You need to watch IR porn together. gauge her reactions.
Am I being irrational?
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I think it’s pretty clear what i want and that is for her to be able to have the option to have what she can’t with me...sexually i mean. The thought of her being fucked by another guy turns me on and I’m not gonna lie but also seeing her achieve an orgasm (I am not sure she has ever had one) is what I really want.
We have started to explore porn more often and we will eventually get there.
I applaud you in that you only want the best for her.
I do hope she does want you want and between you both can bring it about
with time and gentle coaxing with toys and watching genuine amateur wives video's
will perhaps crack her resolve as she actually see's real wives in action.
I wish you and your wife well and do hope it all works out for you both.
Thank you for all of your advice you have been extremely informative. All good things come in time and if it’s something we both enjoy then great but if not then all I can say is that I tried. This is not worth losing my marriage over so we will see how it plays out.
my respect for you knows no bounds for those beautiful comments
one can only try
there are many toys out there that can induce orgasm in a woman
with learning together how best to use them.
one I used was a big black cock dick sheath worn as a strap on
with my cock inside of it
that worked for us with a small pocket vibrator on her clit at same time had my lady squirting in her orgasms
love from an old guy in the UK
Wise words... when you know the value of your relationship/marriage and your partner that you won't sacrifice what you have for a sexual kink...
Some guys get so caught up in their kink that it becomes a fetish, they would even trade their partner/relationship for their mere sexual lust. Often regrets and shame only set in after they ruined a good thing already that used to be their life. Now that's real talk! Some guys fool themselves and others and try to pretend they want a lifestyle like that for their Women's sake/pleasure alone. That's complete B$... unless maybe the guy has no sexual drive himself or is / has become impotent.
This lifestyle is not for everyone! On the Woman's part it means she needs to bring a high sex drive to the table. - Sexual lust that makes her curious about and experimental with exploring new sexual territories.
If she has never had an orgasm, not even masturbates
, it can mean that she has a very low sex drive, or maybe even is an asexual person. That does not mean that she is less capable of or attracted to having a close relationship with you, the husband. It does not even mean that she cannot enjoy sex. But her achievements from hugging, kissing and having sex result in an increase of "bonding hormones" and satisfaction from having a close, loving relationship rather than sexual lust and its satisfaction.A.
If she belongs to that low-libido or asexual group of people she is probably perfectly honest when she says, your penis was satisfying for her (in every way she can be satisfied by a penis), and is simply put "not eligible" / not a candidate for the type of lifestyle you desire. Any move toward pushing her to do it nonetheless (which may result in her doing it for you) will ultimately make her feel that she (= what she really is and wants/needs) is not enough for you, will make her feel used by you (once she does it for real), and also feel big frustration instead of increased satisfaction. - A big threat not only for her self-confidence, mental and physical health and overall well-being but also for you as a couple and your relationship/marriage!
B.
On the other hand there is a group of low-libido people who would perhaps have a high libido but just don't know it for they simply haven't found "their thing" - what really gets them off - yet. (Remember: The biggest sexual organ is the brain!) In that case it is more about the process of finding what turns her on, plus establishing a subconscious link of her "(newly) found interests" with physical stimulation which in combination may lead her to experiencing an orgasm. Once achieved, it will become increasingly easier for her a second, third, fourth time, and so forth. (Female orgasms can be learned in some cases under specific circumstances.
)C.
Yet there is another "group" of people who do not feel comfortable/at ease with any sort of sexual stimulation or even feel shame from the feeling of achieved sexual pleasure. Typical reasons for that may be their upbringing including "norms"/moralities and sexual education that condemns liberation of personal sexuality (not seldom rooted in some religious belief). The result is sexual self-suppression with the same effect as mentioned above (very low libido or assumed asexuality). The "good" news: Those people have a lot of pent-up sexual energy, once unleashed, turning them into the sexual savage beast.
i can truly not tell you from afar, not knowing your wife at all, what her sexuality is about. The only ones with a chance of finding that out is her, and perhaps you, the husband. Good luck!
Wow, that’s a lot. I honestly don’t know what to say about all of this. I truly believe she is most likely related to B. We have had some intense sessions with toys and it took me a long time to get her to try any type of sexual aid. I am trying so hard to figure out what could possibly make her have an orgasm.Wise words... when you know the value of your relationship/marriage and your partner that you won't sacrifice what you have for a sexual kink...
Now that's real talk! Some guys fool themselves and others and try to pretend they want a lifestyle like that for their Women's sake/pleasure alone. That's complete B$... unless maybe the guy has no sexual drive himself or is / has become impotent.
This lifestyle is not for everyone! On the Woman's part it means she needs to bring a high sex drive to the table. - Sexual lust that makes her curious about and experimental with exploring new sexual territories.
If she has never had an orgasm, not even masturbates
A.
If she belongs to that low-libido or asexual group of people she is probably perfectly honest when she says, your penis was satisfying for her (in every way she can be satisfied by a penis), and is simply put "not eligible" / not a candidate for the type of lifestyle you desire. Any move toward pushing her to do it nonetheless (which may result in her doing it for you) will ultimately make her feel that she (= what she really is and wants/needs) is not enough for you, will make her feel used by you (once she does it for real), and also feel big frustration instead of increased satisfaction. - A big threat not only for her self-confidence, mental and physical health and overall well-being but also for you as a couple and your relationship/marriage!
B.
On the other hand there is a group of low-libido people who would perhaps have a high libido but just don't know it for they simply haven't found "their thing" - what really gets them off - yet. (Remember: The biggest sexual organ is the brain!) In that case it is more about the process of finding what turns her on, plus establishing a subconscious link of her "(newly) found interests" with physical stimulation which in combination may lead her to experiencing an orgasm. Once achieved, it will become increasingly easier for her a second, third, fourth time, and so forth. (Female orgasms can be learned in some cases under specific circumstances.
C.
Yet there is another "group" of people who do not feel comfortable/at ease with any sort of sexual stimulation or even feel shame from the feeling of achieved sexual pleasure. Typical reasons for that may be their upbringing including "norms"/moralities and sexual education that condemns liberation of personal sexuality (not seldom rooted in some religious belief). The result is sexual self-suppression with the same effect as mentioned above (very low libido or assumed asexuality). The "good" news: Those people have a lot of pent-up sexual energy, once unleashed, turning them into the sexual savage beast.
i can truly not tell you from afar, not knowing your wife at all, what her sexuality is about. The only ones with a chance of finding that out is her, and perhaps you, the husband. Good luck!
I just hope and pray she does not fall under your group A. I am an extremely sexual person who needs to have both a mental and physical connection with their partner. I could definitely live with her falling under group C as well.
be careful what you wish for. Once the genie is out of the bottle, you can’t put it back in.
Of course...just testing the waters.
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