Probably the most wise and insightful posts I have seen on this site. Hit the nail on the head!
We could really read a very objective view, since it is essential to take into account the basic psychological laws that may affect the future of a relationship!!
One of the most basic laws is that human behavior is based on the instinct world, the world of emotions is built on it, and finally comes the consciousness with the smallest part.
The other law is that a person's direct and indirect gesture will trigger an emotional reaction in another person, this is also true of various phenomena that also evoke some emotional effect in a person.
Examples could range from various forms of IR sex through Greenland tree planting to the India-Pakistan cricket match, because it all generates some kind of reaction in people!
I myself represent an open mentality in the field of sexuality. I've already had a relationship with a woman in a bad marriage, I had a relationship with a woman 20 years older than me, I also had a relationship with a rather unscrupulous kinky fat woman, Of course, I also had girlfriends who I was able to make to some degree sexually open, and now for almost 4 years I have had a constant relationship with a couple with whom threesome and cuckold sex make up our "repertoire", and I also have sex with wife separately in the bathroom and guest room, but the husband is only there in their home in another room who gave him his blessing..
It all started with a change in the husband’s sexual orientation, who, in addition to having delicious and hard sex with his wife, began to demand that he share his wife for personal masturbation so that his wife would have sex with someone else in front of him, and that she also experiences double penetration and the semen of another man in the context of threesome sex. Life is not a linear phenomenon, and because of this, the orientation of both parties does not change at the same time, which is why this desire was quite shocking in the beginning for a faithful woman living in a good marriage. It took months and years for the husband to sacrifice proper communication to make his wife a little more sympathetic to her renewed sexual desires. It took 8 years to break the psychological ice, which made a condition for the wife to engage in sex that is unusual for many: jointly search through a given erotic site the person who can be sympathetic to the wife both physically and mentally!!
Eve (wife's name) still loves her husband, and fulfills the desire of her husband out of love, but he doesn’t want to be just a sex toy for two men, he’s a third-party equal in sex. The two of them reached a consensus on their desires, and we met on a Hungarian sex site (all three are Hungarians). Private chat, e-mail, webcam date, and finally a face-to-face meeting , where mutual sympathy has become final.
We traveled to them by car, where we even discussed that the relationship with me should not cause any change in the status quo.
I went to take a shower, in the guest room the feminine wife was already waiting for me in a sexy fishnet dress, the husband was already naked and the first sex took place in the presence of the husband, for which he masturbated.
They held each other's hands during sex, they talked to each other in a romantic way and also kissed. Of course, wife and I also actively communicated with each other in several possible ways!!
The point was to connect the presence of husband and lover in the wife’s subconscious, and so open sexuality should be equal to the husband and not just the bull! When I go to them, the two of them spend the evening together, and I sleep in the guest room, which does not break the dynamics of marriage life between them! We have reached the stage of emotional evolution that there is essentially a multiromantic relationship between us on a heterosexual basis, which is a natural state for the three of us, as we nurture a friendly relationship with the husband!
The first time is amazingly important, and even after that, both members of the couple need to continue to be attracted to each other, for after the first time all things will change irreversibly!!