Have you tried this?

[Darkjumper]

So, I keep seeing all these different ways to make it known you are in the lifestyle, swinging especially. I want to know who has, especially the men, used any of the below and how successful was it. Or if you see any and approached the person.
. Upside down pineapple
. Wearing black ring on right hand
. having garden pampas grass outside your home
. wearing an anklet, toe rings, and thumb rings
. switching your wedding ring to the right hand
. white landscaping rocks
pink or purple decorations in the front garden.

 

[JJSMITHY54321]

Hotwifing is a subset of swinging but we don’t feel we have a lot in common with the swapping community so upside down pineapples are not for us. And QOS etc is too overt for her. Nobody notices anklets and we find her men online typically

Wife wore a small QOS temp tattoo on her ankle for an entire summer ... nothing!
She wore a QOS tattoo on her ankle and 'BBC only' on her butt cheek while in DR ... nothing!
Yes, the temp tattoos were small, but still ... nothing. She gave up.