Talking about penis size

[AllyG]

So hubs and I may be trying again after a two year break. He's still not sure if he identifies more as a cuck or stag.. I'm guessing cuck because I am fairly positive that he would like for me to encourage he please our bull, he's just afraid to ask for it. (See 2nd pic and tell me what you think?)

But I mostly want to know is how do I talk to my husband about penis size without feeling like I'm downright being mean. I love my husbands penis, but I also love the feeling of a girthier one as well. When I was seeing my last bull, I was always so eager to feel his thick cock that I would cum upon penetration. I'm nervous to tell my husband things like this because sometimes when I have given into requests in the past, they've backfired and he expressed anger, shame, sadness, etc. It really makes me feel bad because it takes courage for me to try all these desires for him, and then his reaction makes me feel like I messed up, I did something wrong. But if he keeps bringing it up, obviously he wants it?

It's all so confusing and I don't want to do the wrong thing.

 

[hotknkycpl8081]

Honest communication before and after.
This sounds like he really is excited and wants to be your cuck before but he's flooded with shame and guilt after the deed is done.
Have you thought about getting him into a male chastity device?
You controlling when, where and how he gets off could be a good way take the self imposed shame, guilt and pressure off of him.

 

[AllyG]

Honest communication before and after.
This sounds like he really is excited and wants to be your cuck before but he's flooded with shame and guilt after the deed is done.
Have you thought about getting him into a male chastity device?
You controlling when, where and how he gets off could be a good way take the self imposed shame, guilt and pressure off of him.

Yes, and when I finally let him out he came very quickly. I didn't mind, I had enjoyed teasing him and felt very powerful after this (which took me having to muster up the courage to take on a more dominate role) ... He let the feeling of shame consume him though.

 

[hotknkycpl8081]

Yes, and when I finally let him out he came very quickly. I didn't mind, I had enjoyed teasing him and felt very powerful after this (which took me having to muster up the courage to take on a more dominate role) ... He let the feeling of shame consume him though.

That's too bad. It's all part of it though.
Sounds a lot like I was though.
Deep down he craves it all but without consistent cultivation of his submission to your authority his mind will slip back into wanting to be "the man of the house" again

 

[AllyG]

That's too bad. It's all part of it though.
Sounds a lot like I was though.
Deep down he craves it all but without consistent cultivation of his submission to your authority his mind will slip back into wanting to be "the man of the house" again

Interesting... So it's not like the stag and vixen who can let the lifestyle lay dormant for lengths of time, and come back to it... whenever??

Cuckolding requires consistency.

 

[hotknkycpl8081]

Perhaps think about breaking down his walls a little more with feminization play, pegging.. stuff like that.
Don't let him out to get satisfaction of orgasming like a man.
Use Prostate massage or a wand vibrator on his chastity device until he squirts.

 

[AllyG]

What about us couples in the gray area between these lifestyles? Obviously he leans more towards cuck - but I still want him to maintain respect within the dynamic. Just because I believe he will clean my juices off a bull at my request (and be secretly thrilled I asked) .. I don't want him to think that our bull feels superior to him in any way other than pleasing me.

 

[hotknkycpl8081]

What about us couples in the gray area between these lifestyles? Obviously he leans more towards cuck - but I still want him to maintain respect within the dynamic. Just because I believe he will clean my juices off a bull at my request (and be secretly thrilled I asked) .. I don't want him to think that our bull feels superior to him in any way other than pleasing me.

Why does it have to equal a loss of respect?
Mistress and I enjoy sooo much kinky stuff and I always feel loved and valued

 

[Greedywifehole]

So hubs and I may be trying again after a two year break. He's still not sure if he identifies more as a cuck or stag.. I'm guessing cuck because I am fairly positive that he would like for me to encourage he please our bull, he's just afraid to ask for it. (See 2nd pic and tell me what you think?)

