We are a couple who has been doing the hotwife/ cuckold thing for a while now. Over our several encounters, many have been mediocre and a few have been just plain terrible. Only one bull so far has been a steady, and even he has hang-ups that are unappealing. While this lifestyle can be fun and entertaining, it's a lot of work. Searching, meeting, planning around multiple schedules, and often the juice simply is not worth the squeeze.
Has anyone ever gone through a period of just not enjoying the lifestyle? Did you take a break and come back eventually? If you made it through, what did you do to resolve your issues? Has anyone just gave up and made it just a fantasy?
Other aspects of life have often caused periods of inactivity, some for as long as a year, but we obviously have returned. On the other hand, if there should ever be a time when we don’t, that will be ok as well.
However, never have we lost sight of the fact that our relationship is of much greater significance than anything another person could bring to this, so maintaining our bond is of prime concern for us. We agree that involving others should never, ever be an answer or soliton to some marital difficulty or problem, so if it doesn’t add to the US, then we aren’t interested.
Your point about the searching, meeting, planning and different schedules is well taken, especially where the planning and schedules are concerned. Last minute changes are a first class pain in the butt.
For us, the searching, planning and meeting all have strong sexual overtones and are part of the fun and excitement. The flirting and sexual innuendos are very rousing, even if there is no sexual contact with a given person, but when another man joins us sexually it is beyond simple arousal. It’s spine-tingling, mind-blowing, electric and any other adjective that you can think of.
We hope this answers your question. If not, I guess the short answer is this: if it was no longer fun, if the problems outweighed the pleasure, then we would stop. Good luck to you guys!!
