Having an orgasm and the level it hits you at is dependent on so many things, not just one thing. I find if you want something mind blowing it is all about teasing and building up and getting that internal fire and desire just burning. You want that anticipation to be there as well as excitement and both to be driving both of you. Then when you rip the clothes off and take it to the bedroom take time to explore and enjoy yourselves. Play, taste, feel, try this or that, talk dirty, laugh and really enjoy it. Quickies have their place in the world but not everything needs to be rushed.