Update with wife

Hi. First off, I would say your wife takes very good care of herself and looks like she's in her early to mid 20s. Second, you're making great progress! Feels like you're doing better than most guys who get frustrated or who's women aren't very open-minded at all. It seems like your lady is but has some hesitation...
which is normal. At least she's open to watching porn movies with you and is letting you choose the theme.

As with most women, they don't want the world to know how slutty they can truly be. I found it interesting that she was into your idea going to a club and dressing up kind of slutty/revealing and "acting single" while random guys flirt with her. This may be your best bet into introducing her to this lifestyle. Do you know if she was real or secretly slutty in her teens and 20s? I'm thinking getting her to try BBC will have to be a long term goal as some Latinas are still raised conservatively and negros(black guys) are a no-no. Though, this is changing and a lot more of them are dating or marrying black. It's different if the guy is black Latino. Anyways.

You may want to go the swinger route with your wife. Though again, baby steps. That way, she can "feel single" and meet up/fuck guys while you watch and eventually join in. If you two can eventually meet IR couples, then you'll be all set.

Can't wait for more updates.
Hey! Thank you for taking time to read my progress, I know it was long. A little background on her she does take care of herself and she just turned 34 a few weeks ago with 2 toddlers. Have known her throughout high school and had several mutual friends after high school and college and would never hear any stories about her. I was her second and last real boyfriend and person she’s had sex with.

I do feel I can build off of her getting hit on at the bar or club. I feel I can use that as a gateway to erotic questions to get her mind rolling some more.
 
Hey! Thank you for taking time to read my progress, I know it was long. A little background on her she does take care of herself and she just turned 34 a few weeks ago with 2 toddlers. Have known her throughout high school and had several mutual friends after high school and college and would never hear any stories about her. I was her second and last real boyfriend and person she’s had sex with.

I do feel I can build off of her getting hit on at the bar or club. I feel I can use that as a gateway to erotic questions to get her mind rolling some more.
No problem. Ok, there you go. She has a very very low body count (extremely rare these days!) and you're only the 2nd man she's been with. She looks amazing for being a MILF! Bro, she's got a lot of potential. You can play off the fact that she hasn't had much sexual experience and that you'd like guide her through what she's "missed out on". She may go really wild for BBC! lol
 
To be honest, she sounds terminally monogamous. At least by your account, she is applying her “brakes” on the idea of visualizing or fantasizing about sexual gratification with others or from others. It’s likely due to guilt creeping in on her and likely to also feel shameful for it.This is common among most monogamous people especially women. Traditional marriage has really done a magnificent job at suppressing primal urges . If you really want to effectively move forward, I strongly recommend couples counseling with a FEMALE sex therapist that specializes in alternative relationships or non monogamy.
 
Update with my wife…

Brought up the conversation again last week and it sounded promising, again. She was asking all the questions do you plan on being there? Are you joining? And right when I was getting excited she flips it and goes off on me saying how can I think she would do something like that, she got married to only be with one man, I’m making her feel less by saying I would only watch….. I tried to make it about the 2 of us. I mentioned that I would like for her to experience an explosive orgasm or multiple ones knowing that maybe 80% of our sex life I cum way before her and can see her working to have one after me or she is left hanging. And also I mentioned if was a fantasy of mine seeing her letting loose and exploring sexual pleasure she never felt.
I didn’t think about it at the time because I was stressing out seeing her upset but I probably should have asked that if I joined then would that change her mind.

Will probably put this on pause for a few months and visit the topic again.
 
Update with my wife…

Brought up the conversation again last week and it sounded promising, again. She was asking all the questions do you plan on being there? Are you joining? And right when I was getting excited she flips it and goes off on me saying how can I think she would do something like that, she got married to only be with one man, I’m making her feel less by saying I would only watch….. I tried to make it about the 2 of us. I mentioned that I would like for her to experience an explosive orgasm or multiple ones knowing that maybe 80% of our sex life I cum way before her and can see her working to have one after me or she is left hanging. And also I mentioned if was a fantasy of mine seeing her letting loose and exploring sexual pleasure she never felt.
I didn’t think about it at the time because I was stressing out seeing her upset but I probably should have asked that if I joined then would that change her mind.

Will probably put this on pause for a few months and visit the topic again.
that is a good idea!
 
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