nrbill, I can relate to your situation. I am mostly impotent and haven't had intercourse with my wife in more than two years. I have tried everything short of penile implant. I can get a mild erection and ejaculation through maturbation. I have had issues for years, but did have some good years when younger. But even when things were good I could tell she was not satisfied. I know that she has had other lovers over the years and that she was infatuated with one of her friends black boyfriend. I know that she had sex with him after her friend broke up with him, but my wife always denied it. She used to talk with my ******* about black men, so she has acknowledged being interested. Finally, a couple of years ago I received an email with a video attached. It was a sex tape with my wife and a black lover. They were going at it very intensely and she was definitely enjoying herself. Despite the visual evidence of her love for black men she still will not admit to the past affairs. Now whenever she goes shopping for an afternoon, I am confident that there is even more going on. She should have an enjoyable sex life since I cannot do it for her