Take half the responsibility for your situations.
if you are clear and implicit upfront about what you want and what you are looking for...
you won't keep getting your '
Thug Passion' lol.
Case in point:
MYSELF.
I'm having a great time with a couple here in Austin. Extremely sexy hotwife! It is the perfect scenario - we hang out, talk about current events, ******* great wine, enjoy each other's company, and retreat to the bedroom for a few hours of fun. I fuck her brains out seven ways from Sunday, we smile and part ways (until next time)
It works out this way because we discussed all the details beforehand.
Try that and see what happens