Gfwatcher, I'd be curious to know what experiences you've had, thus far, in sharing your wife with other men. The reason is, watching videos or using black dildos and roll playing allows her to remain in the virtual/make-believe world without feeling threatened to perform.
If you've never shared her with other men (regardless of color, etc) you could be wasting your time with the videos unless you're content in that make-believe world. Actually "sharing her with other men" in the real world is quite a bit more intense & different.
If you haven't shared her as of yet, why not find a few adult lifestyle clubs and visit one of those with her. See how she AND you react when another man approaches her for a dance or buys her a ******* and wants some "small talk". If all works well, you might meet some suitable males right there at the club(s) to elevate things a bit more. Usually the clubs have recruiting & hospitality nights to find new members and it gives you access to the facilities to evaluate the club.
Introducing her to a "dark meal sex diet" when she hasn't extended her experiences past YOU might not work as good as you or her think and could interfere with your making any headway in the future.
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