But I mostly want to know is how do I talk to my husband about penis size without feeling like I'm downright being mean. I love my husbands penis, but I also love the feeling of a girthier one as well. When I was seeing my last bull, I was always so eager to feel his thick cock that I would cum upon penetration. I'm nervous to tell my husband things like this because sometimes when I have given into requests in the past, they've backfired and he expressed anger, shame, sadness, etc. It really makes me feel bad because it takes courage for me to try all these desires for him, and then his reaction makes me feel like I messed up, I did something wrong. But if he keeps bringing it up, obviously he wants it?

It's all so confusing and I don't want to do the wrong thing.

Most husband's love to here about their wives penises size preferences , our relationship is the wife loves the feeling her smaller husband's penis after a huge bull been fucking her . She orgasms not from feeling her small husband's dick but rather from not feeling it . It gives the wife a great sense of freedom and peace and of course control lol . A good cuckold hubby trys to make his penis and balls as small and humiliating as possible as to enhance his wife's sexaul gratification. Also size matters when the wife is with her bulls lovers , co workers and her big dick boyfriend's . because she closes her eyes and pictures her husband's small penis as a larger more verile huge bull dick enters her ! The thought of her loving husband's tiny penis causes her to immediately orgasm on arger men !! Mmmm

 

[cuckQuixote]

@AllyG Reading the texts he sent he sounds very much like a Cuck who is not comfortable with his fantasies. I recommend that you openly discuss this and emphasize that all our fantasies are fine and who we play in the bedroom does not fully define us.

My husband is a type A professional leader at work but craves humiliation. I'm much more reluctant to invite a bull to humiliate him than he is. He is comfortable with his kink.

Open discussion that you live your man but that this can be a game you play together to feed his cuckold desires can hopefully help him accept more of this.

 

[AllyG]

Why does it have to equal a loss of respect?
Mistress and I enjoy sooo much kinky stuff and I always feel loved and valued

I think that's his biggest issue.. he says he is afraid I'll think less of him. I've assured him I don't, but that also feeds into my dilemma of how to humiliate him without making him feel I think less of him.

 

[hotknkycpl8081]

I think that's his biggest issue.. he says he is afraid I'll think less of him. I've assured him I don't, but that also feeds into my dilemma of how to humiliate him without making him feel I think less of him.

After care. Lots of reassuring him of his worth.

 

[hotknkycpl8081]

I know that could be tiresome

 

[cuckQuixote]

That's where openly talking about it helps this is a game you both play to have more fun with each other

 

[AllyG]

Most husband's love to here about their wives penises size preferences , our relationship is the wife loves the feeling her smaller husband's penis after a huge bull been fucking her . She orgasms not from feeling her small husband's dick but rather from not feeling it . It gives the wife a great sense of freedom and peace and of course control lol . A good cuckold hubby trys to make his penis and balls as small and humiliating as possible as to enhance his wife's sexaul gratification. Also size matters when the wife is with her bulls lovers , co workers and her big dick boyfriend's . because she closes her eyes and pictures her husband's small penis as a larger more verile huge bull dick enters her ! The thought of her loving husband's tiny penis causes her to immediately orgasm on arger men !! Mmmm

Not so for me. I love my husbands penis and want to be intimate with him. I want to be able to still enjoy sex with my loving husband from time to time, without any of the cuckold dynamics involved.

 

[cuckQuixote]

Tell him you respect his williness to open up about this fantasy and you want to explore it with him

 

[cuckQuixote]

Set a certain day of the week or a certain hours to play cuckold than end. It and be loving wife

 

[AllyG]

Not so for me. I love my husbands penis and want to be intimate with him. I want to be able to still enjoy sex with my loving husband from time to time, without any of the cuckold dynamics involved.

And I certainly don't want him to make his penis smaller. His penis feels amazing as is.. I love the feel of him inside me and certainly don't want to ever "not feel him"

 

[AllyG]

I know that could be tiresome

Very! Thank you. I just want to get a better understanding of his desires, for so long he's kept stuff from me for fear I'll think less of him as a man, that I don't even know if I'd recognize the complete truth if I heard it lol

 

[hotknkycpl8081]

Very! Thank you. I just want to get a better understanding of his desires, for so long he's kept stuff from me for fear I'll think less of him as a man, that I don't even know if I'd recognize the complete truth if I heard it lol

Yes. You have to keep communicating until it's all out in the open.