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[Sogliano]

Not sure posting here is a good idea, most of the comments are going to be just awful. All the following is real so please be considerate.

This week, I discovered I got my gf into BBC porn.

- Background
I've been into this fetish for about two years, and started dating her 10 months ago. The great thing about our relationship is actually sex. We both had high sex drive and we fucked, literary, once or twice every day we've spent together. It makes sense, she came from a relationship with little to no sex (once every other month), while I had a few months sexless before meeting her.

That said, while sex was amazing it wasn't too creative. That's why I assumed she didn't have too many fantasies, not like mine at least. Women are into lighter things than men sometimes, especially if you give the men a lot of time and porn. Sometimes I would catch myself fantasising about her with black guys, but I would just stop thinking about it because I thought it would never happen.

However, not long after we started dating, I asked to use her dildo on her. She refused and looked clearly embarrassed. I knew it might be because of the size, TBH it's hard to find normal sized toys on Amazon. I had to insist, but she agreed to show it to me. It was black, 9 inch long (lol)

So that got me thinking that she might had the same fantasy as I did. I tried dropping hints and try to open her up, but she would insist she never liked black guys and never considered sleeping with them. She said she got the dildo black because the alternative was like purple or something, and the size was because she didn't realise how big it actually was (which is fair, she ordered it online and pictures on Amazon don't do a great job)

I wasn't too convinced it was the truth, so I decided to confront her. I told her about this fantasy, and asked if she would ever consider it. She didn't take it well. She accused me of pressuring her, so I dropped it.

Now fast forward six months, we're having sex and she says she's thinking about black guys (!) Apparently, I made her think about it, and she started opening to the idea that she doesn't have to be monogamous. She actually said that watching the Last Dance had an impact too (she had a crush on Pippen lol) At that point I just... went completely honest. I said I was happy she had those thoughts and I would love to try it out. I made it so that the choice would be her (her body right?)

All of this is great and turns me on a lot, but I need advice. I actually really love her and did so before I knew of her dark side (pun intended). Last thing I want is our relationship to sink because of the pressure.

The other thing I'm worried about is breaking taboos. Our brains love what it can't have, but what happens when we get it? We grow use to it and get bored. So we seek something new. I can see some men on this forum doing things I wouldn't want for myself. I see myself as a dominant male, as I'm always been during our relationship. BTW I'm not white but middle-eastern, if that means anything. I don't plan to change roles or be submissive. But at the same time, the idea of watching her having sex turns me on.

Q&A
1. can a cuckold be dominant
2. how often does this fetish lead to a breakup
3. can we practice this fetish without getting sucked in the rabbit hole (humiliation / BDSM etc.)

Thanks for reading this far, if you have something smart to say please do so. If not, please don't

 

[NoobCouple]

Not sure posting here is a good idea, most of the comments are going to be just awful. All the following is real so please be considerate.

This week, I discovered I got my gf into BBC porn.

- Background
I've been into this fetish for about two years, and started dating her 10 months ago. The great thing about our relationship is actually sex. We both had high sex drive and we fucked, literary, once or twice every day we've spent together. It makes sense, she came from a relationship with little to no sex (once every other month), while I had a few months sexless before meeting her.

That said, while sex was amazing it wasn't too creative. That's why I assumed she didn't have too many fantasies, not like mine at least. Women are into lighter things than men sometimes, especially if you give the men a lot of time and porn. Sometimes I would catch myself fantasising about her with black guys, but I would just stop thinking about it because I thought it would never happen.

However, not long after we started dating, I asked to use her dildo on her. She refused and looked clearly embarrassed. I knew it might be because of the size, TBH it's hard to find normal sized toys on Amazon. I had to insist, but she agreed to show it to me. It was black, 9 inch long (lol)

So that got me thinking that she might had the same fantasy as I did. I tried dropping hints and try to open her up, but she would insist she never liked black guys and never considered sleeping with them. She said she got the dildo black because the alternative was like purple or something, and the size was because she didn't realise how big it actually was (which is fair, she ordered it online and pictures on Amazon don't do a great job)

I wasn't too convinced it was the truth, so I decided to confront her. I told her about this fantasy, and asked if she would ever consider it. She didn't take it well. She accused me of pressuring her, so I dropped it.

