New kid on the block...(that's the b2w block, not life, sex, or group sex) I am not the most experienced in this part of the realm, but I've been with enough couples to know that the man - don't care about the situation - is in the mix and you're not getting to her without going through him. Whether that means you should assume you're talking to the wife or not, it only makes sense to me that the only valid assumption is that you don't say anything to one that you wouldn't say to the other and that you never conclude anything until "the deal is signed by both." It's not only practical, it's respectful. Besides, it's like they say: when you "assume", you make an "ass" out of "u" and "me".
As for the games people play pretending to be what they aren't to try to get laid, well, there will always be lots of those around. This is a sex site, after all, and some form of pleasure or another is what we're all after - be it informative pleasure, social interaction pleasure or the killing of millions of brain cells pleasure (aka, getting and receiving explosive orgasms). It doesn't matter as much ("as much" is the operative phrase here) who's playing what deceptive role unless and until someone begins to depend on the deception. When I think there's a possibility of attraction - on any of our parts - you better believe that if they didn't already know, then I'm telling them I'm married playing here alone. My wife knows I'm into sex and porn - she met me that way almost 20 years ago. I went through a period of intense self doubt about my sexual performance and "tasted the lifestyle" as a way to find out if I was done for good or not. I invited my wife into it but she wanted nothing to do with it. (She doesn't like things that are "untidy", "messy" or too "out there", so she decided to take a "don't ask, don't tell" attitude. That was almost 6 years ago. I don't play much. We're happy, but I do enjoy some fun when it presents itself with people who don't mind my situation - and I know there are many who don't care for what is essentially a cheating husband no matter what the "understanding" or circumstances. That's cool, we all have preferences and likes and they should be respected.
Jeez, I didn't mean to go off into all of this, but you muthafuckas here get into some real good, down home fun and serious s ******* and I love it!!! What a gathering!!
