A note to the "Bulls" and Black men on this site

What`s preferable, i wonder:

(A) A single man posing as a couple,
(B) A white husband posing as his wife, or
(C) A married Black man posing as a single "bull"?

Please, tell me which of these three you think is most appropriate.
T.Y.

I prefer people who are honest about their situations over posers. I can’t STAND a liar. Maybe I’m in the wrong place. ?
 
Ok I've been on this site for some time now and I continue to see something that perplexes me a bit. We all know that there are a lot of husbands here without their wives knowledge and they will have a profile with either both of their pics or their wife's pic. I wonder how many of you realize that even if it is a genuine couple, the majority of the time it is the husband who handles most of the online accounts. Yet I continue to see guy after guy approaching couples as if they are talking to the wife. You do realize that if it is in fact the husband you are talking to then he will usually just play along and what you wind up doing is having a conversation with him pretending to be her all because you made that assumption. I follow a very simple rule, whenever I see a couple's profile, I ALWAYS assume that I am talking to the husband. Trust me, if you take this route and it does turn out to be the wife you are talking to, she WILL correct you. However, if you assume that every profile with a woman's pic is actually the woman you are talking to then you will just continue to show your inexperience and the fact that you are way too eager. Just a PSA from your friendly neighborhood Bull.

such a huge learning lesson from a true Bull Master. When you told me this 3 years ago, it changed everything for me. I have had way more success meeting couples knowing that im talking to the husband. I dont play into their fantasy chat and just direct them to do what I need them to do. If they are a real husband with a hotwife they need direction and appreciate that im not wasting their time.
 
My profile says M

Hell...my profile says “male” and they still start out talking to me like I’m the wife, LOL!
yea unfortunately some guys will just see a picture of a female on a profile and automatically assume that it's a woman's profile. Just take it as an early indicator of who is actually exploring your profile for details.
 
I talk to couple as a group. If its a couple i start with "hey how are you guys doing?". With single females i just say "hey pretty lady". With couples i always say you guys or yall
 
Great post! I’d like to add something about our unique situation. I would be one of those poser guys but fortunately I’m with a kinky, BBC living BBW. Voluptuous Wife is early 50’s. Years ago and new to the lifestyle her BF shared her with his BBC pal. That’s all it took :). However with a move and new job and then aging parent issues we became non-active cuz you have to deal with life.

We’ve been talking about spicing things up again. Busy summer but we thought we’d dip our toes back in the water this fall. I came across this site accidentally and loved it. She liked the idea too. My goal is not to ‘handle the arrangements’ in the future but to turn the account and password over to her. In the meantime, i enjoy the posts but don’t initiate contact. If someone contacts us, i always reply with ‘hubby here’. Hopefully I can show her how to navigate the site and we can get verified.

In the meantime, this post is a rare opportunity for me to get involved in the conversation so Thanks.

Btw- since your giving the Guys advice: a first message reading- ‘hey you sexy. Let me know when you want my BBC n all 3 holes’ is NOT a turn on to a lot of women so some of you are lucky that there are husbands screening.

Thanks,
k
I think your wife and I would have a LOT in common! We’re just a little down the road from aging parents, ******* are launched, and life is full of kinky fun again (and tho the kid/parent years were tough sometimes, I wouldn’t trade them for anything!) THANK YOU for advising the fellas to dial it back on the locker room talk when they are talking to us ladies. I’m sure some of us are fine with it, and you’ll know if the woman you’re talking is if she’s crude herself. But ALL the hot wives I know are really turned off by it. I probably would have met someone who’s very attractive, and then he had to throw the C—- word in there. ?
 
Ok I've been on this site for some time now and I continue to see something that perplexes me a bit. We all know that there are a lot of husbands here without their wives knowledge and they will have a profile with either both of their pics or their wife's pic. I wonder how many of you realize that even if it is a genuine couple, the majority of the time it is the husband who handles most of the online accounts. Yet I continue to see guy after guy approaching couples as if they are talking to the wife. You do realize that if it is in fact the husband you are talking to then he will usually just play along and what you wind up doing is having a conversation with him pretending to be her all because you made that assumption. I follow a very simple rule, whenever I see a couple's profile, I ALWAYS assume that I am talking to the husband. Trust me, if you take this route and it does turn out to be the wife you are talking to, she WILL correct you. However, if you assume that every profile with a woman's pic is actually the woman you are talking to then you will just continue to show your inexperience and the fact that you are way too eager. Just a PSA from your friendly neighborhood Bull.
Spoken like a true champ! Thanks bro
 
I just read this and I thought I was the only smart one..... Most times when I talk to a so called woman or couple I have said your wife looks so good... And you are right if it is the wife they will say "i am the wife" or "i will tell her" so then you know.....
 
A lot of times the hubs have the fantasy and trying to get the wife into this type of play. They are very patient and can take up to 5 years trying to their Wives to get the courage to try or even watch Interracial porn

I just start the conversation off with an emphasis on building a trusting friendship right from the start. I simply let them know I can speak to the hub or the wife but don't play games about your true desire or intentions. Then it becomes a waste of my time and theirs and that's something we can never get back.
Tj
 
We are a couple not a single woman.So a guy needs to understand that we set the rules concerning us.He needs to seduce this couple so to speak and not just her.Other wise if it's just a lady to screw that your looking for ,you have a better chance at the grocery store or a bar.But if your wanting to be spice or a bull to a couple it's a whole different ball game
 
We are a couple not a single woman.So a guy needs to understand that we set the rules concerning us.He needs to seduce this couple so to speak and not just her.Other wise if it's just a lady to screw that your looking for ,you have a better chance at the grocery store or a bar.But if your wanting to be spice or a bull to a couple it's a whole different ball game
This could not have been spoken better!
 
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