You cannot equate spiritual belief systems with secular accountability, that is an apples and oranges debate.Accountability and judgment play a vital role in every aspect of life.
Every employee is evaluated on their job performance. Sports teams are judged on their ability and performance.
The leaders of our government are held accountable by the people who elected them.
And the same is true for you and your friend if you consider yourselves as a Christian, Muslim, Jew, Hindor whatever .... etc.
Even with canonical rules it is still a very personal experience. Especially coming from another person trying to be judge and juror
I guarantee you 100% most of the people involved in pornography identify with a religious belief. By your logic there would be zero pornography in the world, including this website.
So... take your sanctimonial Ridiculousness and go play in traffic