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[beachguy20001]

Hey Im new here!!

Ok im 45 tall athletic..7 3/4 5.75 grth. sorry if TMI.

Anyway wife is 17 years younger. she had only 12 sex partners before me. 5 of them in a row after a boyfriend breakup were black. her first black guy was 6'10 basketball player in college...she said he was same length but thick...im guessing 7"...abd im betting he was 10inch long. she even said ..to him in their one time hook up...i cant believe all of that was inside me...anyway...she can't really handle me even...but...I know she jokes about Bbc When shes drinking....I also have caught her eying up a massive black stud a few times when shes trashed at a club....do you all think she still thinks about fucking BBC?

 

[mywayintermsofsex]

Yep. And she still does it. For sure. [*]lol[/*]

 

[beachguy20001]

Yep. And she still does it. For sure. [*]lol[/*]

Hahha...yea you never know...really...but i dont think so at all cheat that is

 

[beachguy20001]

She has no IR porn at all in her history...even when shes passing out watching...its all lesbian

 

[mywayintermsofsex]

Hehe. Sure she does. You know the saying "once you go black..." [*]lol[/*]

But in all honesty... what do you expect people here to answer? If you really want to know, go ask your wife! period

 

[mywayintermsofsex]

She has no IR porn at all in her history...even when shes passing out watching...its all lesbian

Good for you. Ask her for a Ffm.

 

[beachguy20001]

I think shes embarassed about the college black guys...only discusses when we are ******* and alone...it turns me on

 

[beachguy20001]

Good for you. Ask her for a Ffm.

Shes crazy jealous...im trying

 

[beachguy20001]

She even brings up a gf from college...says she had a guy the size of a toothpaste box....the big box...i think that GF is actually her..but she doesnt want to upset my male ego

 

[mywayintermsofsex]

i think you are too much in fantasy land. i can only repeat: If you want to know anything about your wife's desires you have to talk with her. Noone here will be able to help you.

But one advice though... Also know what you want first! If it is seeing or knowing her get fucked by another man then better not bring up inviting another lady for both of you. Otherwise she may misinterprete your real intent, and rather think you bring up a male player only in order to get to your female ones.

 

[beachguy20001]

I discussed that way back...she said no. she thinks ill never look at her the same...like ill think shes trash. I was like no couple swap....I cant be judgy..if its a swap...she still refused the idea

 

[beachguy20001]

The wife had a written list of every guy she kissed name and date.

Gave head to ..name and date

Fucked...name and date...when we were dating she showed.it to me...i couldn't believe it.. down to the day....

 

[mywayintermsofsex]

The wife had a written list of every guy she kissed name and date.

Gave head to ..name and date

Fucked...name and date...when we were dating she showed.it to me...i couldn't believe it.. down to the day....

...what lil girls play.
But doesn't seem you like her game.
In that case you will need to take action and do something about it ASAP.

 

[beachguy20001]

...what lil girls play.
But doesn't seem you like her game.
In that case you will need to take action and do something about it ASAP.

Well thats like a diary...but theres no freakiness anymore...she just def had a interesting past sucked off college guys at age 14...2 in one night..

 

[mywayintermsofsex]

i had prepared a reply, but after your latest post i am not sure if it's appropriate for your situation.
Excuse me, i will post it nonetheless (for others to read)...

(...)she said no. she thinks ill never look at her the same...like ill think shes trash.(...)

Most probably she didn't mean "no"! She asked you straight up for your confirmation.

A "no" would either be a plain "no" without even a try to explain why, or it would be a "no because I don't want to..."
What she said instead was "no, I do not think it is a good idea because of your possible reaction"

If you (A) want this to happen for real, and (B) are convinced for yourself that you will be able to handle it, then you will need to make that point "clear and loud". That is, in a way that she will believe you when you say you won't look down upon her once she starts being intimately involved with another man, and you will love her the same or, if anything, maybe even more.

It is your responsibility as the husband to make sure your wife will always feel safe and secure in your relationship, no matter the particular choice of a lifestyle!

(...) I was like no couple swap....I cant be judgy..if its a swap...she still refused the idea

Maybe she simply refused it because she does not want that you are with another woman. (You mentioned her jealousy before ) In that case you will have to make sure that she understands that she is the only woman you ever want to be with, even when she is with other men. (Only if that's the truth, of course. )

Find out what you want. Find out what she wants. Converse about it (that means talk and listen, but listen more )... and you will find an agreement that best fits both of your needs/desires. But never forget that the foundation of all that is your commitment to your wife and the relationship you both have and share, and your wife's high level of trust in you and your relationship - something that you need to create in her and maintain.

Good luck everyone!