@superdick33, I gotcha bro and totally understandable. I've never stopped doing many of the activities you mentioned myself and still balance play from off the site. This is just another aspect to the lifestyle but I very much enjoy meeting regular chics and rocking their world.
My problem has been a lot of the single ladies instantly become clingy and head over heels hence I like the unattachment from wives and BF/gf couples. It definitely makes things easier to fulfill everyone's needs and avoid jealous lovers or worse a chic who might turn pyscho and try to hurt me bad after breaking things off with her. I think a few women may still have a hit out on me from America to Japan for having the mentality if they can't have me then no one can.