In this lifestyle you have different dynamics & different fantasies by the wife & the husband , so it is a case by case basis .
First you have to determine or be told what kind of relationship the couple has :"Stag /Vixen, Hot-wife /Cuck etc."
Also you have to be truthful to yourself of what you are actually capable of & what you are comfortable with?
Can you pound a wife of another man into bliss while he is present with his d*i*c*k* out or in her mouth?
Can you explode in her mouth & then watch her kiss him ?
Can you go out for drinks or dinner with them after that ?
Can you establish boundaries they agree to & not to push& have a great relationship with them?
I say that because if it is a cucks wife that is interested in you or vice/versa , these are the things that happen.
Because on this site and other sites you'll see guys & girls who say they are in this lifestyle but when you look at their media , you'll find out that they are truly "Exhibitionists " and not whom they portray themselves to be ~ (There's a lot of that)
Some wives want the husbands belittled & some husbands want to be ordered around & some couples just want another to join .
(It's just another level of understanding their desires & yours as well)
You will find all of this out with care & communication from both parties & some trusted allies whom the couple associates with .
That's how you will build long lasting bonds (If that's your goal, which is one of my goals in the lifestyle)
So when the bull orders the cuck to leave , you should be clued in by one or both in the couple or a trusted ally that this is what they truly want to happen in order to strengthen the bond & the relationship of all involved .
That has been my experience in this type of dynamic & truly works for me