Now fast forward six months, we're having sex and she says she's thinking about black guys (!) Apparently, I made her think about it, and she started opening to the idea that she doesn't have to be monogamous. She actually said that watching the Last Dance had an impact too (she had a crush on Pippen lol) At that point I just... went completely honest. I said I was happy she had those thoughts and I would love to try it out. I made it so that the choice would be her (her body right?)

All of this is great and turns me on a lot, but I need advice. I actually really love her and did so before I knew of her dark side (pun intended). Last thing I want is our relationship to sink because of the pressure.

The other thing I'm worried about is breaking taboos. Our brains love what it can't have, but what happens when we get it? We grow use to it and get bored. So we seek something new. I can see some men on this forum doing things I wouldn't want for myself. I see myself as a dominant male, as I'm always been during our relationship. BTW I'm not white but middle-eastern, if that means anything. I don't plan to change roles or be submissive. But at the same time, the idea of watching her having sex turns me on.

Q&A
1. can a cuckold be dominant
2. how often does this fetish lead to a breakup
3. can we practice this fetish without getting sucked in the rabbit hole (humiliation / BDSM etc.)

Thanks for reading this far, if you have something smart to say please do so. If not, please don't

Cucks can’t be dominate, it makes no sense.
And inviting a third or fourth in the bedroom always has its dangers. Just make sure you’re both very honest and look at the bull/bulls as sex toys with names period! friends sure but not lovers. You need to go into it highly communicated and make sure you’re not pushing her to hard.

Ciara

 

[nopussy4wms]

Q&A
1. can a cuckold be dominant

The non-subby version of a cuck is called a 'stag'. It's a very different scene.

3. can we practice this fetish without getting sucked in the rabbit hole (humiliation / BDSM etc.)

Despite some of the more creative fantasies online, Dom/mes don't really like doing stuff to subs against their will. So if you don't want to be her/His bitch, you won't be.

The bad news is, you'll probably want to be at some point. If you were a vanilla type then i think you'd be pretty fucked, but as a dominant man im sure you'll be able to indulge your cravings and return to full masculinity after.

 

[Cuckme Clevlnd]

She seems to have come a good distance on her own. You might simply let the ideas percolate in her fertile mind and see where this goes. There is also the possibility that she will meet a master-cocksman who dominates her so thoroughly that you have little choice but to let him and her take the relationship where they want.

As the saying goes -- 'be careful what you wish for ... you may get it.'

 

[HotwifeDee]

You've had a "girlfriend" for 10 months...not a wife. If she goes ahead with this she will most likely leave you behind at some point. You're not married and there's really no reason to stick around with somebody who doesn't please her that much sexually and encourages her to play with other guys.

 

[wahoosurfer]

Not sure posting here is a good idea, most of the comments are going to be just awful. All the following is real so please be considerate.

This week, I discovered I got my gf into BBC porn.

- Background
I've been into this fetish for about two years, and started dating her 10 months ago. The great thing about our relationship is actually sex. We both had high sex drive and we fucked, literary, once or twice every day we've spent together. It makes sense, she came from a relationship with little to no sex (once every other month), while I had a few months sexless before meeting her.

That said, while sex was amazing it wasn't too creative. That's why I assumed she didn't have too many fantasies, not like mine at least. Women are into lighter things than men sometimes, especially if you give the men a lot of time and porn. Sometimes I would catch myself fantasising about her with black guys, but I would just stop thinking about it because I thought it would never happen.

However, not long after we started dating, I asked to use her dildo on her. She refused and looked clearly embarrassed. I knew it might be because of the size, TBH it's hard to find normal sized toys on Amazon. I had to insist, but she agreed to show it to me. It was black, 9 inch long (lol)

So that got me thinking that she might had the same fantasy as I did. I tried dropping hints and try to open her up, but she would insist she never liked black guys and never considered sleeping with them. She said she got the dildo black because the alternative was like purple or something, and the size was because she didn't realise how big it actually was (which is fair, she ordered it online and pictures on Amazon don't do a great job)

I wasn't too convinced it was the truth, so I decided to confront her. I told her about this fantasy, and asked if she would ever consider it. She didn't take it well. She accused me of pressuring her, so I dropped it.

