For me as a white guy it was steps. First when I was around 14, some friends and I were hanging out at one of their homes. One of the guys puts a tape into the vcr (so awhile back
). It was an amateur porn of this white woman and a black man. He took off his pants and it was a serious wtf moment, just a long fat black cock. Was just blown away. The woman in the movie was grinning from ear to ear. Eventually he's going to fuck her. There was no way she was going to that. It did take her some time but she did get it all in. The two things that I remember from that was the look on her face when he was really fucking her (she looked high, like she was in heaven) and how long he went before he came.
Flash forward two years, high school. This was kind of taboo then (80's) but there were several girls in our HS who were known to mess around with black guys. One of our buddies from youth football, black guy, got his fair share to say the least. He was hanging out with us one day after school when we asked him about the rumor with him and this one girl. We all thought there was no way she would go black. He said it was true. We started calling BS and what not. We're still sitting around talking and he had gone to the bathroom and come back. He's standing up with a grin on his face and asked, you ever wonder why I'm fucking theses girls? Well this is why and he pulls down his pants and a huge damn dick popped out. He was a skinny guy but he had to be 9" long and thick. He just shook it back and forth. He put his pants back on a sat down. I was at a loss for words. Sitting down you could see the outline down his pants. It really plants an image in your head. He said all he had to do was fuck one girl and the word got around. And turned out he really was fucking the girl we thought never would.
Now in my mid 20's and in my first serious relationship. We have a great sex life, do it all the time, like rabbits lol. Well many years into our relationship (late 20's), we're in bed getting intimate and she asks, have you ever thought about watching me with another man? I was shocked! Froze for a second. Wasn't sure where she was coming from. Of course I said hell no, why would I want that. She said it'd be hot. I wasn't having it. But inside a part of me got turned on by it.
Around 6 months later we're lying down and she said I need to talk. She said remember that business trip last week? I said yes. She really tried to be careful and not hurt me, but she said she slept with someone else. I froze. For like 2 minutes I just sat there. She said I'm so sorry and kept apologizing. I finally rolled over asked who was it, like I'd know some random guy from another city. She said a guy that worked at the bed and breakfast where she stayed. I asked her to tell me about him. Don't know why I wanted to know, just did. She said he was just this nice black guy she hung out with whole she was there, it just happened. When she said black guy the prior memories came back. I looked at her and just asked, so was he big? She just smiled and said why do you want to know that? I said I just do. She said why do you want to put yourself through this? Just tell me please. She paused and said, well, yes, he was big. I said how big, she turned away a little as if to hide it. She said over 8". I'm around 5.5". I asked so was it good, and you can be completely honest with me. She said well to be honest it was great. I'm not going to lie to you. Guess she could tell I was ok with the her opening up. So I roll back over on my back for a minute. Just lost in thought. I then after some reflection roll back over and looked her in the eyes and said you needed it didn't you. She was confused and said what do you mean? I said you needed his big black cock didn't you. She looked down and back up and said yes I did. I said you've needed that for awhile haven't you! She said for quite awhile. I don't go deep enough do I? She said I'm sorry baby you don't. We proceeded to have the best sex we'd ever had.
I realize why some wives entertain this. It is a real need. I never got to explore this with her because she moved due to work and I wouldn't move. But it planted a seed.