In my opinion, (and the way it would be with me,) it should be all about you... you should never feel like you're working your ass off to please "them". If your husband and/or "friend(s)" are pleasing you in every way, by default, they will be pleased as well!I was thinking all at once, but yes I am hearing mixed reviews in reality... Its either going to be great and everyone is attentive or I am just going to be working my ass off to please them... You didn't enjoy it then?
Probably the best way to handle the situation is to discuss your expectations and desires in advance with all involved.