I read your post and i see you are in real struggle and im amazed.
Normally when I want to fuck normally use a Craigslist... now they don't have this section about sex but if you post a ad of sort:
Need a black or white plumber for wife should fit pipe over a 8 inches or etc. gonna work.
From Craigslist i fuck mens or they blow me and never been high and dry. Meet the guys, sometimes the want just to suck me but when they see my cock (its nice) they offered a asshole.
Like to fuck them hard, cum inside and they clean me afterwards and most of them are professional, nice clean people in big flats, once fuck a old man in nursing home, very polite fellow, he suck me like champion and offer a ass... i stop with that after get married because my wife think its not normal and etc... but my passion are womans and i will never miss a chance to fuck a nice lady like your one. So try Craigslist...