I think the point is missing here. No wife can get or have power over her husband unless he wants her to have it. He has a will of his own, he is still in more control than is on the surface. Why would a man stay in a relationship and give his wife control if he didn't like playing the game. It is like these female led relationships that use punishment to control a husband. It is all a game turned into a lifestyle. Has anyone here ever heard of assault? If the man didn't accept it, then it is called husband abuse and the wife would go to jail.