Now fast forward six months, we're having sex and she says she's thinking about black guys (!) Apparently, I made her think about it, and she started opening to the idea that she doesn't have to be monogamous. She actually said that watching the Last Dance had an impact too (she had a crush on Pippen lol) At that point I just... went completely honest. I said I was happy she had those thoughts and I would love to try it out. I made it so that the choice would be her (her body right?)

All of this is great and turns me on a lot, but I need advice. I actually really love her and did so before I knew of her dark side (pun intended). Last thing I want is our relationship to sink because of the pressure.

The other thing I'm worried about is breaking taboos. Our brains love what it can't have, but what happens when we get it? We grow use to it and get bored. So we seek something new. I can see some men on this forum doing things I wouldn't want for myself. I see myself as a dominant male, as I'm always been during our relationship. BTW I'm not white but middle-eastern, if that means anything. I don't plan to change roles or be submissive. But at the same time, the idea of watching her having sex turns me on.

Q&A
1. can a cuckold be dominant
2. how often does this fetish lead to a breakup
3. can we practice this fetish without getting sucked in the rabbit hole (humiliation / BDSM etc.)

Thanks for reading this far, if you have something smart to say please do so. If not, please don't

It can be anything you want it to be. I was a dominant cuck who liked seeing AND participating in everything we did sexually. We never played alone, it was about us furthering our sexual realm. Even when i started sucking our bulls it was not in a submissive way and we never did the humiliation thing. Neither of us was into that. Both the bull and myself were dominant over her. She loved it.

 

[blackandkinky]

Not sure posting here is a good idea, most of the comments are going to be just awful. All the following is real so please be considerate.

This week, I discovered I got my gf into BBC porn.

- Background
I've been into this fetish for about two years, and started dating her 10 months ago. The great thing about our relationship is actually sex. We both had high sex drive and we fucked, literary, once or twice every day we've spent together. It makes sense, she came from a relationship with little to no sex (once every other month), while I had a few months sexless before meeting her.

That said, while sex was amazing it wasn't too creative. That's why I assumed she didn't have too many fantasies, not like mine at least. Women are into lighter things than men sometimes, especially if you give the men a lot of time and porn. Sometimes I would catch myself fantasising about her with black guys, but I would just stop thinking about it because I thought it would never happen.

However, not long after we started dating, I asked to use her dildo on her. She refused and looked clearly embarrassed. I knew it might be because of the size, TBH it's hard to find normal sized toys on Amazon. I had to insist, but she agreed to show it to me. It was black, 9 inch long (lol)

So that got me thinking that she might had the same fantasy as I did. I tried dropping hints and try to open her up, but she would insist she never liked black guys and never considered sleeping with them. She said she got the dildo black because the alternative was like purple or something, and the size was because she didn't realise how big it actually was (which is fair, she ordered it online and pictures on Amazon don't do a great job)

I wasn't too convinced it was the truth, so I decided to confront her. I told her about this fantasy, and asked if she would ever consider it. She didn't take it well. She accused me of pressuring her, so I dropped it.

Now fast forward six months, we're having sex and she says she's thinking about black guys (!) Apparently, I made her think about it, and she started opening to the idea that she doesn't have to be monogamous. She actually said that watching the Last Dance had an impact too (she had a crush on Pippen lol) At that point I just... went completely honest. I said I was happy she had those thoughts and I would love to try it out. I made it so that the choice would be her (her body right?)

All of this is great and turns me on a lot, but I need advice. I actually really love her and did so before I knew of her dark side (pun intended). Last thing I want is our relationship to sink because of the pressure.

The other thing I'm worried about is breaking taboos. Our brains love what it can't have, but what happens when we get it? We grow use to it and get bored. So we seek something new. I can see some men on this forum doing things I wouldn't want for myself. I see myself as a dominant male, as I'm always been during our relationship. BTW I'm not white but middle-eastern, if that means anything. I don't plan to change roles or be submissive. But at the same time, the idea of watching her having sex turns me on.

