I've never been opposed to it. I've always wanted her to be blacked.
The conservative wife dilemma
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Good luck. My wife was super game and we enjoyed ourselves immensely. She’s now gone ultra-conservative and seems to like the the thought but not be prepared to go past talking and it’s driving me insane.
I'm in the same boat,.
Frustrating isn’t the word! She’s on the verge of being single again
I think I have very valuable advice. In my case we decided to make the jump and initially it was amazing. She had the best sex of her life w a bull w a big thick cock. I didn't settle into the cuckold role well however. Realize once a woman goes down this path she often becomes more dom and hubby more submissive in and out of the bedroom. I then tried to take it away from her and she left me for bbc. Big mistake on my end....so realize if you make the next step, its not a one time thing, and be prepared to be a cuckold. But consider yourself lucky because looking back on it, I wish I would have settled into the role better. I just wasn't ready for it
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Don’t push her, maybe lay together and watch some IR vids? Start with sexy, classy one on one action and then maybe ramp up to IR three ways.
As one poster wrote, political leanings have little, to no, effect upon sexual desires/actions. We've played in the IR arena, off and on, for over 33 years. Over the past 12-13 years, our play has been in the IR arena, by choice, solely. Why? Because I enjoy it, because he enjoys watching and, on those occasions I'm alone with my black lover, knowing I'm enjoying myself and we both enjoy the knowledge that my lover is enjoying himself. Political leanings don't even come up between the three of us because they are immaterial. So, with that being said, let's focus on the many TRUTHS that have been offered to the OP.
1. Trust is ABSOLUTELY necessary. I have to trust my husband's words are the truth when asked if he is still enjoying OUR play in IR. I have to trust my lover is loyal to me and my husband and will not bring any diseases into my vanilla life nor my "swirl" life. In other words, as long as his ******* tests come back clean, we have sex the way a man and woman were meant to make love. He has to trust the same thing from us. If anyone desires to end things, it's a simple as contacting the other party(ies) and saying so.
2. Limits must be set and respected while, at the same time, desiring to "push the envelope" and go deeper into this lifestyle. When we first started, any relationship with a black male was about sex only. However, as we played longer, we realized to enjoy the sexual side of things as deeply as desired, my relationship with my lovers had to be "affairs of the heart" and involve love. So, we researched polyamory and have been in a few such relationships over the past decade plus with black males we've invited into our life. I, with my husband's blessings and encouragement, have experienced loving two men at the same time and exploring polyamory...again, according to our definition of polyamory. One of the things one learns from living a consensual non-monogamous relationship is each relationship is unique and does not fit a preconceived pattern. What we seek may not agree with what my "lover of the moment" is searching for and that is fine. We can still have a relationship within the parameters agreed upon by the three of us.
3. The husband MUST be an active participant, even if it's only to greet the lover and then leave or if he stays and actively participates in the sexual activities. Coupled with this is the lover must respect the marriage of the couple. An aside here: DO NOT TRY THIS IF YOUR MARRIAGE IS ROCKY, ON THE ROCKS OR IT'S OBVIOUS THAT'S WHERE IT IS HEADED! Sexual play will NOT fix your "issues;" in fact, it will only exacerbate things.
4. Finally, (for this posting anyway) it's vital to not view things through the narrow prism of "conservative" or "liberal." They are just labels. What you are doing is engaging in sexual activity that is viewed, by some, as outside the norm. I realized this the first time I was at an on premises club with my lover and we made love in the public room. On the few times I looked around the room at the spectators watching as a black man and a white woman made love to each other, I saw the whole gamut of emotions play out on the faces of both men and women...jealousy because they wanted to be where he, or I, were. Disapproval that there was IR sex taking place and it was obvious it was enjoyable to both of us. There were other emotions that played out, of course, but these are some of the most relevant. Bottom line, if you want to play in the IR pool, jump in AFTER have many long, honest, open discussions about what you and your mate are looking for plus the same discussions with your potential lover.
1. Trust is ABSOLUTELY necessary. I have to trust my husband's words are the truth when asked if he is still enjoying OUR play in IR. I have to trust my lover is loyal to me and my husband and will not bring any diseases into my vanilla life nor my "swirl" life. In other words, as long as his ******* tests come back clean, we have sex the way a man and woman were meant to make love. He has to trust the same thing from us. If anyone desires to end things, it's a simple as contacting the other party(ies) and saying so.
