Why I'm A Cuckoldress

Congratulations on an excellent essay! After following your link and reading the piece, I admire your frankness. I hope that what you wrote will encourage more women to bring their fantasies to life rather than keeping them bottled up inside. Living the cuckoldress lifestyle is good for a woman's mental/emotional health as well as for her physical health. Unfortunately, the slut-shaming that you mentioned has been around for so long, dating back thousands of years. Your essay is a bold step forward, and it should encourage other women to be bolder in their own lifestyles.
 
Cuckoldry is here to stay. It's all over main stream media. A recent study found 58% of men and about a third of women are interested in this dynamic.

Here is my take: https://www.crystalwelch.com/blog/why-im-a-cuckoldress
I liked the article for the most part. It's always good to hear an experienced woman's input on the topic.
I don't know who Dan Savage is, but I didn't necessarily agree with his statement, "It's not cuckolding if there isn't an element of humiliation, degradation, or denial."
I'm a purist when it comes to the term "cuckold" because of what mainstream porn has done to the genre. They destroyed it. So a cuckold is purely defined as a man with a wife who has sex with other men.
To me, those three things are branches of the BDSM tree that are often associated with cuckolding.
Had he said, "Cuckolding often incorporates blah blah and blah", then I would have agreed.
 
I liked the article for the most part. It's always good to hear an experienced woman's input on the topic.
I don't know who Dan Savage is, but I didn't necessarily agree with his statement, "It's not cuckolding if there isn't an element of humiliation, degradation, or denial."
I'm a purist when it comes to the term "cuckold" because of what mainstream porn has done to the genre. They destroyed it. So a cuckold is purely defined as a man with a wife who has sex with other men.
To me, those three things are branches of the BDSM tree that are often associated with cuckolding.
Had he said, "Cuckolding often incorporates blah blah and blah", then I would have agreed.
Well said.
 
That is an excellent piece of writing. Well stated, and it is exciting to see a woman proclaim her desire to *want* a cuckold for a mate (and just as exciting for him to go into the relationship *knowing* he was going to be cuckolded). A couple of points stand out.

21st Century relationships are increasingly some form of consensual non-monogamy.

I definitely agree with this. Though it's anecdotal, I literally don't know anyone who is in a standard, monogamous relationship these days. I am in an open relationship, my two best friends are in open relationships, and my current GF's best friend is in a FLR where she's non-monogamous. I respect those who choose to live in a monogamous relationship, but given that sexual boredom is the single biggest contributor to cheating and a huge factor in divorces these days, it certainly seems like non-monogamy has a bright future.

I'd like to see more women become cuckoldresses than submissives...

I also absolutely agree with this. It just takes the right spark to ignite the fire of curiosity in women to want to explore the tremendous array of benefits available to them if they adopt a role as a cuckoldress and/or the lead in the relationship under an FLR. We need to find a way to proclaim this in a manner that is visible to more women, especially today's younger women.

I think it has also become much, much more acceptable for men, white men especially, to admit they're cuckolds and to accept that. My late wife and I had an open relationship, and I LOVED knowing she was getting laid by other men, especially by those much more endowed than I am. Men have long known that women have far greater capacity for sexual enjoyment (which is one reason why men have invested SO much time trying to control female sexuality), and so it just seems natural to allow them to embrace and act on their desires to achieve much greater satisfaction than they can achieve with a typical, small(ish) penised man. Fortunately, I had an ex who walked into my life with the specific intention of making me a cuckold, and we had an absolutely incredible sexual relationship (we still do, actually - she still comes over and has me eat her pussy whenever she's in the mood or when she's just been fucked by another man and happens to be in the neighborhood).

I accept and embrace my role as a cuckold, and am not embarrassed by it. If we could keep the term out of the political realm and the way it's being used today, I think things would proceed much more quickly, but we have to play the hand we're dealt.

Anyway, it'll be interesting to see how cuckoldry develops over the next few years.
 
I don't know who Dan Savage is, but I didn't necessarily agree with his statement, "It's not cuckolding if there isn't an element of humiliation, degradation, or denial."
I'm a purist when it comes to the term "cuckold" because of what mainstream porn has done to the genre. They destroyed it. So a cuckold is purely defined as a man with a wife who has sex with other men.
To me, those three things are branches of the BDSM tree that are often associated with cuckolding.
Had he said, "Cuckolding often incorporates blah blah and blah", then I would have agreed.

Absolutely agree with you on this. I read that line and literally winced. I was like, that's just not true. It often does, but certainly not always.
 
Cuckoldry is here to stay. It's all over main stream media. A recent study found 58% of men and about a third of women are interested in this dynamic.

Here is my take: https://www.crystalwelch.com/blog/why-im-a-cuckoldress
Only a third ? I would have thought more as more women and couples are "exploring" sexuality today . Some truth that this varies widely from place to place and social group . Tough to say women want more sex now but circumstances today do offer more opportunities to more women.
 
That is an excellent piece of writing. Well stated, and it is exciting to see a woman proclaim her desire to *want* a cuckold for a mate (and just as exciting for him to go into the relationship *knowing* he was going to be cuckolded). A couple of points stand out.



I definitely agree with this. Though it's anecdotal, I literally don't know anyone who is in a standard, monogamous relationship these days. I am in an open relationship, my two best friends are in open relationships, and my current GF's best friend is in a FLR where she's non-monogamous. I respect those who choose to live in a monogamous relationship, but given that sexual boredom is the single biggest contributor to cheating and a huge factor in divorces these days, it certainly seems like non-monogamy has a bright future.



