As a black man who has been in this lifestyle for more than 10 years I can say that I have never made any requests of a playmate outside of:
A.Be completely uninhibited to do whatever you please when we are together with hubby or boyfriends blessing to maximize your satisfaction.
B. Don't tell me "no"! Because number one its probably not going to stop me, and number two you probably don't mean it anyways!
Women offering to dress up in sexy outfits and wear lingerie or heels is sexy but it's you that I desire it's you that want and none of that stuff makes me want you more when I already want you beyond reason with your sexy ass! I don't take anything away from the little sexy things that women do but it's just adds a drop in the bucket of the desire that I already have for you!