I’m wondering why and where the fantasy comes from

[LisaJen]

This might almost seem a little existencial, but I want to get it off my chest.

I’m 31, white male, and I have had the white girl-bbc fantasy for well over a decade now.
Sometimes I try to figure out where it comes from, and figure out the psychology behind it. One of my theories is that because in my first serious relationship my girlfriend cheated on me and led me on, and I think I might have developed some type of jealousy-trauma that eventually led to the BBC cuck fantasy. Where the BBC came into the picture I have no idea, but I know that I love the thought of someone bigger, and I just think the big white asses with a big black cock is aesthetically pleasing and looks really fucking hot.

I had two real cuck experiences with my last ex-girlfriend and they were amazing, but I feel like now I’m stuck in an obsession with her, and I always look for porn with a girl that looks like her. I think about the night that I watched her get fucked by another guy in our bed, and I always regret that I didn’t film it (which i know she would have been cool with) and all I do is look for a video that looks like that night.
I don’t think my fantasy in itself is a problem, but my obsession with her might be, because she actually did it and then we broke up and I just imagine how hard it is to find someone like her again. (This was like 6 years ago)
Not that I don’t need to find someone exactly like her.

I’m not ashamed of my kink, and I love being open about my fantasies, but when I’m typing it out now it sounds like i might have a problem.

I haven’t dated much the last year, but in the past I have told girls about my fantasy and a lot of them have been open to it. I usually start off by telling them that I like to watch them take big black dildos and if it gets more serious I would explain the real fantasy which is watching them get fucked, but it hasn’t gone all the way with anyone since my ex.

When I try to imagine a relationship with someone now, I can’t help but feel like my fantasy is not something that can be ignored because it’s so strong and I don’t think I’ll ever get over it.
I don’t think I really NEED to watch my girlfriend get fucked, and maybe I should just be content with the dildo-play, and let the ultimate fantasy just be a fantasy. But I feel like it will always be there.

I have also drifted into the bnwo-stuff sometimes, and I think it’s hot, but at the same time it’s also pretty fucked up? If I watch stuff like that I catch myself thinking that I’m brainwashing myself, and I feel like some of the stuff has kind of planted itself, like when I see a confident, sexy, thick white girl with a big ass and juicy hips I can’t stop myself from thinking «she’s built for BBC» or sometimes I wish I was a big black guy so I could fuck PAWGS because they all need big black cock.
When I’m typing out this stuff it sounds so fucked up, but I also think it’s so fucking hot??

This is honestly just a rant, and I realize I’m just blurting out my thoughts, but I guess this might be the best place to do it. If anyone has any words of wisdom, any insights, or if you can relate I would love to hear your thoughts.. I love the fantasy and I also think the community is very positive and encouraging. I feel like people who embrace «the lifestyle», either because you just want to make your SO happy or if you both share the same fantasy is super cool and I respect you all.

For me right now as a single guy it’s all just a little confusing to be honest..

 

[goodhubby]

This might almost seem a little existencial, but I want to get it off my chest.

I’m 31, white male, and I have had the white girl-bbc fantasy for well over a decade now.
Sometimes I try to figure out where it comes from, and figure out the psychology behind it. One of my theories is that because in my first serious relationship my girlfriend cheated on me and led me on, and I think I might have developed some type of jealousy-trauma that eventually led to the BBC cuck fantasy. Where the BBC came into the picture I have no idea, but I know that I love the thought of someone bigger, and I just think the big white asses with a big black cock is aesthetically pleasing and looks really fucking hot.

I had two real cuck experiences with my last ex-girlfriend and they were amazing, but I feel like now I’m stuck in an obsession with her, and I always look for porn with a girl that looks like her. I think about the night that I watched her get fucked by another guy in our bed, and I always regret that I didn’t film it (which i know she would have been cool with) and all I do is look for a video that looks like that night.
I don’t think my fantasy in itself is a problem, but my obsession with her might be, because she actually did it and then we broke up and I just imagine how hard it is to find someone like her again. (This was like 6 years ago)
Not that I don’t need to find someone exactly like her.

I’m not ashamed of my kink, and I love being open about my fantasies, but when I’m typing it out now it sounds like i might have a problem.

I haven’t dated much the last year, but in the past I have told girls about my fantasy and a lot of them have been open to it. I usually start off by telling them that I like to watch them take big black dildos and if it gets more serious I would explain the real fantasy which is watching them get fucked, but it hasn’t gone all the way with anyone since my ex.

