RE: My man wants me to screw infront of him ...
Who gets to be first?
ladyluckshaz ... good question, and I can understand your bit of puzzlement on this, as women, in general, have a lot of problems even understanding their man's request that this happen. And, as a married man myself (wife & I will have been together 20 years as of this coming September), I can say that its just the way men are wired differently from their opposite gender. I might suggest you purchase & read the paperback book by John Gray
"Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" to better understand this "mental wiring" difference. (see attachment). I believe you'll find there are some good book overviews available on Bing or Google.
As to your question ... you're IN LUCK, as it is normally the female's call as to WHO goes first ... I assume we're talking about a MMF threesome. Its common courtesy to allow the guest male go first, after both men have orally stimulated you to several boneshaking orgasms to get you prepped and in the mood, but still, the call is YOURS. Just try to understand that IF your man has requested this, he's NOT going to be upset by you fulfilling his request. If the two of you have little to no experience with 3-somes or couple swapping, you might test the waters a bit with things like him watching you dance or be held by another man, etc. I will add, however, that YOU take most all the risks, so that's one primary reason you make the calls ... if you don't want to do it, Don't Do It. If he truly loves & respects you, he will appreciate your position and won't persist. But, try to understand WHY you don't want to do it, before definitely saying NO, because once you get comfortable with MMFs, you'll probably love 'em. Its my wife's favorite thing when it comes to alternative sexstyle.
My wife and I started swinging when we were dating ... not on a regular basis, but several times a year, and its only added/reaffirmed the excitement to our marriage. However, we don't swing alone as many posters suggest they do. Swinging isn't for everyone, and sometimes men simply don't know what they "really" want. Good luck to you on your adventures ... Mac