It is possible to have romantic feelings for your boyfriend and still love your husband.....love them both...just a little differently
When I brought the topic up to my wife about her sleeping with a black man and she said okay I got around to asking if she knew of anybody. She said there was this one guy and she spoke
very fondly of him.
I asked her about him and she mentioned the fact they had worked together for quite some time together (4 years) before he left for another casino so she had a chance to get to know him; She said he was good looking, tall, very charming and fawned over her quite a bit.
I picked up this vibe from her and asked if she had any "feelings" for him. I knew this was a gotcha/trap type question so I said to her please be honest and that nothing she said was going to upset me.
She admitted she had this
thing for him and it was because here was this huge black guy going out of his way to make me feel special and it was impossible not to be taken in by him on some level. She said this was the first time anything like this had happened to her and it happened gradually.
I brought up had she ever thought about him sexually prior to me asking her to sleep with a black man and she said there were times he gave her pause to contemplate what a night would be like with him.
I admitted I enjoyed hearing she liked the guy prior to all of this and told her this is going to sound weird but I had to ask her a question. I said I know we talked about you
sleeping with a black man but this
connection you have with this guy leads me to believe, although I could be wrong, you two could be lovers. I let that sink in for a second while I worked up some nerve then came out and asked could it be possible this could be more than just sex between you two at some point in bed.
My wife was forthright and said if it was this guy, his name is Isaac by the way, there would be emotions involved. I asked could you take him as a lover, I mean make love to him? She answered, in the simplest terms, if it's Isaac you can count on us making love to each other.
There you have it: Truth between a husband and wife