Q&A
1. can a cuckold be dominant
2. how often does this fetish lead to a breakup
3. can we practice this fetish without getting sucked in the rabbit hole (humiliation / BDSM etc.)

Thanks for reading this far, if you have something smart to say please do so. If not, please don't

Have you considered that maybe you're not a cuck and that the Stag/Vixen lifestyle might be more inline with your reality?

 

[Dblinsey]

You've received a lot of varied advice from previous posters. I'm sure, from their point of view, they are right, and I'm not the one to argue with them. Remember, perception is always 100 percent accurate to the perciever.

First, let me answer your three questions. Remember, this, like the good folks above me is MY perception. It has worked for us for over five years, but there is absolutely no guarantee that it will work for you, everyone is different.

Q&A
1. can a cuckold be dominant
Yes, a husband whose wife is active but is not humiliated, but considered a partner is called a Stag. Conversely, the wife (g/f in your case) is called a Vixen.

2. how often does this fetish lead to a breakup
It has improved our relationship a lot! B U T We had been married for about ten years before getting into this lifestyle. Results may vary! You aren't married to her, so there is no legal commitment between the two of you. Also, you haven't been going together all that long. There is a very real chance it could lead to breaking up. A risk you have to take. I would say (WARNING! OPINION FOLLOWS that if the two of you were married for about a year or two, continued to REALLY love one another, then I would think that the chances of break-up would be greatly reduced.

3. can we practice this fetish without getting sucked in the rabbit hole (humiliation / BDSM etc.)
Yes, remember the 'Stag' reference? My husband is very much an Alpha male. He is always the one people turn to, both at work and, speaking for myself, at home. (BTW, I'm NOT submissive to him, he's just a natural born leader). He seriously enjoys watching, but that's all. He does not participate (no touching, no talking, etc). We are both very clear on one thing; we will not tolerate humiliation of either him or me by my playmate. So yes, it is possible and quite common, not to have the situation turn to humiliation or BDSM play. A lot of folks in here are in to that, and if they enjoy it, great, just not our cup of tea. This prevalence of submissive males may lead you to think it's inevitable, but it isn't.

In conclusion, I understand your frustration. I understand your concern. But the one take away of all this is fantasy is far from reality. You may think it would be a perfect situation for you, but when you actually see it, it's a whole nuther country!

Best of luck, and please keep us informed. I'm sure I'm one of the many who have read your post hoping for only the best outcome, whatever that may be.

Donna

 

[geecrizz]

I’m going to agree with some of the previous posters and think you should pay especially close attention to the females opinions. If you introduce your GF to another guy and he fucks her better than you, which I assume is what you want, unless she is one of the 10% of women who can enjoy sex without attaching feelings, she has no use for you any longer and it’s likely she just bails for the other guy or the next one. You’re not married, no *******, houses, cars, extended family... these are the things that hold people together like it or not. Once she has another lover, she’ll have no reason not to throw her entire devotion to another.

 

[Sogliano]

UPDATE - 18 months later

As of today, our fantasy remains just that not that I mind.

We still enjoy talking dirty, though this has diminished over time. There were month in which we were fucking without saying a word.

I find myself trying to initiate it without being explicit, such us asking her if she’s enjoying my big cock, or maybe adding a finger or two while I’m inside her. This usually works, she does seem to enjoy both feeling stretched and the fantasy that comes with it.

She’s a bit shy, eventually I need to ask her if she’s fantasising about sex with another man or else she’ll do so without telling me.

She comes really quickly after we initiate dirty talk, which can be frustrating as I get little time to come.

BTW, I struggle to come without this fantasy, but I come every time when thinking about it. It’s a major turn on for me, I crave it big time.

We’ve been talking about having threesomes, we even talked about hiring an *******. I feel like reality might be way different from what I have in my mind. But it’s something that I need to try, and I hope it’s sooner rather than later.

Apologies for lack of updates, but there wasn’t much to say. Will keep you posted, hopefully next time it’s because things are moving forward!

 

[AnnieS]

Not sure posting here is a good idea, most of the comments are going to be just awful. All the following is real so please be considerate.

