Well, I’ll add my LIMITED understanding of what is currently working for my husband and I. We have been married 6 years (second one for both of us) and I’ve become a true QoS for just 2.5 years. No, my husband has not “fucked” me for almost 3 years since we started the hotwife path/lifestyle. We DO have sex, which is primarily him performing oral sex on me - which he is TRULY gifted at!!!
But, I believe it’s already been said on this subject that my attraction to my husband goes well beyond sexual. We are soulmates, best friends and true lovers for each other. Sex- is something that I’d a part of our relationship in a far different realm than most couples and it has varying degrees of connections within our relationship. Hubs has had ED for almost 4 years so the hotwife path was one he actively encouraged for me to still enjoy penetration sex with the new realm of Domination/Submission- which I truly LOVE. The men that “use” me take me to places sexually that my loving husband could NEVER do to me even though he knows I get off on it so much. So, the way that many black kings treat white “sluts” because of the way that our white privelage society has treated them, just fulfills a need/desire I never truly knew I had.
The parts I’m struggling with are dealing with the humiliation hubs was exposed to the one time he watched me used by two black kings. Even though he said he loved it, it bothered me afterward with guilt from what both they, and I, put him through and said. The other part is that one of the bulls I’m used by semi regularly keeps telling me that hubs would be better off gay for sex and that I should encourage/require him to please men alongside me. It does turn me on so much but I don’t want to hurt him emotionally or risk losing him.
For now, he supports our path and even loves to clean me when I return to him. I wish that I had more time left to enjoy this ride, but will embrace it completely as long as I can.
Laurie