Another great source to enjoy together that are by far underrated and deserve a lot more mention and attention are adult/sexuality/kink themed podcasts. Look out for a more general one instead of a too specialized one at first. Dan Savage is cool but there are plenty more. Often they have a different theme or fantasy for each episode, and often they feature guests who are lifestylers who explain their kink and talk about their real-life experiences both good ones and bad ones and thus are a tremendous source of information. Your partner will probably be more open to listening to those together than watching p0rn movies. Also you can do that in the safe and private environment of your home which is a much lower hurdle than going to a club and meet other people.
But it will only really pay off if you'll also discuss what you'll just have listened to after each episode! If your wife finds it harder than you to open up in such conversations you should definitely hold back your own opinion at first, instead try to help her start the convo by asking more concrete questions like for instance: "What do you think about the part where A said this and that? Do you think that was hot? Or maybe a bit awkward?" The point is that if you start giving your opinion first she will probably tend to just agree with you, hide her own true opinions and feelings instead of being open and honest. That's one possible pitfall you'd like to avoid. The purpose/goal is to get to know each other better, your real likes and dislikes, and find out what turns you and your partner on and what turns you off.
Also coming back to a topic later is often a good idea because thoughts need time to develop. Sometimes it is hard to build an opinion or having clarity over emotions only a few minutes after having heard a thing for the first time. - And believe me there will pop up a lot of things in those podcast episodes neither you nor your wife will have ever heard of before.
Having that said, search for a podcast online and suggest two or three of them to your wife. Ask which one she likes to listen to together with you or ask her to look for herself and suggest alternatives. The main point is that you listen to them together! i am pretty sure you will find something that appeals to both of you.
Good luck and have fun!
But it will only really pay off if you'll also discuss what you'll just have listened to after each episode! If your wife finds it harder than you to open up in such conversations you should definitely hold back your own opinion at first, instead try to help her start the convo by asking more concrete questions like for instance: "What do you think about the part where A said this and that? Do you think that was hot? Or maybe a bit awkward?" The point is that if you start giving your opinion first she will probably tend to just agree with you, hide her own true opinions and feelings instead of being open and honest. That's one possible pitfall you'd like to avoid. The purpose/goal is to get to know each other better, your real likes and dislikes, and find out what turns you and your partner on and what turns you off.
Also coming back to a topic later is often a good idea because thoughts need time to develop. Sometimes it is hard to build an opinion or having clarity over emotions only a few minutes after having heard a thing for the first time. - And believe me there will pop up a lot of things in those podcast episodes neither you nor your wife will have ever heard of before.
Having that said, search for a podcast online and suggest two or three of them to your wife. Ask which one she likes to listen to together with you or ask her to look for herself and suggest alternatives. The main point is that you listen to them together! i am pretty sure you will find something that appeals to both of you.
Good luck and have fun!