When I try to imagine a relationship with someone now, I can’t help but feel like my fantasy is not something that can be ignored because it’s so strong and I don’t think I’ll ever get over it.
I don’t think I really NEED to watch my girlfriend get fucked, and maybe I should just be content with the dildo-play, and let the ultimate fantasy just be a fantasy. But I feel like it will always be there.

I have also drifted into the bnwo-stuff sometimes, and I think it’s hot, but at the same time it’s also pretty fucked up? If I watch stuff like that I catch myself thinking that I’m brainwashing myself, and I feel like some of the stuff has kind of planted itself, like when I see a confident, sexy, thick white girl with a big ass and juicy hips I can’t stop myself from thinking «she’s built for BBC» or sometimes I wish I was a big black guy so I could fuck PAWGS because they all need big black cock.
When I’m typing out this stuff it sounds so fucked up, but I also think it’s so fucking hot??

This is honestly just a rant, and I realize I’m just blurting out my thoughts, but I guess this might be the best place to do it. If anyone has any words of wisdom, any insights, or if you can relate I would love to hear your thoughts.. I love the fantasy and I also think the community is very positive and encouraging. I feel like people who embrace «the lifestyle», either because you just want to make your SO happy or if you both share the same fantasy is super cool and I respect you all.

For me right now as a single guy it’s all just a little confusing to be honest..

You must enjoy it while it last, couldnt you make up with that girl of yours? I know its 6 years, Is she gone or married if not ,get her back . I met my wife while she was fucked by a friend of mine she was only fifteen at that time . Today she a real size queen . She love getting penetrated by two guys at once.loveit

 

[Rumblebee]

I see nothing bad. You like it. Sexualty is a Personal thing.
The first time I saw porn sean michael fucking Anita blond ect. I was hooked.

First just IR porn. Bbc fucking. Then creampies then cuckolding and clean up with dirty talk gets me most.

Watched my gf fuck on Video. The guy was smaller than me. Still hot.
We are planning on.bbc but she is ok with just me. Still it turns her on.
Dirty talk while we fuck. Telling me to be a good boy and clean her up.

Contact your ex. Not much to lose.
Either she is Single or not. Maybe she let's you fuck her despite being in a telship if she not single.

Just enjoy what you like.

 

[marco vittoro]

i think its because of access & exposure to genes not yet weakened completely by modern bigPharm medicine & or citylife encouraged genetic weakness. as my wife will tell you,the female (breeding) instinct is to always secure the strongest genes for her ch1ldren as soon as she's secured the most material security for herself & the b@bies she's going to make.

 

[JJSMITHY54321]

to figure out where it comes from, and figure out the psychology behind it.

For us, it just evolved. We are both very open minded. My wife had a very wild time at university and admitted to having tons of partners in the 4 years. When I met my wife, she was my 3 partner. My 2 prior girlfriends were extended relationships, like 5 years each.
I was fascinated by the stories she told me! We were always open with each other's past and it turned me on whenever she told me about her escapades.
So it did not take much for me to be turned on by her stories of her fucking some guy she picked up at a bar, 10 years ago, to one where she fucked her Bull last night!

 

[barbiesdude]

For us, it just evolved. We are both very open minded. My wife had a very wild time at university and admitted to having tons of partners in the 4 years. When I met my wife, she was my 3 partner. My 2 prior girlfriends were extended relationships, like 5 years each.
I was fascinated by the stories she told me! We were always open with each other's past and it turned me on whenever she told me about her escapades.
So it did not take much for me to be turned on by her stories of her fucking some guy she picked up at a bar, 10 years ago, to one where she fucked her Bull last night!

same for us. it took my girl over a year of us dating to finally tell me about her attraction to black men. i had no idea but she told me that she had mostly been with black guys since she was 15 and she admitted to getting around way more than she should have. she has told me many stories and details and it always gets me hard as a rock. it led to sharing and threesomes. it all makes me want her so much more since sharing her desires with me.

 

[JustWes]

Probably no surprise but I grew up reading those damn Penthouse forums and Variations. I noticed as a young young that the "I,we always wanted to see my wife getting fucked by another man," letters. The first wife and I got into a few threesomes but she got tired of it and we divorced.

Bobbie however, still enjoys having a Black lover, but in reality seems more inclined to play just to make me happy. And while Rich is as she puts it (a decent lay) he is by no means the best. (In fairness, Rich is an early 40's guy with a pot belly and balding. . he is about 5 inches . . ."Good enough, but sex God")

We try to keep it real. Part of that is having someone who is of a similar mindset. Rich gets off fucking a white wife and talking ******* to her hubby in public. A few of his friends know but do not know our names.