2. Limits must be set and respected while, at the same time, desiring to "push the envelope" and go deeper into this lifestyle. When we first started, any relationship with a black male was about sex only. However, as we played longer, we realized to enjoy the sexual side of things as deeply as desired, my relationship with my lovers had to be "affairs of the heart" and involve love. So, we researched polyamory and have been in a few such relationships over the past decade plus with black males we've invited into our life. I, with my husband's blessings and encouragement, have experienced loving two men at the same time and exploring polyamory...again, according to our definition of polyamory. One of the things one learns from living a consensual non-monogamous relationship is each relationship is unique and does not fit a preconceived pattern. What we seek may not agree with what my "lover of the moment" is searching for and that is fine. We can still have a relationship within the parameters agreed upon by the three of us.
3. The husband MUST be an active participant, even if it's only to greet the lover and then leave or if he stays and actively participates in the sexual activities. Coupled with this is the lover must respect the marriage of the couple. An aside here: DO NOT TRY THIS IF YOUR MARRIAGE IS ROCKY, ON THE ROCKS OR IT'S OBVIOUS THAT'S WHERE IT IS HEADED! Sexual play will NOT fix your "issues;" in fact, it will only exacerbate things.
4. Finally, (for this posting anyway) it's vital to not view things through the narrow prism of "conservative" or "liberal." They are just labels. What you are doing is engaging in sexual activity that is viewed, by some, as outside the norm. I realized this the first time I was at an on premises club with my lover and we made love in the public room. On the few times I looked around the room at the spectators watching as a black man and a white woman made love to each other, I saw the whole gamut of emotions play out on the faces of both men and women...jealousy because they wanted to be where he, or I, were. Disapproval that there was IR sex taking place and it was obvious it was enjoyable to both of us. There were other emotions that played out, of course, but these are some of the most relevant. Bottom line, if you want to play in the IR pool, jump in AFTER have many long, honest, open discussions about what you and your mate are looking for plus the same discussions with your potential lover.
Exactly the same here. It took a long to convince her I had no interest in sleeping with other women. And then it took a long time for our fantasy to become a reality. She was extremely worried that I would think less of her, that she was "slutty", etc. Once she saw none of this was true, she really got into it and it became a great thing for both of us
That gives me some hope. My wife is still resistant.
yes, sometimes there is no way it will happen and you can't ******* it for sure but hopefully your wife will give it a try. Good luck !
thanks. my birthday is coming up. she asked what I want. I said, well, it involves sex. she said, "It always is with you."
It's not cheating if you're watching and approve! "The marriage bed is undefiled" as long as both of you are in agreement and enjoy yourselves!
The great preacher Jerry Falwell's wife had a boyfriend and the only problem was that their personal business got out into the open. Other than that it was all good that his wife had a side piece!
✌I hear you. Checked out of your vids man good work. Would like to see my wife on the receiving end of that. She is normally quiet when it's me and her, a little bit louder when we use her toys. I always wondered if she could ever be taken to that point of being loudIt's not cheating if you're watching and approve! "The marriage bed is undefiled" as long as both of you are in agreement and enjoy yourselves!
The great preacher Jerry Falwell's wife had a boyfriend and the only problem was that their personal business got out into the open. Other than that it was all good that his wife had a side piece! ♠
Oh yeah she would let it all go and fully express herself with the right person as long as she understood that it was ok to be totally uninhibited in the bedroom.
great advice,.It's time to "flip the script". From now on all your sexual excitement and satisfaction should be focused on HER PLEASURE! Every time you give her an orgasm, tell her how incredible it was to witness and how much it makes you love her and want her even more. From now on her pleasure = your pleasure.
If she will give herself an orgasm while you watch and jerk off, even better! Let her know that's the sexiest thing you can possibly witness, her losing herself in pleasure. Because she loves you and cares about your pleasure too, she will enjoy the best of both worlds - It's a win-win for her.
When my wife gets fucked by another guy, it's a love-give we are both giving each other. I love her and want her to have all the fun and pleasure she wants. Now my wife knows I watch her having sex with other guys with love in my heart and dick in my hand!