This week, I discovered I got my gf into BBC porn.

- Background
I've been into this fetish for about two years, and started dating her 10 months ago. The great thing about our relationship is actually sex. We both had high sex drive and we fucked, literary, once or twice every day we've spent together. It makes sense, she came from a relationship with little to no sex (once every other month), while I had a few months sexless before meeting her.

That said, while sex was amazing it wasn't too creative. That's why I assumed she didn't have too many fantasies, not like mine at least. Women are into lighter things than men sometimes, especially if you give the men a lot of time and porn. Sometimes I would catch myself fantasising about her with black guys, but I would just stop thinking about it because I thought it would never happen.

However, not long after we started dating, I asked to use her dildo on her. She refused and looked clearly embarrassed. I knew it might be because of the size, TBH it's hard to find normal sized toys on Amazon. I had to insist, but she agreed to show it to me. It was black, 9 inch long (lol)

So that got me thinking that she might had the same fantasy as I did. I tried dropping hints and try to open her up, but she would insist she never liked black guys and never considered sleeping with them. She said she got the dildo black because the alternative was like purple or something, and the size was because she didn't realise how big it actually was (which is fair, she ordered it online and pictures on Amazon don't do a great job)

I wasn't too convinced it was the truth, so I decided to confront her. I told her about this fantasy, and asked if she would ever consider it. She didn't take it well. She accused me of pressuring her, so I dropped it.

Now fast forward six months, we're having sex and she says she's thinking about black guys (!) Apparently, I made her think about it, and she started opening to the idea that she doesn't have to be monogamous. She actually said that watching the Last Dance had an impact too (she had a crush on Pippen lol) At that point I just... went completely honest. I said I was happy she had those thoughts and I would love to try it out. I made it so that the choice would be her (her body right?)

All of this is great and turns me on a lot, but I need advice. I actually really love her and did so before I knew of her dark side (pun intended). Last thing I want is our relationship to sink because of the pressure.

The other thing I'm worried about is breaking taboos. Our brains love what it can't have, but what happens when we get it? We grow use to it and get bored. So we seek something new. I can see some men on this forum doing things I wouldn't want for myself. I see myself as a dominant male, as I'm always been during our relationship. BTW I'm not white but middle-eastern, if that means anything. I don't plan to change roles or be submissive. But at the same time, the idea of watching her having sex turns me on.

Q&A
1. can a cuckold be dominant
2. how often does this fetish lead to a breakup
3. can we practice this fetish without getting sucked in the rabbit hole (humiliation / BDSM etc.)

Thanks for reading this far, if you have something smart to say please do so. If not, please don't

1. can a cuckold be dominant-No a cuickhold is a cuckhold.
2. how often does this fetish lead to a breakup- Probably 50% + if your relationship and communication are not top notch.
3. can we practice this fetish without getting sucked in the rabbit hole (humiliation / BDSM etc.)-....Yes and a little BDSM can be fun

 

[Jdingo619]

A cuck can't be dominant but a Stag can be. A Stag is a guy who just like to share his pussy with his buddies! It's his pussy and he can share it if he wants too. If the stag is dominant over his woman and she is a submissive slut that would do anything to please him or obey his will then that guy is a dominant Stag of a husband or boyfriend!

Be careful with that cuck term because the cuck is a submissive himself and he could need up getting dominated and humiliated while his wife is getting pounded right in front of him. That's why people said "no a cuck cannot be dominant"!

As far as breakups go if you are dominant and your woman is in agreement about trying whatever you want and you want to spice things up and share her then as long as she always knows that you love her no matter what and that everything that she is doing is pleasing to you and only makes you live her more then you should be fine!

Humiliation and BDSM is like putting toppings on your ice cream some people like the extras and some people like their ice cream just like it is!

 

[tdv]

1. You can be a cuck to the bcc, but you have to be dominant to your bitch. Make it clear, if your needs aren't met...the relationship is over.
2. Unless you both are getting what you want(whatever that is) the relationship won't work.
3. Humiliation and shite like that......if you like it do it, if you don't. .don't. if one wants to and the other doesn't...then the person who compromises MUST be compensated, with whatever they need.