It is an interesting dynamic.

 

[Wife4You]

For me, it was clear. I am (not sounding too cocky) a good looking guy who had no problem hooking up at an early age. I fucked a lot of girls early on, but fell in love with my girl at the end of freshman year in high school.

We were fucking at 16 and all was good. We went to NYC and wound up in a sex shop. Got my girl a thick 6.5” vibrator. We played with that and EVERYTHING changed.

Seeing her cum hard on that thing was a game changer. Since then, I just want her to fuck big dicks and relive that moment. BBC are a sure way to get her there.

 

[Krushone]

This might almost seem a little existencial, but I want to get it off my chest.

I’m 31, white male, and I have had the white girl-bbc fantasy for well over a decade now.
Sometimes I try to figure out where it comes from, and figure out the psychology behind it. One of my theories is that because in my first serious relationship my girlfriend cheated on me and led me on, and I think I might have developed some type of jealousy-trauma that eventually led to the BBC cuck fantasy. Where the BBC came into the picture I have no idea, but I know that I love the thought of someone bigger, and I just think the big white asses with a big black cock is aesthetically pleasing and looks really fucking hot.

I had two real cuck experiences with my last ex-girlfriend and they were amazing, but I feel like now I’m stuck in an obsession with her, and I always look for porn with a girl that looks like her. I think about the night that I watched her get fucked by another guy in our bed, and I always regret that I didn’t film it (which i know she would have been cool with) and all I do is look for a video that looks like that night.
I don’t think my fantasy in itself is a problem, but my obsession with her might be, because she actually did it and then we broke up and I just imagine how hard it is to find someone like her again. (This was like 6 years ago)
Not that I don’t need to find someone exactly like her.

I’m not ashamed of my kink, and I love being open about my fantasies, but when I’m typing it out now it sounds like i might have a problem.

I haven’t dated much the last year, but in the past I have told girls about my fantasy and a lot of them have been open to it. I usually start off by telling them that I like to watch them take big black dildos and if it gets more serious I would explain the real fantasy which is watching them get fucked, but it hasn’t gone all the way with anyone since my ex.

When I try to imagine a relationship with someone now, I can’t help but feel like my fantasy is not something that can be ignored because it’s so strong and I don’t think I’ll ever get over it.
I don’t think I really NEED to watch my girlfriend get fucked, and maybe I should just be content with the dildo-play, and let the ultimate fantasy just be a fantasy. But I feel like it will always be there.

I have also drifted into the bnwo-stuff sometimes, and I think it’s hot, but at the same time it’s also pretty fucked up? If I watch stuff like that I catch myself thinking that I’m brainwashing myself, and I feel like some of the stuff has kind of planted itself, like when I see a confident, sexy, thick white girl with a big ass and juicy hips I can’t stop myself from thinking «she’s built for BBC» or sometimes I wish I was a big black guy so I could fuck PAWGS because they all need big black cock.
When I’m typing out this stuff it sounds so fucked up, but I also think it’s so fucking hot??

This is honestly just a rant, and I realize I’m just blurting out my thoughts, but I guess this might be the best place to do it. If anyone has any words of wisdom, any insights, or if you can relate I would love to hear your thoughts.. I love the fantasy and I also think the community is very positive and encouraging. I feel like people who embrace «the lifestyle», either because you just want to make your SO happy or if you both share the same fantasy is super cool and I respect you all.

For me right now as a single guy it’s all just a little confusing to be honest..

Thank you for your honest and sincere post. the truth will set you free.

 

[Erfo]

This might almost seem a little existencial, but I want to get it off my chest.

I’m 31, white male, and I have had the white girl-bbc fantasy for well over a decade now.
Sometimes I try to figure out where it comes from, and figure out the psychology behind it. One of my theories is that because in my first serious relationship my girlfriend cheated on me and led me on, and I think I might have developed some type of jealousy-trauma that eventually led to the BBC cuck fantasy. Where the BBC came into the picture I have no idea, but I know that I love the thought of someone bigger, and I just think the big white asses with a big black cock is aesthetically pleasing and looks really fucking hot.

