Or better yet talked with a family counselor about the numerous implications of intentionally having an illegitimate IR baby. Normally we would seriously not give a damn what people do or what fantasies they have but we have had experience in a similar situation.
Many years ago one of us worked for a company and one of the new admins was a single mom. She did a great job juggling motherhood and her job but she was always very outspoken how single motherhood was the best thing since sliced bread. Sort of like a poster here who claims to have an IR love baby but in her case the baby was very real.
Well her proselytizing worked and soon one of the other admins who was not married decided that single motherhood was the way to go and hooked up with a married guy in the office. Things did not go well after that, she found that after the baby was born it was 24/7 of solo responsibility and saw her prospects for a more meaningful relationship diminished when compared to ladies who did not have a baby as part of the package. In short, she loved her baby as a mom does but wished that she had made a different decision.
But here we have one poster who instead of focusing on the fantasy aspects of an IR love baby continually pushes for people to follow in 'their' supposed footsteps.
A baby is hard enough for a 'traditional' couple to raise let alone adding the complications of illegitimacy and multi racial. A baby is also a life long commitment so what happens when the hubby moves on and is no longer turned on by his wife dropping a kid that is not his? Our fantasies today are not the same as they were years ago.
Who supports this IR wonder baby? How is the bull involved, if at all, in the baby's life? How do you explain to the baby as will be necessary some day that they were not the result of a loving relationship, or even a mistake, but rather a sexual fetish? Would love to be a fly on the wall for that discussion. Better keep the number of the family counselor handy for the baby who has to process all of that.
What makes up for the hubby not having the fulfillment that comes from producing a baby with the woman he loves and who he has married? You know those moments when a couple looks at their baby and says 'she has your eyes' or 'she has your nose.' With a fetish baby no part of the hubby will be in the baby. None.
As we said have at it as far as fantasies have at it but when there is a poster who alleges it is reality we felt compelled to offer some voice of reason.
Who knows, maybe that poster is real but when we said 'prove it' they ran away and said they would not respond to us any further. So for those of you at all contemplating this course of action based on an Internet troll please do the same. Just say 'prove it.'
I like them as well!