Don't look at your wife's hesitation as a bad thing. She's concerned for your relationship and she's trying to protect something wonderful in both your lives. You should confront that head-on and tell her how much you appreciate that concern and show her that you also want to protect your love and happy home. Once she knows your home life and love are safe, she may relax into this.
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Es ist Zeit, "das Skript umzudrehen". Von nun an sollte all Ihre sexuelle Erregung und Befriedigung auf IHR GENUSS gerichtet sein! Sagen Sie ihr jedes Mal, wenn Sie ihr einen Orgasmus geben, wie unglaublich es war, Zeuge zu werden und wie sehr Sie sie lieben und noch mehr wollen. Von nun an ihr Vergnügen = dein Vergnügen.
Wenn sie sich einen Orgasmus gibt, während Sie zuschauen und wichsen, noch besser! Lassen Sie sie wissen, dass dies das sexieste ist, was Sie erleben können. Sie verliert sich vor Vergnügen. Weil sie dich liebt und sich auch um dein Vergnügen kümmert, wird sie das Beste aus beiden Welten genießen - es ist eine Win-Win-Situation für sie.
Wenn meine Frau von einem anderen Mann gefickt wird, ist es ein Liebesgeschenk, das wir uns beide geben. Ich liebe sie und möchte, dass sie alle den Spaß und das Sorgen hat, das sie wird. Jetzt weiß meine Frau, dass ich sehe, wie sie Sex mit anderen Menschen hat, mit Liebe in meinen Herzen und Schwanz in meiner Hand! : Liebe :: Liebe :: Liebe:
Dies Sie haben die Zigen Ihre Frau nicht als eine schlechte Sache. Sie ist in Bezug auf Ihre Beziehung und in Bezug auf etwas Regelbares in Bezug auf Leben zu Schutz. Sie müssen sich selbst direkt damit aushaltenetzen und ihr sagen, wie sehr Sie diese Sorge haben, und ihr zeigen, dass Sie auch Ihre Liebe und Ihr glückliches Zuhause erhalten haben. Müssen sie weiß, dass Ihr Leben zu Hause und Ihre Liebe sicher sind, können sie sich darin entspannen.
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Es ist Zeit, "das Skript umzudrehen". Von nun an sollte all Ihre sexuelle Erregung und Befriedigung auf IHR GENUSS gerichtet sein! Sagen Sie ihr jedes Mal, wenn Sie ihr einen Orgasmus geben, wie unglaublich es war, Zeuge zu werden und wie sehr Sie sie lieben und noch mehr wollen. Von nun an ihr Vergnügen = dein Vergnügen.
Wenn sie sich einen Orgasmus gibt, während Sie zuschauen und wichsen, noch besser! Lassen Sie sie wissen, dass dies das sexieste ist, was Sie erleben können. Sie verliert sich vor Vergnügen. Weil sie dich liebt und sich auch um dein Vergnügen kümmert, wird sie das Beste aus beiden Welten genießen - es ist eine Win-Win-Situation für sie.
Wenn meine Frau von einem anderen Mann gefickt wird, ist es ein Liebesgeschenk, das wir uns beide geben. Ich liebe sie und möchte, dass sie alle den Spaß und das Sorgen hat, das sie wird. Jetzt weiß meine Frau, dass ich sehe, wie sie Sex mit anderen Menschen hat, mit Liebe in meinen Herzen und Schwanz in meiner Hand! : Liebe :: Liebe :: Liebe:
Dies Sie haben die Zigen Ihre Frau nicht als eine schlechte Sache. Sie ist in Bezug auf Ihre Beziehung und in Bezug auf etwas Regelbares in Bezug auf Leben zu Schutz. Sie müssen sich selbst direkt damit aushaltenetzen und ihr sagen, wie sehr Sie diese Sorge haben, und ihr zeigen, dass Sie auch Ihre Liebe und Ihr glückliches Zuhause erhalten haben. Müssen sie weiß, dass Ihr Leben zu Hause und Ihre Liebe sicher sind, können sie sich darin entspannen.
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So war es bei uns auch.
love it. keeping my fingers crossed for my wife to try.
that’s my hangup. Hers too. More so for me than her, I think. As she says once she’s fucked, she can’t be unfucked and Probably would want to be more fucked.
That’s absolutely awesome
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