Within the adult lifestyle in question (see title) it is well understood that in this context "BBC" is used as abbreviation for Big Black Cock.
In this post i will raise the question of the importance of the BBC as a trait for the third (i.e. additional) player, taking its meaning literally. Also i will discuss this topic from a personal point of view (meaning our viewpoint, both mine and my girlfriend`s, as we have discussed it).
Initially, i need to say that what my girlfriend and i look for in an additional participant are (slightly) different, but luckily not disjoint characteristics. But let me start by explaining where our ideas fully overlap and each our motives...
We are both looking for a male person to occasionally extend our sexual play.
She, firstly, because she is about 99% straight and the arousal another woman would stir in her would not be worth the effort, and secondly, because another woman as the third player would most probably result in a jealousy issue on her part.
i, firstly, because the most important reason why i choose to participate in this lifestyle is my woman`s satisfaction which - for me - is more important than my own. (This is why i put the "Hotwife" before the "Cuckold" when i talk about the lifestyle we participate in.
) Secondly, i don`t feel the need to be with a woman other than my girlfriend.
For completeness, let me say that i am sexually not drawn to men, but it`s men that help me satisfy my woman. Also, would my lady happen to be bisexual, i (and probably the both of us) would likewise welcome a woman as an addition, but then for her (my GF`s) pleasure - not for mine. My woman will always be the center of any imaginable arrangement.
i suspect that most B2w members would agree on that the best candidate for a "bull" (or whatever term one may use for the additional player) would be a Black man with a big dick. - For us it is more subtle than that.
Depending on the variety of our sexual play, we seek different characteristics in "the other guy", each for different reasons. Or, - better put - the variety of our sexual lifestyle play depends on the traits of our playmate.
Penis size matters! (And this is how...)
A bigger dick can be an advantage when it comes to penetrative sex, because it is able to stretch my woman in a way my average sized dick can`t, it provides her with a feeling of being fuller filled, and more frictive stimulation.
A medium sized dick is an advantage, because it is easier to get "right to the point" without the need for extended foreplay which would be otherwise necessary for her to accommodate a huge "member". Also, it is easier to seamlessly extend a BJ to deep-throating with a medium dick than it would be with a huge one.
A below average sized dick would be advantageous for DP-ing, which can already be hard even with two medium-sized dicks, and is (almost) impossible with a huge dick involved.
But the most important advantage and a major reason for inviting another person "into our bed" is the level of excitement this kind of arrangement creates for its out-of-the-box nature, and the factor of surprise interaction with a less acquainted person holds, ultimately leading to a high level of arousal, pleasure and, yes, both more and more intense orgasms.
Having this said, stamina is important! And far more than dick size.
But even a man with unconvincing staying-power could compensate for that, if his recreational time is short enough. (It is an inherent characteristic of male physique that typically "round #2" is more promising than the first. )
The only real disappointment would be a man who is not able to get an errection in the first place or is absolutely unable to maintain it. But i tend to think, there is fortunately a bad chance that someone who is knowingly lacking in this department is trying to get in touch with a couple for the purpose of sexual activities in the first place. But after all we keep in mind that it`s humans involved in this lifestyle, not machines!
Instead of a list of criteria a supposed playmate has to meet, we prefer to find someone we click with on a sympathy level, which means it is more likely that we will find it easier to loosen our buttons and simply have some instinctive carnal fun together. Of course some mutual sexual attraction between my girlfriend and the additional guy is a prerequisite too!
SIDENOTE: B2w is an "interracial" community mainly advertising Black-men-on-white-Woman (sexual) relations. Honestly, i have to admit that my girlfriend has no real preference for a particular group of men based on skin color. - And this is where my girlfriend and i differ (slightly and yet the most), as it is me who prefers a Black man to take care of my woman, because of the mere eroticism and arousal it (naturally?) creates in me to see a Black man`s skin contrasting to my white woman`s skin every single time she receives his caressing hands on her and his thrusts in her.
SIDENOTE #2: i do not have a "racial" preference either. i fell in love with my white girlfriend for the person she is inside and out. It was not even on purpose. i could likewise have fallen in love with a Black, an Arabian, an Indian, a far-east-Asian, or latino, or whatever woman as well. It just happened i didn`t.
Can anyone somehow relate to this? Please, answer:
Is the "BBC" an important part of your (intended) lifestyle, or even a necessity, or
not at all that important?