I had two real cuck experiences with my last ex-girlfriend and they were amazing, but I feel like now I’m stuck in an obsession with her, and I always look for porn with a girl that looks like her. I think about the night that I watched her get fucked by another guy in our bed, and I always regret that I didn’t film it (which i know she would have been cool with) and all I do is look for a video that looks like that night.
I don’t think my fantasy in itself is a problem, but my obsession with her might be, because she actually did it and then we broke up and I just imagine how hard it is to find someone like her again. (This was like 6 years ago)
Not that I don’t need to find someone exactly like her.

I’m not ashamed of my kink, and I love being open about my fantasies, but when I’m typing it out now it sounds like i might have a problem.

I haven’t dated much the last year, but in the past I have told girls about my fantasy and a lot of them have been open to it. I usually start off by telling them that I like to watch them take big black dildos and if it gets more serious I would explain the real fantasy which is watching them get fucked, but it hasn’t gone all the way with anyone since my ex.

When I try to imagine a relationship with someone now, I can’t help but feel like my fantasy is not something that can be ignored because it’s so strong and I don’t think I’ll ever get over it.
I don’t think I really NEED to watch my girlfriend get fucked, and maybe I should just be content with the dildo-play, and let the ultimate fantasy just be a fantasy. But I feel like it will always be there.

I have also drifted into the bnwo-stuff sometimes, and I think it’s hot, but at the same time it’s also pretty fucked up? If I watch stuff like that I catch myself thinking that I’m brainwashing myself, and I feel like some of the stuff has kind of planted itself, like when I see a confident, sexy, thick white girl with a big ass and juicy hips I can’t stop myself from thinking «she’s built for BBC» or sometimes I wish I was a big black guy so I could fuck PAWGS because they all need big black cock.
When I’m typing out this stuff it sounds so fucked up, but I also think it’s so fucking hot??

This is honestly just a rant, and I realize I’m just blurting out my thoughts, but I guess this might be the best place to do it. If anyone has any words of wisdom, any insights, or if you can relate I would love to hear your thoughts.. I love the fantasy and I also think the community is very positive and encouraging. I feel like people who embrace «the lifestyle», either because you just want to make your SO happy or if you both share the same fantasy is super cool and I respect you all.

For me right now as a single guy it’s all just a little confusing to be honest..

I was rereading my most recent notebooks the other day. I was surprised to notice that each one contained about 2 years of content. Once again I came across an entry in which I find the psychological source of my “cuckold fetish” in the fact that each woman significant in my emotional (and sexual) life preferred me to another man, or made an unflattering comparison for me, or communicated with another man in parallel: G., who announced to me in July 1990 that she “loves another”; R., who not only continued her relationship with E., but also chose J. as her lover first (one evening, seeing her off after a walk, we both suggested that she continue the evening: I in my sister’s empty apartment, he in his parents’, also empty. She, without showing any obvious preference, said goodbye to both of us, and half an hour later was already standing in front of his door); A. with her "gratitude" to S. and "you couldn't do that..."; finally, P., who ran away from us to the vendor at the tent near the house (although, in this case, she may have chosen to be the "only one" rather than the "accompanying" couple, A. and me, in our fmf)

It is quite possible that this actually had a significance later for that paradoxical at first glance change from jealousy to excitement - at the thought of her, A.'s, infidelity (or our trio with the invited male.).

To put it simply, I mean the fact that each conscious or hidden, concealed from myself surge of jealousy appeared (and passed) against the background of the strongest desire for each of them. A kind of "conditioned reflex". And since the emotion of jealousy has a huge energy charge, this in turn gradually added "calories" to my libido. That's the mine theory.

 

[RushBiOV23]

i think its because of access & exposure to genes not yet weakened completely by modern bigPharm medicine & or citylife encouraged genetic weakness. as my wife will tell you,the female (breeding) instinct is to always secure the strongest genes for her ch1ldren as soon as she's secured the most material security for herself & the b@bies she's going to make.

If it’s genetic weakness based on pharmaceuticals and city living then it would stand to reason that women would be just as susceptible to said weaknesses being that they too live in cities and take far more of the aforementioned medications than men of every race. Also, black men tend to live in cities far more often than they do rural America the exception being perhaps the deep south for reasons we all know. I really don’t think city life is a cause for it but massive intakes of pharmaceuticals and god awful food isn’t helping anyone. If we’re being completely honest of all the races, black men tend to have the worst quality sperm and suffer from the most debilitating of health conditions especially as they progress in age.

