Wow you’re story made me incredibly horny! I guess I’ll never know for sure how I’ll feel until it happens but I think I’m past the jealous stage of my life.
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First time. Not sure I liked it as much as I thought I would
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MikeMan
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Wow. You’re right. I didn’t think this through like I should’ve. I didn’t realize the emotional pitfalls before me. I thought it would be more like watching her use a sex toy. I thought I was ready but I wasn’t completely. Hindsight being what it is and all, I know more now than I did then. I would certainly go back and do things differently the first time if I could. Doesn’t mean I can’t learn from it and do better next time.
She played alone because I kept thinking, what am I going to do while they’re having sex? Bring them towels and refreshments? Honestly I did feel awkward when we all went upstairs. I felt like they didn’t need me there. This was my wife’s night and I’m just taking up space.
One thing that isn’t wavering is trust. Using someone she knows doesn’t bother me. Maybe she’s had a thing for him. I’m sure she started checking him out the day he started working there. He’s a good looking guy so I’m sure most of the RNs look at him. Anyway, thanks for the detailed reply.
MikeMan
Male
Sorry it isn’t more edgy. Doesn’t feel cliche to me
i definitely didn`t mean to make you uneasy with my post. i thought it would be good for you to be more attentive to matters of the relationship you and your wife have, and also see potential risks (like her falling in love with him, for instance). Especially, that it was to be expected how most of the forum members here would react to your story.
All the best wishes!
MikeMan
Male
i definitely didn`t mean to make you uneasy with my post. i thought it would be good for you to be more attentive to matters of the relationship you and your wife have, and also see potential risks (like her falling in love with him, for instance). Especially, that it was to be expected how most of the forum members here would react to your story.
It’s ok. I just realize I made some mistakes. I underestimated things but it’s just rookie mistakes. I appreciate the detailed and well thought out response on your part. Well, not the last line so much but everything else was helpful
tommyjames
Male
Sounds like a normal first time reaction. Communication is key. Let her know how you feel and she can engage you more with it. My question is, how different was she with him? Was she a lot louder, sounding very different? It's not always about the cock. Since she had a long time attraction to black guys, It could be the taboo of it, the color difference, smell, other things that made her love it. But if her reactions were a lot different as he fucked her, then she definitely enjoyed the cock more.
Did you 2 set boundaries BEFORE you did this? If so is she following them? If not you opened Pandora’s box and now have a decision to make. Either you live with her disrespecting you, or you leave her. I would NEVER do something to make my husband miserable. And every married woman knows how to hurt her husbands ego. Most never would because they love them. Some just don’t give a damn. Sounds like you have the latter. You don’t sound like you are a cuckold. Rather you seem to feel a mistake has been made. Obviously she doesn’t. So make up your mind and do what in the long term is the right thing for YOU. I can tell you that she is certainly going to do what she feels is best for her, regardless of how you feel. Not a good situation for you. Sorry sweetie, but she is a bitch! Good luck......
MikeMan
Male
No we didn’t really set boundaries. I can’t really think of anything I would say is off limits other than say going public, or getting emotionally involved. As far as the sex goes, they can do what they like. I wouldn’t enjoy being humiliated by any stretch so I suppose that too but that goes without saying.
I wasn’t worried beforehand about my feelings but they surfaced in a way I didn’t expect and that’s what I’m dealing with now. Wondering how normal it is or if most guys simply enjoy it without the negative feelings. I don’t think there’s a way to know how I’ll feel until it happens so there’s no way to prepare for that.
MikeMan
Male
I could tell how excited she was. We’ve discussed it to varying degrees for awhile so it was no secret to me that she likes black guys. She was really into the sex obviously. She was loud and very active. Reminded me of the way we fucked when we started dating. I’m glad she enjoyed herself, and happy I could help fulfill that fantasy. It just went longer than I expected and she’s ready to go again. So, I decide it’s too much too fast, I need to improve the communication. She’s been in a phenomenal mood since. She’s thanked me multiple times for being cool with her fantasy and we’ve had a good deal of sex the past couple days. So there’s plenty of good as well, I just need to get my head right. I’m not a jealous guy so this is all new to me.
If you “aren’t sure” you should never dive in. Opening Pandora’s box has many advantages and disadvantages that must be talked about beforehand, without naively thinking it’s all going to work out. Big mistake you made by assuming. Never assume
MikeMan
Male
This all happened over the weekend so it’s still very fresh. I don’t know if I specified that very well.
Today is the first day my wife and Terry are working the same day since Saturday night. He actually got my number from Tiff and text me. He thanked me for Saturday. He said he thought about it and wasn’t very engaging with me and wasn’t trying to be a jerk. He said he was nervous too. He didn’t know if he should talk to me or what. So I thought it was pretty solid of him to say that.
Today is the first day my wife and Terry are working the same day since Saturday night. He actually got my number from Tiff and text me. He thanked me for Saturday. He said he thought about it and wasn’t very engaging with me and wasn’t trying to be a jerk. He said he was nervous too. He didn’t know if he should talk to me or what. So I thought it was pretty solid of him to say that.
i hope so. - Wait, what is wrong with the last line? i think that was about the best part.
(just kidding) i`m honestly sorry about that. 
Every guy has gone through those feelings the first time! Most guys aren’t programmed in to just sharing thier gf’s or wives lol! Does it turn on us throughout the process, of course but then having happen and being reality is a different thing!
Like everyone said just talk to her, tell her how excited you feel but also how you feel about being slightly jealous! Maybe she will find that cute!
The only advice I would give is to try and limit their alone time! Even if you feel useless being in the room try and make it a couple thing and not just her and him! There is no reason why she can’t be sucking your dick if she is taking his big black cock from behind or you holding her hand while she gets fucked good!
Just try to make it about the 2 of you enjoying the lifestyle and tell her that!
So did you hand out wipes & towels afterwards?
Honestly the first thing that should have happened is that when those feelings started to creep in you should have pulled her to the side to tell her how it's making you feel. Now honestly the first time I did a threesome with my wife and another guy, my dick couldn't even get hard for more than 10 seconds. Jealousy and fear all hit at once. I made an environment that we could easily escape from so he only came once on her face. When we got in the car I told her how I felt and she reminded me that it was all my idea. I couldn't argue with the facts so I just talked to her about it and we decided weeks later to try again. Same guy and this time he came to our house. We all had fun and we both came on my wife's face. No bad feelings or jealousy just fun. You have to talk with her to figure out if it's something you want to do again. Maybe you'll get more fun out of it or maybe not. If even one person is out then the couple should be out. That's our rule.
One of the best responses so far. Absolutely. Make it a couple thing!
bound2bmine
Male
So this kind of thing happens if you're still into the lifestyle and you enjoyed it then it will get better over time. Now what I would worry about is if the wife becomes obsessed with this guy. And I would certainly be careful about allowing them to play alone for long periods of time or frequently during the week. I would definitely set up some sort of ground rules.
But besides that it all sounds pretty normal.
But besides that it all sounds pretty normal.
Absolutely. The golden rule even for "standard swingers". - Should be on top of all rules for every couple indulging in an adult lifestyle!
You can find it mentioned in many of the plenty lifestyle resources available online.
