it an amicable split? What did you do to try to get her to stay?
It's a tough world out there, and women are naturally attracted to the strongest men. That is, men that are physically strong but also men who can provide for them. I have a girlfriend who left her husband for a black guy two years ago who runs his own haulage business. She told me that a man is unable to provide, it's no surprise that a woman will eventually look elsewhere, and I am starting to beleive that
I know about wedding vows and all that, but divorce happens for many reasons and it is very common for the female to cheat or initiate a split if the man is weak and unable to provide. Is it cruel to think that?
When we had the big argument in March I threatened to walk out, and my husband started crying. I couldn't believe it, he was bawling and was literally begging me to stay. I felt sorry for him but at the same time I lost a lot of respect for him as a man from that point. I ended up slapping his face and telling him to shape up, something I now regret.
Incidentally, what happened with your wife in the end falcond? Was it an amicable split? What did you do to try to get her to stay?
It was mostly amicable. We have our good moments and our bad. She (for the 25th time) after a fight threatened to leave and I told her I was sick of it and just to go. Stop torturing me and trying to use leaving as a sword of damocles. I just wanted to hold my youngest once more before she went. I reached for him, she clawed my eye. I reached for him again, she clawed my neck. I popped her, open handed, on top of the head (because it was the only place I could tell her to knock it the hell off, without risking our youngest, who she was holding). After I did it, I took my 2 oldest into their bedroom to tell them daddy had done something very bad and they were NEVER to hit a woman, unless they absolutely had no choice. The next thing I know, 2 cops come busting through the bedroom door. She had called the cops to try and get a restraining order against me so she could kick me out of the house and keep it for herself (She had been listening to her American friends). The cops took statements from me, her, my 2 older boys, and a friend we had staying with us at the time . . . and promptly slapped the cuffs on my ex and hauled her off to jail. I spent 8 hours trying to bail her out and when I finally did, her comment was "You can go now. I'm going to call my friend Ellen."
As for what I did to try to get her to stay, I went to counseling, I tried to pay more attention to her. There were many, many things I tried. She refused to go to counseling, even though she had promised me she would, if our marriage was ever in trouble. I was a chef for 3 years, before I got into computers. I even, on her birthday, made her her favorite filipino dishes and trailed rose petals from the front door to our master bath and had candles surrounding the tub and gave her a sponge bath in the tub for over an hour and gave her a massage on our bed for 2 hours (it was also covered in rose petals).
Rachel, divorce does happen for many reasons. Mostly, the wrong reasons. It is much easier just to give up than to truly try to save things and to work at it. I am not saying that is you, but I see it so much today. The fabric of this society is in the family unit. And so much of that is gone. You loved him once, for a reason. Try to recapture that and re-ignite it. He may want you to have your fun, as well, out of respect and love for you.
As for what I did to try to get her to stay, I went to counseling, I tried to pay more attention to her. There were many, many things I tried. She refused to go to counseling, even though she had promised me she would, if our marriage was ever in trouble. I was a chef for 3 years, before I got into computers. I even, on her birthday, made her her favorite filipino dishes and trailed rose petals from the front door to our master bath and had candles surrounding the tub and gave her a sponge bath in the tub for over an hour and gave her a massage on our bed for 2 hours (it was also covered in rose petals).
Rachel, divorce does happen for many reasons. Mostly, the wrong reasons. It is much easier just to give up than to truly try to save things and to work at it. I am not saying that is you, but I see it so much today. The fabric of this society is in the family unit. And so much of that is gone. You loved him once, for a reason. Try to recapture that and re-ignite it. He may want you to have your fun, as well, out of respect and love for you.
Rachel Weiss
Female
Thanks for the insightful post falcon. I’m sorry to hear about your issues withyour wife. In retrospect, could you have done anything better? A woman really respects a man who pulls out all the stops to keep her. But maybe the fact that she refused counseling meant that she just didn’t want to be with you, and wanted a different type of man, shall we say.
I hate to say it, but the fact that my husband is unattractive is a real turn-off. No matter what he does, I can’t get turned on by him any more.
