There is something to be said for looking at human sexual relations through the lens of "nature". We're basically mammals who've invented iPhones and the internet (but still really just animals, right?). In nature (to state the obvious), females select Alpha Males and the other males accept this fact and take a step back (or even facilitate and support the union).
As a white male, I (for reasons that don't make rational sense) am completely turned on by the idea of a females being 'done' hard and rough by Alpha Males (and I think that we all agree that black men are sexually dominant). I'm a good looking, confident, successful guy but somehow love the idea of being submissive to black men. In short, we can't fight four and a half billions years of evolution. The 'selection' process continues. The sooner we accept it the happier we'll be. So yes bendy Sam, if we behave as nature intended, we'll all be happier.