SanDiegoBlack
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Who is usually the first to express their desire or fantasy for sharing themselves with a black man or couple? How do you let your partner know, and can you tell that they may be receptive to the idea?
How do white couples know they're both ready?
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Open and Honest Communication
Yep, @Acdcinmadison answered your question completely. No need to keep reading or further posts! Talk w each other. Be patient. Some topics may initially shock your partner. Years of stigma, sexual or religious oppression, and their own fears of exposure, judgement and more may result in initial hesitation. Take things slow, respect their thoughts, look for and discuss alternative options, and have fun on the journey.
partying and dancing at a club are pretty much a guarantee with mine.
For my wife and I, I had wanted her to get to that point but allowed her to decide who she wanted to talk to when it came time to actually pursue other men for her. She ended up realizing a sexual attraction only to black men and made it know which I very easily was on board with
They talk to each other… and be honest and respectful if they don’t agree.
We just communicated
SanDiegoBlack
Male
But no fear or trepidation as to how your partner (or you) would feel if they were shocked or surprised?
SanDiegoBlack
Male
One of you just brought the idea up, and the other agreed?
SanDiegoBlack
Male
Annie, out of the blue? One of you had to raise the idea to the other.
No. We got invited to a party and it turned out to be a swing party. It got us curious
I brought it up. Always been highly attracted to black men and considered them sexually superior but didn’t know there was a whole Hotwife/cuckold world out there. It was exciting and really turned me on thinking about having complete sexual freedom in my relationship, even to the point where I could use it to humiliate and degrade my loving partner. The power trip is incredible. Being free to actively betray the man I love by giving myself and my loyalty to someone else right in front of his face. Such a turn on.
We talked about it openly. He wasn’t turned on by it, but wanted to give me the sex life I craved. We slowly worked towards it, introducing stuff he did enjoy in stages and finding a way for him to be able to give me it without our relationship ever being in danger.
A long road but worth it. Can’t rush it. Never try to.
We talked about it openly. He wasn’t turned on by it, but wanted to give me the sex life I craved. We slowly worked towards it, introducing stuff he did enjoy in stages and finding a way for him to be able to give me it without our relationship ever being in danger.
A long road but worth it. Can’t rush it. Never try to.
I asked my wife her fantasies and she responded by telling me she wanted to be fucked by a big black cock because she struggle to orgasm with me. And when she began telling me more about it she knew when i was rock hard, she grabbed cock stroking and said i see you want me to be fucked by a big black cock too, and then i shot my load out.
Yes we spoke openly and honestly about our desires and fantatsies. My husband knew that I was attracted to black guys because I told him.
Joetana712
Couple
Was this before marrying him or after? I bet he was shocked and nervous at first. Any husband will be. We knew our life style from the beginning.
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SanDiegoBlack
Male
This is exactly the dynamic I was asking about. Who brings it up first? Is the other shocked? How did you agree, and how did you find the right man? Kinda exciting to hear about!
My husband bought the idea and a lot of mag
The wife and I started way back before we had a serious relationship. we were on a date we both were drinking and she brought the subject up. Now in all openness it was not specifically black men but more just that she liked multiple partners at the same time. I tried it... and hey, it was fun, and that sexual kink is still in our relationship to this day.
My wife has a degree somewhat related to sex so she has been very open about it from the start. My wife is rare. Society teaches women that its wrong to like sex and 95 percent of women are just not going to be open to the idea. Period.
I think if your already in a long term relationship and "sex with others" was not introduced from the beginning, your chances of the other partner being receptive to the idea are slim. In fact you may hurt the other partner by just bringing it up. These guys thinking they are just going to spring it on there wives.... that's a bad idea and your probably better off just fantasizing about it here.
My wife when we first started dating. As you can see... she was pretty open to things even way back then. Most people are not.
My wife has a degree somewhat related to sex so she has been very open about it from the start. My wife is rare. Society teaches women that its wrong to like sex and 95 percent of women are just not going to be open to the idea. Period.
I think if your already in a long term relationship and "sex with others" was not introduced from the beginning, your chances of the other partner being receptive to the idea are slim. In fact you may hurt the other partner by just bringing it up. These guys thinking they are just going to spring it on there wives.... that's a bad idea and your probably better off just fantasizing about it here.
My wife when we first started dating. As you can see... she was pretty open to things even way back then. Most people are not.
SanDiegoBlack
Male
Did he need to coax you, or had you already been thinking about it?
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