Looking for advice on how to best approach proceeding with my wife. Here's a quick backstory on where we are at (plus I know people enjoy reading about the journey).
To start the setting... It started in 2020. We are in our late 20's My wife (girlfriend at the time) discovered some porn on my phone. Specifically one of a Blacked video. She approached me about it but thought nothing of the specifics of it. To her it was just porn. This sort of set the rest in motion. From here I'll use bullet points as it can drag on.
- my gf and I have a good sex life. We were using toys (vibes, dildos, etc.)
- I knew she'd check my phone again out of curiosity to see if I was watching porn. This time I left my stash of bbc hotwife gifs/videos that were hidden, out in the open to stumble upon.
- she was upset. We had a big fight about it where I had to explain what it is, etc. Eventually she calmed down and she explained we need to share this kind of stuff with each other. Which is exactly what I wanted. Step 1 completed.
- I continued to "share" with her by showing her some spicy videos and gifs and explain hotwifing to her. She did not like the idea at all. But was okay with hearing about it.
- I bought us a black dildo to play with. Now she began to notice a pattern and started questioning why the men in the videos were usually black. I decided it's best to let her learn why on her own.
- we started a new trend that would carry-on till present day of sharing bbc gifs and videos with each other. Growing more and more into. We have probably sent over 1000 to each other now. And do it multiple days a week.
-fast forwarding a bit. The first year was slow. Bit of role-playing. Using the dildo, etc.
-then things really escalated, believe it or not, on our honeymoon to Jamaica (well planned on my part).
-at this point it should be noted the fantasy was well planted in the relationship. We have 5 black dildos. QoS tattoos that she would wear some nights. QoS panties, an anklet. All for roleplaying of course.
-in Jamaica she was obviously hot, heavy, lots of sex, we were on our honeymoon. Surrounded by sexy black men. I snuck 2 black dildos into a suitcase and pulled them out one night when we were *******. She was mad but wanted them badly. We ended up having crazy sex, what I believe was a huge turning point. She was so into it. Had multiple orgasms, fucked these dildos like she never had. Took control and ****** me to watch and was vocal and into it, saying things like imagine this is our butler etc... we would do this the next 2 nights on the trip as well.
-from then on our sex had literally always included the big dildos. She now wants them every time because of how hard they make her cum. We've got to the point where she's fucking a 9 inch long black didlo that's 6.5" thick for 30 minutes straight. And cums 2-3 times with "the best orgasms she's ever had".
-recently on a girls night, a couple of black guys hit on her at the bar. Despite having my permission she still has no interest in the real thing it seems. She jokingly sent me pics of her and them smiling and sitting beside each other. But that's all that happened. She told them she's married and wouldn't do anything more (disappointing).
Where I'm at with this is, we are so deep into the fantasy but this woman loves me way too much and just has way too much anxiety about it ever really happening. How can we proceed?
We have 5 black dildos, QoS tattooes and underwear and anklets. Share bbc hotwifing gifs, videos, stories all the time. Talk about the fantasy at least 5 days of the week. Every time we have sex she fucks a big black dildo. We make jokes and induendoes all the time. She tells me which black guys on TV she thinks are hot. She tells me when a black guy hits on her at the bar and even teases me and i've been watching her glow up in front of me. But according to her has zero interest in it ever being more than a fantasy.
At this point I know how far we've come and I can't ******* it. My only hope is to book a vacation and hope when she's ******* at the club, fate will play its hand and something happens.
Thank you for reading. Hope you enjoyed and if you have any tips, feel free to comment.
To start the setting... It started in 2020. We are in our late 20's My wife (girlfriend at the time) discovered some porn on my phone. Specifically one of a Blacked video. She approached me about it but thought nothing of the specifics of it. To her it was just porn. This sort of set the rest in motion. From here I'll use bullet points as it can drag on.
- my gf and I have a good sex life. We were using toys (vibes, dildos, etc.)
- I knew she'd check my phone again out of curiosity to see if I was watching porn. This time I left my stash of bbc hotwife gifs/videos that were hidden, out in the open to stumble upon.
- she was upset. We had a big fight about it where I had to explain what it is, etc. Eventually she calmed down and she explained we need to share this kind of stuff with each other. Which is exactly what I wanted. Step 1 completed.
- I continued to "share" with her by showing her some spicy videos and gifs and explain hotwifing to her. She did not like the idea at all. But was okay with hearing about it.
- I bought us a black dildo to play with. Now she began to notice a pattern and started questioning why the men in the videos were usually black. I decided it's best to let her learn why on her own.
- we started a new trend that would carry-on till present day of sharing bbc gifs and videos with each other. Growing more and more into. We have probably sent over 1000 to each other now. And do it multiple days a week.
-fast forwarding a bit. The first year was slow. Bit of role-playing. Using the dildo, etc.
-then things really escalated, believe it or not, on our honeymoon to Jamaica (well planned on my part).
-at this point it should be noted the fantasy was well planted in the relationship. We have 5 black dildos. QoS tattoos that she would wear some nights. QoS panties, an anklet. All for roleplaying of course.
-in Jamaica she was obviously hot, heavy, lots of sex, we were on our honeymoon. Surrounded by sexy black men. I snuck 2 black dildos into a suitcase and pulled them out one night when we were *******. She was mad but wanted them badly. We ended up having crazy sex, what I believe was a huge turning point. She was so into it. Had multiple orgasms, fucked these dildos like she never had. Took control and ****** me to watch and was vocal and into it, saying things like imagine this is our butler etc... we would do this the next 2 nights on the trip as well.
-from then on our sex had literally always included the big dildos. She now wants them every time because of how hard they make her cum. We've got to the point where she's fucking a 9 inch long black didlo that's 6.5" thick for 30 minutes straight. And cums 2-3 times with "the best orgasms she's ever had".
-recently on a girls night, a couple of black guys hit on her at the bar. Despite having my permission she still has no interest in the real thing it seems. She jokingly sent me pics of her and them smiling and sitting beside each other. But that's all that happened. She told them she's married and wouldn't do anything more (disappointing).
Where I'm at with this is, we are so deep into the fantasy but this woman loves me way too much and just has way too much anxiety about it ever really happening. How can we proceed?
We have 5 black dildos, QoS tattooes and underwear and anklets. Share bbc hotwifing gifs, videos, stories all the time. Talk about the fantasy at least 5 days of the week. Every time we have sex she fucks a big black dildo. We make jokes and induendoes all the time. She tells me which black guys on TV she thinks are hot. She tells me when a black guy hits on her at the bar and even teases me and i've been watching her glow up in front of me. But according to her has zero interest in it ever being more than a fantasy.
At this point I know how far we've come and I can't ******* it. My only hope is to book a vacation and hope when she's ******* at the club, fate will play its hand and something happens.
Thank you for reading. Hope you enjoyed and if you have any tips, feel free to comment.