My husband tried something with rose petals and candles quite recently too. I was in a bad mood and had a headache after I got back from work, and just wanted to relax with a glass of wine. But instead of doing the cleaning properly, he had scattered rose petals all over the bedroom and lit some candles that smelt bad. He was also wearing some ridiculous too-tight underwear. I know he meant well, but I’m afraid to say I just snapped at him for not cleaning the house and messing up the bedroom. He called me a heartless bitch and we ended up getting in another fight.
The outcome of it was the same as before, with him pleading and sniveling, saying he would do anything to make me happy. He asked me what I would like – he said anything at all – and I said you can start with the washing-up.
In retrospect I guess what I should have said is that I want an open relationship where I can have black lovers, but that would have probably given him a heart attack!
I hate to say it, but the fact that my husband is unattractive is a real turn-off. No matter what he does, I can’t get turned on by him any more.
My husband tried something with rose petals and candles quite recently too. I was in a bad mood and had a headache after I got back from work, and just wanted to relax with a glass of wine. But instead of doing the cleaning properly, he had scattered rose petals all over the bedroom and lit some candles that smelt bad. He was also wearing some ridiculous too-tight underwear. I know he meant well, but I’m afraid to say I just snapped at him for not cleaning the house and messing up the bedroom. He called me a heartless bitch and we ended up getting in another fight.
The outcome of it was the same as before, with him pleading and sniveling, saying he would do anything to make me happy. He asked me what I would like – he said anything at all – and I said you can start with the washing-up.
In retrospect I guess what I should have said is that I want an open relationship where I can have black lovers, but that would have probably given him a heart attack!
I wish she had told me that was what she wanted. I would have done it in a heartbeat. And yes I suggested. And she seemed to be starting to get into it. We started watching porn together and dirty talk and she has a big 'ole black vibe that she used to love. The thing was huge and she could almost take all of it (which is really amazing, considering she is 4'11". lol.). Then one of the women she knew started to talk to her about religion. Convinced my ex she needed a "religious re-awakening" (ex grew up charismatic Catholic). That night, the ex came home, bagged up the toys and porn and dumped them in the trash. After that, I think we "did it" (you couldn't call what we were doing making love.) about once every 6 months until the last fight.
And see, that's my problem. I love treating a lady like a princess, but I do not grovel. Not when they start lying so much and treating me worse than they did before.
And see, that's my problem. I love treating a lady like a princess, but I do not grovel. Not when they start lying so much and treating me worse than they did before.
Rachel Weiss
Female
Thanks for sharing, Falcon. It's true, as the song goes, no man ever won a woman by getting down on his knees. I am surprised that more men don't realise that. It's not attractive or manly to beg, plead and cry. I lost all respect for my husband after he did that.
As far as religion goes, I am sure that an open relationship is compatible with many of today's religions, but perhaps not the "born again" stuff. I'm sorry she left you in such a fashion. Would you take her back?
Now? God no. lol. Not even just to have sex with. And I have to admit, if you take away the coldness behind her eyes, she is still, physically, very attractive in her mid-40's. Problem is, I know what getting in bed with her now would require later.
It took her moving out and my funk afterwards to realize how I had put up with her treating me like a doormat and how little respect I had come to have for myself. I had treated her like a princess and she, instead of loving me back equally, had taken advantage of the opportunity to turn things almost into a master/slave relationship. I had given her the power to do it, so I am partly at fault, but she did not have to take advantage of that power.
Domination can be fun, under the right circumstances, but after 15+ years of 24/7, it just serves to wear you down into . . . almost nothing.
I learned from it. I still treat my lady the best I can, but if I start noticing signs of things getting out of hand, we have a nice long chat.
Be that as it may, I would not wish my ex on my worst enemy and I don't know you, so that disqualifies you. lol
seriously? I was making a joke. Maybe a bad one, but geez.
eyespy07
Male
Bro, don't overdo it with the pampering. I know you want to treat your women (I should say current woman) very well, but don't go overboard. Makes you look needy and that you're a push over. I should know. Used to do that, too. However, it can be hard to maintain a healthy balance of being appreciative and caring all the while expecting reciprocation from your significant other. Sometimes, you have to take care of yourself and be just the right amount of distant from your lady. Glad that you recognize the signs from your ex. Hopefully, you can avoid those pitfalls with your current woman and gradually introduce her to this lifestyle. All the best man!