What is your opinion?
T.Y.
In this post i will raise the question of the importance of the BBC as a trait for the third (i.e. additional) player, taking its meaning literally. Also i will discuss this topic from a personal point of view (meaning our viewpoint, both mine and my girlfriend`s, as we have discussed it).
Initially, i need to say that what my girlfriend and i look for in an additional participant are (slightly) different, but luckily not disjoint characteristics. But let me start by explaining where our ideas fully overlap and each our motives...
We are both looking for a male person to occasionally extend our sexual play.
She, firstly, because she is about 99% straight and the arousal another woman would stir in her would not be worth the effort, and secondly, because another woman as the third player would most probably result in a jealousy issue on her part.
i, firstly, because the most important reason why i choose to participate in this lifestyle is my woman`s satisfaction which - for me - is more important than my own. (This is why i put the "Hotwife" before the "Cuckold" when i talk about the lifestyle we participate in.
) Secondly, i don`t feel the need to be with a woman other than my girlfriend.For completeness, let me say that i am sexually not drawn to men, but it`s men that help me satisfy my woman.
Also, would my lady happen to be bisexual, i (and probably the both of us) would likewise welcome a woman as an addition, but then for her (my GF`s) pleasure - not for mine. My woman will always be the center of any imaginable arrangement.i suspect that most B2w members would agree on that the best candidate for a "bull" (or whatever term one may use for the additional player) would be a Black man with a big dick. - For us it is more subtle than that.
Depending on the variety of our sexual play, we seek different characteristics in "the other guy", each for different reasons. Or, - better put - the variety of our sexual lifestyle play depends on the traits of our playmate.
Penis size matters! (And this is how...)
A bigger dick can be an advantage when it comes to penetrative sex, because it is able to stretch my woman in a way my average sized dick can`t, it provides her with a feeling of being fuller filled, and more frictive stimulation.
A medium sized dick is an advantage, because it is easier to get "right to the point" without the need for extended foreplay which would be otherwise necessary for her to accommodate a huge "member". Also, it is easier to seamlessly extend a BJ to deep-throating with a medium dick than it would be with a huge one.
A below average sized dick would be advantageous for DP-ing, which can already be hard even with two medium-sized dicks, and is (almost) impossible with a huge dick involved.
But the most important advantage and a major reason for inviting another person "into our bed" is the level of excitement this kind of arrangement creates for its out-of-the-box nature, and the factor of surprise interaction with a less acquainted person holds, ultimately leading to a high level of arousal, pleasure and, yes, both more and more intense orgasms.
Having this said, stamina is important! And far more than dick size.
But even a man with unconvincing staying-power could compensate for that, if his recreational time is short enough. (It is an inherent characteristic of male physique that typically "round #2" is more promising than the first.
)The only real disappointment would be a man who is not able to get an errection in the first place or is absolutely unable to maintain it. But i tend to think, there is fortunately a bad chance that someone who is knowingly lacking in this department is trying to get in touch with a couple for the purpose of sexual activities in the first place.
But after all we keep in mind that it`s humans involved in this lifestyle, not machines!Instead of a list of criteria a supposed playmate has to meet, we prefer to find someone we click with on a sympathy level, which means it is more likely that we will find it easier to loosen our buttons and simply have some instinctive carnal fun together.
Of course some mutual sexual attraction between my girlfriend and the additional guy is a prerequisite too!SIDENOTE: B2w is an "interracial" community mainly advertising Black-men-on-white-Woman (sexual) relations. Honestly, i have to admit that my girlfriend has no real preference for a particular group of men based on skin color. - And this is where my girlfriend and i differ (slightly and yet the most), as it is me who prefers a Black man to take care of my woman, because of the mere eroticism and arousal it (naturally?) creates in me to see a Black man`s skin contrasting to my white woman`s skin every single time she receives his caressing hands on her and his thrusts in her.
SIDENOTE #2: i do not have a "racial" preference either. i fell in love with my white girlfriend for the person she is inside and out. It was not even on purpose. i could likewise have fallen in love with a Black, an Arabian, an Indian, a far-east-Asian, or latino, or whatever woman as well. It just happened i didn`t.
Can anyone somehow relate to this? Please, answer:
Is the "BBC" an important part of your (intended) lifestyle, or even a necessity, or
not at all that important?
What is your opinion?
T.Y.