 

[Mexicpl4bbc]

Not sure posting here is a good idea, most of the comments are going to be just awful. All the following is real so please be considerate.

This week, I discovered I got my gf into BBC porn.

- Background
I've been into this fetish for about two years, and started dating her 10 months ago. The great thing about our relationship is actually sex. We both had high sex drive and we fucked, literary, once or twice every day we've spent together. It makes sense, she came from a relationship with little to no sex (once every other month), while I had a few months sexless before meeting her.

That said, while sex was amazing it wasn't too creative. That's why I assumed she didn't have too many fantasies, not like mine at least. Women are into lighter things than men sometimes, especially if you give the men a lot of time and porn. Sometimes I would catch myself fantasising about her with black guys, but I would just stop thinking about it because I thought it would never happen.

However, not long after we started dating, I asked to use her dildo on her. She refused and looked clearly embarrassed. I knew it might be because of the size, TBH it's hard to find normal sized toys on Amazon. I had to insist, but she agreed to show it to me. It was black, 9 inch long (lol)

So that got me thinking that she might had the same fantasy as I did. I tried dropping hints and try to open her up, but she would insist she never liked black guys and never considered sleeping with them. She said she got the dildo black because the alternative was like purple or something, and the size was because she didn't realise how big it actually was (which is fair, she ordered it online and pictures on Amazon don't do a great job)

I wasn't too convinced it was the truth, so I decided to confront her. I told her about this fantasy, and asked if she would ever consider it. She didn't take it well. She accused me of pressuring her, so I dropped it.

Now fast forward six months, we're having sex and she says she's thinking about black guys (!) Apparently, I made her think about it, and she started opening to the idea that she doesn't have to be monogamous. She actually said that watching the Last Dance had an impact too (she had a crush on Pippen lol) At that point I just... went completely honest. I said I was happy she had those thoughts and I would love to try it out. I made it so that the choice would be her (her body right?)

All of this is great and turns me on a lot, but I need advice. I actually really love her and did so before I knew of her dark side (pun intended). Last thing I want is our relationship to sink because of the pressure.

The other thing I'm worried about is breaking taboos. Our brains love what it can't have, but what happens when we get it? We grow use to it and get bored. So we seek something new. I can see some men on this forum doing things I wouldn't want for myself. I see myself as a dominant male, as I'm always been during our relationship. BTW I'm not white but middle-eastern, if that means anything. I don't plan to change roles or be submissive. But at the same time, the idea of watching her having sex turns me on.

Q&A
1. can a cuckold be dominant
2. how often does this fetish lead to a breakup
3. can we practice this fetish without getting sucked in the rabbit hole (humiliation / BDSM etc.)

Thanks for reading this far, if you have something smart to say please do so. If not, please don't

Hello!
Many guys have the wrong impression about this lifestyle. This lifestyle is not for a relationship that is already in trouble. Definitely not for a couple that has issues with communication and trust. With that said, let's proceed.

You mentioned girlfriend? Allow me to be clear with you. If you for any reason believe that she is not sexually satisfied with you or that you got her marbles rolling in this, do her and yourself a favor and move on. Allow her to go and explore what ever she needs to find. Why? Well nothing ties you and her together. You guys are literally only friends with benefits.
Sorry to deliver the bad news. Size is a big issue and definitely makes a big difference when trying to satisfy a lady. If she had never seen extremely endowed men or felt something so big, chances are she is going to be curious and you already noticed it. Once she feels pleasure like never before, she will want more and more unless it turns out to be something she doesn't like which I think is highly unlikely.
That puts average size guys at a disadvantage. I know people get upset when things like these are mentioned, but unfortunately going down on her and trying everything else you can think about will not compensate. Getting penetrated by a huge cock that's attached to a phisicaly fit man cannot be replaced or compensated for. That leaves a question behind, why stay at such a young age with a person that you can't please in bed?

Move on and find something that fits your capabilities and abilities in life. Many individuals will say that some men are incapable of pleasing women at all. Just read an old book called kamasutra. You don't have the need to stay in a relationship in which someone else is going to have to come in every now and then and do what you can't.
That's just my 2 cents. Take it or leave it.