Hello everyone
(...) We had an open relationship in which we shared multiple women before. We had also had a few experiences with other men. The one thing she jokes about is having yet to be "stretched out by a black cock." (...) any interactions with black men have been interesting (...). My girl is pretty flirtatious with everyone but we have been exclusive to each other for quite some time now. I'm not entirely sure how to bring up that I really want to watch her with a black guy. I mean it is kind of a weird request. Other couples and guys what has worked for you and what hasn't? She is open sexually to most new things but I just feel this kind of an odd request . Any suggestions.
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"weird request",
"odd request"? Why? You say, you`ve already had threesomes with both women and men. One question that ImO needs to be answered is why you have been
"exclusive to each other for quite some time now". Maybe that is because your relationship has grown into something more serious?
You have a girlfriend that perfectly suits what you are longing for. She`s "flirtatious with everyone", sexually open to new things, and already mentioned she is having "yet to be 'stretched out by a black cock'". To me it seems like the ball is in your court now, so to speak.
Maybe she doesn`t want to spoil a good thing. If your relationship is important to both of you, make clear that being sexually adventurous and experimental doesn`t get in the way of who you are as a couple, but only adds to your experience and
enhances your relationship.
i don`t see why it should be so hard to bring it up again, as she has already made the initial remark. Next time you are "pillow-talking" just say something like "Remember you said you`d yet to have to be stretched out by a black dick? I`ve thought about it and have to say i find that picture of you with a black guy very intriguing. I really think that`s what we should do next."
Maybe that`s something that doesn`t roll off your tounge that easily, but it is neither weird nor odd after all your shared past experiences, don`t you think? Anyway, if you really want it to happen then you will need to have the guts to talk about it
with her!
What had worked for my (now ex-because-of-other-reasons) long term girlfriend and me was that we never considered inviting another man for her to our bedroom as sex between her and the other guy, but always as sex between me and her, just a very kinky special kind of sex that we wouldn`t do every day.
It was much easier for her to start with this kind of lifestyle with the certainty of us being a perfectly monogamous couple... just with some benefits.
Ah, and of course a glass of wine or two did help too.
Regards, good luck
& welcome to the site!
(She`s stunning BTW)