All through my career as a Woman who absolutely loved having a lovely big black cock.
I never felt owned by my longest term black lover.
Neither was my Husband into Cages ,humiliation,etc.
He loved to have Me with my Black Lover, at the same time, which I must say I was quite partial to.
My black lover/lovers lasted for about 10 years ( Me age 48 to 58 I think ), I had a wonderful time, but it was mostly without my Husband there, He occasionally was allowed to watch or join in if He wanted to, But I would say He loved watching Me,being sexed.
We had a great time in the lifestyle, But sadly age catches up with you, Now both of us still married to each other and in our late 70,s.