I also absolutely agree with this. It just takes the right spark to ignite the fire of curiosity in women to want to explore the tremendous array of benefits available to them if they adopt a role as a cuckoldress and/or the lead in the relationship under an FLR. We need to find a way to proclaim this in a manner that is visible to more women, especially today's younger women.

I think it has also become much, much more acceptable for men, white men especially, to admit they're cuckolds and to accept that. My late wife and I had an open relationship, and I LOVED knowing she was getting laid by other men, especially by those much more endowed than I am. Men have long known that women have far greater capacity for sexual enjoyment (which is one reason why men have invested SO much time trying to control female sexuality), and so it just seems natural to allow them to embrace and act on their desires to achieve much greater satisfaction than they can achieve with a typical, small(ish) penised man. Fortunately, I had an ex who walked into my life with the specific intention of making me a cuckold, and we had an absolutely incredible sexual relationship (we still do, actually - she still comes over and has me eat her pussy whenever she's in the mood or when she's just been fucked by another man and happens to be in the neighborhood).

I accept and embrace my role as a cuckold, and am not embarrassed by it. If we could keep the term out of the political realm and the way it's being used today, I think things would proceed much more quickly, but we have to play the hand we're dealt.

Anyway, it'll be interesting to see how cuckoldry develops over the next few years.
Yes. Interesting to see how this develops as more mature women pursue more active sex lives as their current partners abilities decline . Nature is such a vicious beast and the little blue pill can only help so much .
 
Congratulations on an excellent essay! After following your link and reading the piece, I admire your frankness. I hope that what you wrote will encourage more women to bring their fantasies to life rather than keeping them bottled up inside. Living the cuckoldress lifestyle is good for a woman's mental/emotional health as well as for her physical health. Unfortunately, the slut-shaming that you mentioned has been around for so long, dating back thousands of years. Your essay is a bold step forward, and it should encourage other women to be bolder in their own lifestyles.
thank you for the acknowledgment. Encouraging other women is definitely a goal of my writing.
 
That is an excellent piece of writing. Well stated, and it is exciting to see a woman proclaim her desire to *want* a cuckold for a mate (and just as exciting for him to go into the relationship *knowing* he was going to be cuckolded). A couple of points stand out.



I definitely agree with this. Though it's anecdotal, I literally don't know anyone who is in a standard, monogamous relationship these days. I am in an open relationship, my two best friends are in open relationships, and my current GF's best friend is in a FLR where she's non-monogamous. I respect those who choose to live in a monogamous relationship, but given that sexual boredom is the single biggest contributor to cheating and a huge factor in divorces these days, it certainly seems like non-monogamy has a bright future.



I also absolutely agree with this. It just takes the right spark to ignite the fire of curiosity in women to want to explore the tremendous array of benefits available to them if they adopt a role as a cuckoldress and/or the lead in the relationship under an FLR. We need to find a way to proclaim this in a manner that is visible to more women, especially today's younger women.

I think it has also become much, much more acceptable for men, white men especially, to admit they're cuckolds and to accept that. My late wife and I had an open relationship, and I LOVED knowing she was getting laid by other men, especially by those much more endowed than I am. Men have long known that women have far greater capacity for sexual enjoyment (which is one reason why men have invested SO much time trying to control female sexuality), and so it just seems natural to allow them to embrace and act on their desires to achieve much greater satisfaction than they can achieve with a typical, small(ish) penised man. Fortunately, I had an ex who walked into my life with the specific intention of making me a cuckold, and we had an absolutely incredible sexual relationship (we still do, actually - she still comes over and has me eat her pussy whenever she's in the mood or when she's just been fucked by another man and happens to be in the neighborhood).

I accept and embrace my role as a cuckold, and am not embarrassed by it. If we could keep the term out of the political realm and the way it's being used today, I think things would proceed much more quickly, but we have to play the hand we're dealt.

Anyway, it'll be interesting to see how cuckoldry develops over the next few years.
thank you sincerely for your thoughtful response. Couldn't have said it better myself!
 
Wish there were more of them out there specifically looking for this. Also, do you or anyone know what a good site for that kind of thing would probably be? Maybe i would save myself some headache if i approached this a bit differently. Being single and wanting to experience this lifestyle seems extremely daunting to put it lightly
 
While the article did say "fantasy", it was used in the same way the word "fetish" would have been.
So I think perhaps they meant it in terms of a fetish, not a make believe
While the article did say "fantasy", it was used in the same way the word "fetish" would have been.
So I think perhaps they meant it in terms of a fetish, not a make believe.
Whatever that means? The article is what it is, someone’s fantasy, but there’s no statistics or proof there. Unless you take the writers word for it.
 
Not to derail the convo, but i wonder how many black women there are that enjoy being a cuckoldress. It would be pretty hot to have a black woman pretty much dominate you into watching her fuck black men. I know that isn't the theme of this place, but every color of woman is beautiful to me, and i think it'd be pretty sexy to watch. Wonder where you'd even go to find someone like that... fetlife? Being a black woman's slave would be pretty fun i'd imagine, and i'm sure they'd enjoy the chance to talk some ******* to white boys like everyone else does, lol.
 
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