Let him clean afterwards. So he knows he's not completely out of the loop.My main guy wanted to take my ass. I refused hubby for years. When he asked it turned me on. I ordered a set of butt plugs as soon as I left. That and lube with patience and chastity you can achieve anything. I let hubby watch me and didn't tell him I was going to do anal. You should have seen his face lol. J Xoxoxo