Respectfully, I never said anything about him having control over your marriage. I find it rather difficult to compare your wife being in bed with a human being to inserting an inanimate object into her body.
With a human being comes touch, warmth and reciprocation, a dildo offers none of those. I am not trying to debate you here, just having an intellectual discussion is all so please do not take offense to anything I say or think I am attempting to tell you that you are wrong.
When you introduce a third party into a relationship you take on their fantasies and feelings too! Then you have this thing called sexual chemistry where in the course of all this a woman, perhaps your wife, finds herself in bed with another man whose "energy" matches her own. I would think these are things a dildo cannot replicate.
