Have you told hubby this will happen?
I think for many guys, saying something "WILL happen" or "You need to do............" takes them past that "hesitation" part of doing something bi. I know for my husbands first time taking a guy, I had to tell him it will happen on Friday when we meet up. He was very unsure at that point if he wanted to. Everyone is different on what kind of encouragement they need.I hesitate. But once told him to suck my vibe like a dick. He was quite good
Once they guy is past that point of if he wants to do it by you telling him it's going to happen, the when is much easier to deal with.