Joey, condoms are still part of the deal, with the exception of my long-time play partner (approaching 20 years now!). It took about three years before I told him I wanted to feel him bare. We used to get together maybe three or four times per year, but for the last seven years or so it's been twice a month.
Are you thinking of the Edgewater Hotel by the Oakland airport? It was a "swingers" hotel that allowed single men on Friday nights. The Yahoo meet n greets were first held at a "vanilla" bar called Popi Lounge in Pleasanton, but were later shifted to the Crowne Plaza across the bridge in Foster City. A gangbang group called The Crew hosted the after-parties in suites, but I preferred to just find chemistry with a single and invite him up to our room. Great memories!