Is this your first time having sex? Or your first time having sex with a black colored penis?
This has to be a joke, why does the site tolerate stuff like this? Unreal
It's not wrong to ask questions..
Yes, she's unverified and the post history is suspect but this is still a sensible post. Not everyone has been out and wild their whole adult life and knows how to approach casual sex and/or multiple partners. It's better to look for guidance than run out pussy first and get hurt.
I have had so many people give me great advice here. I appreciate all of you and I know when I do finally do this I will be prepared and confident.
What I want to know is, how far do you actually go to vet potential partners for a one night stand? What are some of the warning signs I should be looking for?
Personally, I don't fuck with anonymous sex. I did when I was younger and had a lot less concern for my own safety and pleasure. Some random guy jack rabbiting on me for 7 minutes is no longer worth my time lol
If I'm vetting someone I spend legit time getting to know them online before I transition to real life. I want to be pretty damn sure I know who I'm meeting and what they're all about.
In terms of testing, because I've seen you mention it several times, the fact that someone is getting regularly tested and open to talking about it is going to tell you a lot more than actual results. Test results are a snapshot of a very specific moment in time, the person could go immediately from the clinic to someone's bed and catch something. Or they could assume they're getting a full panel when they're not - that's ridiculously common - standard testing doesn't check for HSV, mycoplasma, ureaplasma, etc. "Getting tested" pretty much always means HIV, HPV, Hep, gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis and occasionally trich. So someone could show you negative test results but still be carrying something harmful to you.
Yes, condoms suck, but IMO its not worth the risk unless you trust that person to be considering not only their own sexual health but yours and acting in your best interests. That's literally never going to happen with a one night stand.
In terms of vetting for safety against violence, use judgement like you would in any situation and trust your gut. How does this person respond when you say no to something (ex. sending a specific picture)? Are they respectful of your boundaries or do they continue to press you? If meeting in person, do you get a bad gut feeling? Pay attention to red flags.
