I would like to be 3, 4, 8, 9 or 13. That is if she is home I would want to be there. if she took some time to go have a fling with her lover, then that would be fine too as she has always been sexier when on vacation and I wouldn't expect that to stop. It isn't like I couldn't find something to do to relieve the tension while she was gone.
I would of course take her to a lover and wait. But I am not a issy nor would I want to wear a cage. But if a cage were a requirement before she took on a BBC lover, then, maybe.....