As for me personally, I married the first woman I ever had sex with & didn’t know it at the time, but I was actually born sterile, which didn’t affect our marriage at all because neither of us was trying to have ******* way back then. What did affect our marriage was the sex and she was far more experienced than I was and had already known far better than me before we had even met. I have what is technically considered a slightly below average sized penis that is definitely not in the realm of what women supposedly prefer, but were rarely honest with me about until just the last few years. I’ve had girlfriend after girlfriend and female friends alike all describe this desire to have a vagina that feels full while having sex and I’ve been told by exes, as well as my ex-wife that I do not provide that feeling of fullness they desire & deserve. My ex-wife cheated on me with more than one man all bigger than me starting with a black man I eventually got to witness her with him and suddenly it all made sense. I got to watch my wife enjoy having sex not to mention listen to her moan in ways, I couldn’t possibly create for her and she couldn’t fake that good because by that point, I knew when she was faking and I didn’t want her to ever have to fake again. We split up for reasons that had more to do with getting married too young than anything else, and she’s remarried twice since then, both of those marriages also ended, but they ended specifically because of her infidelity and her lying which will doom any marriage no matter what size cock is attached to the husband! I feel it’s important to add that marriage ended before the turn of the century began.

My longest relationship was six years with a woman who never cheated but was and still is a raging alcoholic. A few other notable relationships I’ve been in were with women coming fresh out of bad marriages that hadn’t officially ended yet which is why I will never get in this life date anyone who has “separated” as their current relationship status. I swear to God I feel like I went through two divorces with two women in less than 3 years despite have never been married to either one of those bitches. I was just an unsuspecting passenger along for the ride on a crazy train that didn’t have ******* to do with me but everything to do with other people not handling their own ******* like a right thinking person would do they instead decided to expose other people to years worth of baggage that I know for a fact, I didn’t pack for them and they sure as hell hadn’t even bothered trying to unpack a little bit before meeting me. As a now middle-aged male, that is the recurrent theme I see most often amongst everyone; a total lack of personal accountability and a total willingness to make everyone just as miserable as they are because that ******* is now generational and I fear it’s not going anywhere anytime soon. All I know is I didn’t produce any ******* that are now fucked up adults nor have I done anything so terrible that an ex would never talk to me again. I have never abandoned anyone, I’ve never cheated on anyone, and I always contributed or was the sole breadwinner in all of my relationships. If I can say all those things which very few men actually can coupled with the ever-growing number of men who could but just don’t want to anymore because most of these women are not worth risking half your ******* over not to mention will use your children against you in every possible way they can and I say this having witnessed the ******* in more than one woman I’ve dated who now have either womanizing grown male mama’s boys for sons or grown daughters who aren’t doing well with romantic relationships at all and have a sad tendency of blaming themselves for repeating the same behaviors as their mothers whom they usually have little contact with and fathers who were never really there in the first place if they were there at all for anything other than the conception. If I can say all that ******* and a bitch sticks around and only decides to bolt when I suggest wanting to watch her get impaled by something the size of a toddler’s forearm then is the psychological problem really mine or hers?

 

[Jack Smith2606]

Fantasies are normal and natural for us higher level primates. Novelty also ranks high for men naturally, as we have almost unlimited amounts of DNA to donate to procreation. That said, there is a natural desire for easy, uncomplicated sexual release, and I think that most men naturally are drawn to women who offer that...at least very temporarily and with minimal investment. IMHO, the lowering of inhibitions and standards implicit in a woman accepting BC carrie,s for any male, a thrill of sexual availability and promiscuity not found in more discriminating or less horny women. Aside from the natural affinity for pure visual variety, the subconscious thought is something like, "if she'll do that with him, she likes dick a lot and she's fairly hot... I'd hit it". The myth of BBC notwithstanding. Another factor is the inversion of status for a white woman who is so alienated from her natural and protective tribal instincts, or so in need of an illusory sense of sexual power, that she enjoys a man over whom she ranks higher in society, unlike with alpha white males whom she'll never supersede, no matter how sexy or beautiful she is. And conversely, the black male gets to reach up the status ladder and attain a chance at something his white brothers take for granted and certainly already have had. This is why any black male of high status or wealth, usually obtained as some form of entertainer, aspires to white women as the value that increases his self esteem. There are hundreds of examples to back this up. Alpha, even moderately successful white me, gain nothing from association or sex with black women other than momentary pleasure, regardless of their attractiveness. Bottom line, it's mutual satisfaction of needs....way beyond the silliness of "black supremacy", which is laughable when surveying centuries of human history . None of this is too complicated.